always to jealous?

Question

i am so jealous it is going to hurt my marriage. i get upset with everything my husband does i am too the point were i almost want him to quit his job cause of the girls he works with. i don't know why i am like i am. but i don't know how to control it either. it just hurts me so bad watching him look at other girls even if it is on tv. does anyone have any ideas how to control it. cause it is hurting me deep inside and hurting my marriage. i am always asking him if he is cheating and why was he talking to her. so on so on. i know down deep he would never cheat, but i always feel like he is or wants too.

Answer 1

You need to work on yourself as I am sure you already know. But is there anything that has led you to feel this way...either exhaggerated actions or words on the part of your husband? Either way, you have to learn to get it in check because not only is it hurting your husband, but it is tearing you apart. Jealousy is a normal part of every relationship and I feel can be a good part as long as it doesn't negate everything else. Maybe go seek counseling because they can help you work through whatever selfworth issues you are having. Good luck.

Answer 2

I am also a very jealous wife, but not to the point that I want him to quit his job (we do need the $$) anyway, It is hard to control. You just have to learn to trust him. It took me a while, but we have been married for 91/2 years now, and I am getting over some of the jealousy...talk to him about it, does he know that you are that jealous?? Maybe try to talk to a close friend or pastor or counseler about it...Good luck to you

Answer 3

Could you be a past cheater or cheating now yourself? When women ask similar question's on here about how jealous their husbands are they get 60 answers about how he must be a cheater and it's his guilt of his own infidelity. Don't know if that's your problem or not.

Answer 4

If you know he is faithful why do you worry so much. I'm sorry but you are going to lose your husband if you and I said you don't get help. You have a very deep insecurity and because of this you are very insecure when it comes to your husband. I suggest you get help as soon as possible and talk to your husband about how you are feeling.

Answer 5

The only reason for this exaggerated jealousy is low self esteem. You need to get out into the world and get a job. Gain some confidence! The jealousy will lessen . . . .

Answer 6

I think u should just get over it. a guy is always going to look at every female, but knowing that he is yours shouldn't bother u. I mean don't u look at other guys sometimes. Just let him know how u feel. Find something for u to do so u don't think about it too much! Good Luck!!!!

Answer 7

Jealously is the ingredient that will tear a marriage apart,you need to lighten up on that or you will drive him away.

Answer 8

i know exactly what you mean..sometimes he plays a joke of jealousy about work and etc...but its hard to just get rid of it just like that work your way up slowly theres no rush marriage is forever...so when you get jealous at him try to act like your not upset try to take it as a joke but make sure you express yourself that you feel jealous cus you love him that much that you want him all to yourself...

Answer 9

Just keep yourself looking good and work on that confidence.
Some people like to watch people. It doesnt mean he wants every woman he sees.

Answer 10

you need to talk to him, you have a problem and need to get some help, he will be your greatest supporter. you need to love yourself as much as you love you husband. no one can do it for you so you might want to go to therapy and gain the tools that you will need to feel better about you. your husband can't do it for you but you will still need him to talk to.