How can I stop worrying about my wife?

Question

I worry constantly about my wife. How can I deal with this problem?

I worry when I am at work about what shes doing. I worry sometimes if shes mad at me. I worry about if she still loves me. Stuff like that.

Answer 1

Worry is brought on by fear. What is it that you are afraid of, ultimately? Some spouses worry that their spouse will die because they are afraid of being alone. Some worry that their spouse will cheat because they are afraid of being hurt, or getting taken for everything in a divorce.

You cannot prevent the things you are worrying about. Your wife is going to do whatever she wants when you are not home. What is the worst that can happen? She leaves you? Oh well. Nothing you can do to stop that. If she's going to leave, she's going to leave. And quite honestly, if you drive her crazy with your worrying, she WILL leave you!

So what if she's angry with you? People get angry. That's NORMAL. Big deal. So what? If you have a disagreement, she may get angry. But she'll get over it. Talk to her about it. But if you're asking her all the time "Are you mad at me?", you're going to drive her NUTS.

Worrying about her love for you indicates that you don't trust her. (so does worrying about what she's doing at home). Unless she's given you REASON to worry about that, you need to get over it. The best way to do that is to figure out what it is you are afraid of. You need to really think about that. And talk to your wife about it once you figure out what your fear is. Most of the time, just saying it out loud is help enough to get over it. (particularly if it's a silly reason). But keeping it inside will drive you crazy.

Worry is an unproductive action and emotion. Nothing gets fixed, prevented or accomplished by worry. All it does is tie you up in knots.
If the situation is something that you REASONABLY can fix, then fix it, and move on with life.

I recommend that you seek therapy if your worry and fears seem a bit extreme. And talk to your wife about it.

Answer 2

You are making your wife too important.
I know blah blah wife should be number one is your life ...

The stronger you are as a person the stronger the stronger the relationship and the stronger the relationship the stronger the marriage.

She chose you because for who you are NOT what you do for her.
If she did choose you for what you do for her you are better off without her, period.
Now that you understand that she likes you, the way you are, start enjoying who you are as well. Have fun with yourself, you know read a book or start a hobby. The more you grow as a person the more she gets to learn about you. Its healthier for you and her. You will feel great sharing something new with her and even better when she starts asking questions.
Remember a relationship is always growing because people are always growing (sometimes fast and sometimes slow).
Your happiness is your own.
No one or thing can make you happy.
Happiness is an emotion that comes from within.
By sharing your happiness you wife will only want you more.
If your wife wants you more what is there to worry about?

Answer 3

You have a problem sport. Just what is the cause of this worry? Was she unfaithful at one time? has she displayed any tendencies to you that would make you feel this way. Or is she a blithering idiot that your concerns are she might leave the gas burner on the stove going or back the car into the kid on the tricycle peddaling by on the sidewalk?

You can't deal with this problem unless you find the root of it. Now should that root be you and there is no "real' reason then you're pretty damn insecure and should seek some professional advice and help.

Answer 4

It sounds like your wife doesn't have much else to do?? Does your wife have a job? If she's spending her entire day worrying about child support and on the phone, she won't have one for long! You are right, the children will learn work through example and conditioning. Get them to do work around the house. Your wife should also be working in order to set a good example. Women who stay at home are not good examples for their children.

Answer 5

Simply talk to her.
How long have you two been married?

If your not sure whether she loves you or not, ask her that is the only way you will know for sure...
If you can't help but wonder what she does while you are at work, ask her!
You two should be able to talk about anything!

Is it trust issues your having??If so then you need to find out why you are having them...Trust is a big part of marriage, if you don't have trust then you don't have anything and it will ruine your marriage. I would suggest seeking help from a therapist they may be able to help you out with your problem..
Other than that the only thing i can tell you is have a long conversation with your wife and get to the bottom of things, tell her your problems as well...
good luck!

Answer 6

Worrying or Obsessing? There is a difference! You need to get yourself some self-esteem! Obsessive men are insecure and weak. Women like strong self reliant men who are loving too. You need to deal with your self esteem issues before you can ever have a healthy relationship with anyone! Good Luck!

Answer 7

Worry in what way?

Are you worried about her safety? Does she have a job such as a police officer that causes you worry? Or does she drive long distances alone at night?

Are you worried about her health? Is she ill? What is the prognosis?

Are you worried about her emotional well being? Is she depressed? Is she an alcoholic? Does she have an eating disorder?

Are you worried because she is cheating on you? Does she lie to you?

We need more info.

Answer 8

Why are you worrying? Is she known for cheating? Is she known to be fickle? Find out why.

That calls for communication. The mouth is an excellent portal to what's going on inside the brain. The ears are even better receptacles for processing what comes out of the mouth.

You have 2 ears and one mouth. Listen twice as much as you speak.

Listening and hearing are two different things.

You two may benefit from couples counseling.

Answer 9

Worry is natural, its a human emotion. If you didnt worry about your wife then it might be a concern. Now if you worry she will cheat on you or something like that it would mean you have trust issues and you should look for the source. Have you been cheated on before, have you/her cheated, ect... But to worry about her safety, work, ect... it is only natural.

Answer 10

If you weren't so paranoid, she'd talk to you about it. There are things she'd like to discuss with you, but she knows that is not possible because of your insecurities and low self esteem.

The way you act around her is a turnoff. Women like strong confident men. Not whiners or worriers. If she hasn't yet, she'll cross paths with some stud that will light her on fire.