a mothers day gift from ur ex husband? He claims he still loves me but Im totally not in love with him anymore but part of me feels that I should accept the gift either way because of my children (it was my daughter that told me what her fathers idea was for my mothers day). What should I do?
2007-05-10 05:58:19 · 14 answers · asked by memyslf&I 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He isn't giving you a mothers day gift for any other reason then he wants to get back into your good graces. After all you are not "his" mother. If you accept it, know it comes with strings attached. He will be coming around again soon and expects the gift to have bought him something from you. It's your choice what that "something" is, however don't forget that old saying: "nothing is free".
If you want to get back with him, take the gift as it is meant. However if that is not the case, call him and let him know upfront that you will only be accepting the gift so your daughters feelings will not be hurt. That the gift isn't buying him anything with you. If you don't do that, you will be accepting his terms for the gift whether or not you want too. Sorry but that is the way it works. Your only other choice is to turn the gift down at the time, that is a good choice if you are willing to take the heat...
2007-05-10 09:52:34 · answer #1 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your daughter gives it to you or he gives it to you with her there - accept it - thank him and make more about the gift comming from you daughter - thank her, give her a big hug and tell her you love her. You dont want your daughter to feel you are rejecting a gift that is suppose to be from her even if it was his idea..... Make the gift about you and the daughter! Don't be rude to your ex but just say thank you and let it go.
2007-05-10 13:05:31 · answer #2 · answered by JC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a mother...and you did bare his children...if I were you I would accept the gift. It is his way of saying thank you for bringing our daughter into this world
2007-05-10 13:01:43 · answer #3 · answered by The_Morbid_One 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know where you are coming from. My situation is not exactly the same. My ex had an affair and lied to me over and over. I do not want anything from him ever again.
However, last night my son told me he bought me a gift for Mother's Day and it was his Dad's idea. I acted surprised and pleased - for my son's sake. It is all about him after all.
2007-05-10 13:16:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That kinda depends on the gift. I might not want to encourage him if there is no hope of getting back together. I feel bad for the kids but if its not meant to be then you should probably just set him straight and not take gifts in the future.
2007-05-10 13:02:08 · answer #5 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would absolutely accept the gift. You will always be the mother of his children and imho he should recognize it on Mothers Day esp. if your children are young. If he starts trying to gift lingerie on valentines then I would not accept though. :)My opinion is that if it would be appropriate to gift between "just friends" then its ok with ex's since ideally ex's with kids should remain friends. blessings.
2007-05-10 15:05:14 · answer #6 · answered by undone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not, it is a gift mainly from your daughter that your husband chose for you. Most fathers do this all the time. Be very gracious and act happy when taking it from it. You do have a daughter together, so why make things unhappy for her?
2007-05-10 13:42:07 · answer #7 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Graciously accept the gift from him. He is being thoughtful of you sense your are the mother of his child/children.
2007-05-10 13:08:17 · answer #8 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well hmmm, I think you should accept it and put it on ebay. Some guys just doin't know when its game over!! His turn ended when you caught him in bed with your best friend. Oh wait. That wasn't the question was it? Sorry.
2007-05-10 13:23:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bought my ex presents for our sons until they got older, I did it so the boys would have something to give their mother , not to get back with her. You can't hardly turn down a present your child presents to you.
If he tries to give it to you instead of your child refuse, if he offers anything, his self refuse. But you really can't hurt your daughter if she brings it to you
2007-05-10 13:05:11 · answer #10 · answered by walker9842 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋