My husband and I were at a concert with a bunch of friends and ran into my ex I previously dated before him (7 years ago).
Ex was extremely drunk but everything was civil and friendly. Then he procedes to go into a rant to my husband how if it wasn't for him that I would still be his girlfriend and how he wishes we were still together. My husband gets really upset and lays him out. I was upset with my husband and thought he overreacted because I didn't take my ex seriously at all due to his drunkeness. Did I underreact or did he overreact?
2007-05-10 06:35:12 · 15 answers · asked by Fool in the Rain 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The ex never once spoke badly about me, it was the opposite actually. Don't think it was a quest for my honor. I was upset with my husband for letting that jerk get to him. It also makes it sticky because the ex is cousins with my best friend. So, it isn't like I'll never have to see him again.
2007-05-10 06:48:44 · update #1
When it comes to most men - they over-react! It's a guy hormone thing & the laswt thing your man wanted to hear during htis good time was one of your exes having a drunken spout of his affections for you and distain for him. Should your man have hit him - NO - but chances are that if he had tried to walk away - your ex would have continued to rant and rave until he passed out or until he got you to srag him off somewhere to recouperate. Your current man was never going to let that happen - so he belted him one. Let it go & I am sure your ex will forget all about it too.
2007-05-10 06:41:50 · answer #1 · answered by martiek7 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband could have taken the higher ground and ignored him. That probably would have been the best thing to do. HOWEVER, he was WELL within his rights to react that way he did. And honestly, I applaud him for standing up for your honor that way. You should be pleased to know that your husband is not willing to let some ex talk trash about him or you.
Your reaction was perfectly appropriate as well. Overall I think both of you handled it well. The ex however, has issues! ;)
2007-05-10 06:39:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's why people shouldn't drink. Being drunk is not an excuse. If someone is driving drunk but accidentally kills someone while driving are they going to get a free pass because they were drunk and you shouldn't take what they did seriously? No. And how would you feel if the situation was reversed? Just put yourself in his shoes. I would have done the same thing.
2007-05-10 06:43:40 · answer #3 · answered by #1 Lucy Fan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-11 05:42:34 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your right, your husband should have ignored his coments since he was drunk. On behalf of your husband I do have to say I'm sure it would have been hard for anyone not to react to him, but sometimes we have to be the bigger person and walk away. Your ex got exactly what he wanted and that was to make your husband jealous and mad.
2007-05-10 06:45:30 · answer #5 · answered by Krinta 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, he overreacted.
You should have tried to bring him away from the obnoxious ex. Just tug his arm, tell him to ignore your drunken ex., and move away.
If your husband does this sort of thing a lot, he should seek help.
2007-05-10 09:59:34 · answer #6 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your husband!
Being drunk is no excuse...Your ex is a fuckn idiot, have you ever heard of the saying "the truth comes out when your drunk."?
If my husband and i were in that situation, my husband would have beat the living shyt out of him and i would have been happy that he did!
2007-05-10 07:10:34 · answer #7 · answered by Kasja 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you over reacted if that was me I would have done the same thing to my husbands ex-wife I would to do that too.But I hate the chick with a passion she has it out for the two of us to break us up so it a little diff but not much if that was any other girl I would do the same. cut him some slack. he did it because he oves you
2007-05-10 06:43:45 · answer #8 · answered by nikie_atkinson 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You underreacted. Your husband stood up for you and you should not have let your ex get away with that.
2007-05-10 06:41:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sorry hun, your husband did exactly what mine would have done. The ex attacked your honor and your husband defended it.
2007-05-10 06:41:27 · answer #10 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋