For one, was online YEARS ago and met a girl who is like 7 years younger. And they talked off and on for about 5-6 years. He kept wanting to meet her but she kept refusing because he was/is married with two kids. He kept getting frustrated and would constantly get mad at the girl for not meeting him. Anyways, just recently the guy texted this girl and said he felt stupid and hopes nothing comes of the situation. He said he didn't want to go into what happened but he asked why he always thought of himself first. So the girl assumed he went and cheated on his wife with another woman only when she hinted at it, he said it wasn't what he did, it's more of what happened. Then she hadn't seen or heard from him in weeks. Now from the sounds of it, he got in big trouble with his wife but why would he want to do something like that if he was/is married? Why wouldn't he end it with his wife if he is/was not happy?
2007-05-10 07:05:26 · 14 answers · asked by the_wicked_itch_of_the_west 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yeah but if your unhappy why wouldn't you want to end it ?? I've been told they both make the same amount of money so they'd be set if they split. Just seems to bizarre that he'd continue trying to get with this girl when he knows she won't meet him unless he's single but he won't divorce his wife. It just boogles my mind that he rather stay in a marriage that makes him unhappy. I realize it's selfish but it'd make everyone's life ten times better if he went and made himself happy without cheating.
2007-05-10 07:13:16 · update #1
I believe he is a pervert but both the girl and this guy are of age so it's not child abuse. It just irritates me that he's so into getting what he wants when he can't even make himself happy. I wouldn't care about the cost of a marriage, the kids would benefit because if I was married and unhappy, I'd be bitchy and mean but if I divoced and I saw my kids, I'd be the happiest person alive. It's a win win situation...
2007-05-10 07:17:15 · update #2
Read a few of the questions on here and you will soon find out that many people - men in this case - will do whatever they can get away with whether they are married or not. To end it with his wife would mean he would actually have to be honest with her & himself that he is a loser, and then he would have to do his own laundry, and cook for himself, and even though he complained about never getting any he would be all by himself now with no one to complain to & about.
2007-05-10 07:11:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if you are a minor and he is more than 3 years older than you (depending on what state you live in) it can be considered child abuse for him to contact you in this way! It's illegal, in other words.
Secondly, if a man is married and has kids--just leave him alone. It is just way too much drama and is just too crazy.
Thirdly, getting a divorce is often expensive and when kids are involved it can be very complicated and serious. The man may also be playing both side of the fence and just wanting to have a fling and not really wanting to end his marriage.
Lastly, He may just be a pervert. Ditch him!
2007-05-10 14:14:02 · answer #2 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People do stupid, selfish things all the time. Divorce can be VERY costly (financially, as well as emotionally) so some find it easier to cheat and hope they don't get caught, than to do the right thing and end one relationship before going out to play with others.
2007-05-10 14:09:49 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not that easy to just end it with a marriage. Don't ever get hooked up with a married man. Because more than not all they care about is themselves and they are not looking for a long term anything. Drop him.
2007-05-10 14:10:07 · answer #4 · answered by amy d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants his cake & to eat it too. He wants the wife figure for home & a naughty sex kitten on the side. He sounds un -happy w/ himself & not his marriage. They're both wasting each others' time. He wants to cheat & if she does it, not to expect nothing more than sex.
2007-05-10 14:34:37 · answer #5 · answered by J Doe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy! Sure is a lot of talk about cakes! The man you described is a philandering idiot. He comports himself and his life in this manner because he doesn't have the intellect for more refined relationships, and he will never achieve self actualization. He is to be pitied, and avoided.
2007-05-10 14:15:22 · answer #6 · answered by John Timothy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because men want there cake and eat it too I know of a married man who has been haveing an affair for 20yrs with the same women but has always said he will never leave his wife and wont leave her alone men are pigs thats why
2007-05-10 14:10:20 · answer #7 · answered by chadjuly4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most men are happy with their wives its just when it comes to sex (got this out of cosmo lol) after awhile it starts to become routine and kind of boring and lose the lust that was their when they first met. This makes people look for others to "spice up" the sex life and the newness makes it good too... ( i wouldnt know though this is just out the magazine)
2007-05-10 14:11:32 · answer #8 · answered by J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to Mary Tyler Moore...your first answerer....that's the best advice you'll get. Why dissect it?
2007-05-10 14:15:01 · answer #9 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men are just dogs. He wanted to have his cake and eat it too.
2007-05-10 14:09:28 · answer #10 · answered by akristel2003 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋