Me and my husband are getting a divorce. He is trying to stay married with me as long as possible, and I'm done. He keeps pushing court dates, now is making me pay him his cell phone, washer dryer he bought....ect because he has no job. I don't know how to prevent him from trying to take all my money, and i just want out. I cant support my kids and him.
2007-05-10 05:00:07 · 34 answers · asked by Venus 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
lawyer.
2007-05-18 01:37:56 · answer #1 · answered by lsp 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Haven't you seen a lawyer yet? Do you have custody of the children? Let the cell phone bill go. The same for the washer and dryer. Why are you paying for these things? Get to a lawyer fast. If you have a lawyer, and he's not making all this nonsense stop, get a new lawyer. He can make all this stop. Open an account with just your name and maybe your mother's or someone you can trust. That should shield it from him. Don't let him know anything about it.
2007-05-15 06:33:17 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think even if he bought the washer and dryer and it's in his name also for the cell phone, as long as your still married you are liable for the bills. You do seriously need to consult a lawyer for the best advice.
2007-05-17 17:03:52 · answer #3 · answered by Sugar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex wanted support, wanted alimony, wanted me to pay his insurance , wanted me to keep his name on anything that he did not have in his name only . The list went on and on and he was the one committing adultry with my youngest sister. He had not worked since 1990 . He was disabled Ha Ha he could ride his motorcycle across the US by himself.
My lawyer wanted me to give him this and give him that and I send one paper over and thank God he did not sign it. I got a detective to proof what I needed. I found out the bum had forged 6 notes against our home. I told my lawyer what I would give him half the house, his truck and motorcycle , 1/2 our art collection and nothing else. He did not get half my 401K, I get his retirement when he dies. I kept my mothers house which I had purchase from my brothers and sisters when my mother died . I keep my home and my car . No alimony and do not pay his insurance. If he did not agree I would take him to court for forgery. My lawyer told me he would never except it HE DID!!!!!! Listen to your lawyer, but listen to your heart and mind. I am so glad I did. If you don't try you will never know what will happen. STop the bum now. The courts can stop it get a lawyer.
2007-05-10 05:19:47 · answer #4 · answered by springer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Restraining Orders can prevent an individual from nearly any activity that might harm you, including emptying bank accounts, selling property, canceling credit cards, harassing telephone calls, diverting mail and other similar activities. Restraining orders are only issued in conjunction with some type of civil suit. They are intended to keep the status quo until the civil suit is heard or settled by the Court. Restraining orders are most commonly sought in connection with a suit for divorce. You should seek private legal counsel for assistance.
2007-05-10 05:16:19 · answer #5 · answered by Texas Happy Horn 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I went through the same thing with my ex (thank God I didn't marry him). Choke up the disconnection fee (about $200) and have his cell cut off so you don't have to pay the bill. If the washer and dryer are in your name but you can't afford to pay for it... sell it on eBay and pay it off. You'll loose some money this way, but not nearly as much as if you let him play you.
2007-05-10 05:08:26 · answer #6 · answered by Miranda 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need a court order that says any bills he accrues after you filed for divorce are his responsibility. For the cell phone - if your name is on it cancel it and if it isn't stop paying and they will shut it off.... Take you name off of all credit cards that are joint with him... call the company's and tell them you are separated and want no new charges allowed or close them and just continue paying the balance. He is a grown man... time to grow and support himself. Good luck and stop paying his bills - you need to separate your finances. Open a checking account in just your name so he can't access your money!!
2007-05-10 05:06:26 · answer #7 · answered by JC 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Who has moved divorce petition in court? If he has give consent for the same. Ask him to take cash for articles he has purchased and get reed of him. If you are defendant Request the court to grant him divorce. Dont pay the origal cost of the articles. I know about Indian laws only.
2007-05-16 18:30:18 · answer #8 · answered by baba 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you had a decent lawyer theres not a chance in hell you would be having to repay for items you acculated together, especially since you are now the sole financial provider for his kids, in which HE should be PAYING for as well....
Those items are for the childrens benefit...ie washer to clean their clothes, cell phone to be available at all times for you kids...
my advice get a lawyer and if you already have one fire him and get a better one...
I just went through a 2 year custody battle, i know all the ropes, and its wrong your having to pay him ANYTHING!
2007-05-16 07:08:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you paying for him? Do you feel guilty about something? What does he have hanging over you? You are not obligated to him financially, especially if you have the children. I understand that he was your husband, and no one wants to see someone the once loved doing bad, but he is a grown man. Allow him to be grown. Cut the apron strings and tell him he is on his own.
The word "no" is very effective.
2007-05-10 05:08:56 · answer #10 · answered by swilson_lewis 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as the things he's requiring that you pay for aren't in your name, you shouldn't be held financially responsible. You should contact those companies and let them know you're legally separated and include a copy of the court documents showing the date of separation. Then if he wants to run up huge bills and screw up his credit that's his problem.
Also, contact your attorney and tell him/her what's going on. There may be a legal injunction that can be enacted to prevent further harassment on your ex's part.
2007-05-10 05:09:08 · answer #11 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋