My best friend asked his wife to bear with him while he decides when to leave his mistress. He wants her to relax and wait, he promised her he will try not have sex with the mistress, but he cannot promise the wife that he will not kiss the mistress. They have two lovely kids, been married for two years, he is cheating for 10 months now. wife needs my advice what advise to give i don't know. For me i would have dump his *** already....as a matter of fact i cannot even speak with him and we were very close friends i am totally surpised at his actions
2007-05-10 05:45:21 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
your friend must have low self esteem and must not be to bright, first off two kids in the first two years of marriage? she was not smart enough to wait and see if it would work out, strike one. she was pregnant almost the entire time, this is why he strayed, strike two. then she went 10 months without even knowing he was cheating, strike three. and now that she knows, she is waiting for him to break it off, strike four. what about kicking his a s s out of the house and telling him to go live with his w h o r e where is her pride, strike five. he will not leave his Mistress why should he? she is going to put up with it, and even if he does he will cheat again. and as a man I can tell just by him saying I'll try not to have sex with her, he is going to. I believe your friend is going to just have to get used to the taste of another women's p u s s y on her mans d i c k!!
2007-05-10 05:58:58 · answer #1 · answered by Sir Hard & Thick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No wife should have to wait or be second choice. This woman needs to stand on her own two feet and see this a**hole for what he really is. The nerve of him to even suggest such a thing to his WIFE! I am a firm believer that a marriage can survive after an affair, but to be told to wait while I see if I want my mistress or you, F*CK that all to h*ll!!! My husband had an affair, and dropped her like a hot potato after I found out. Was he still wrong, ofcourse he was, but he made amends, has proven his love and remorse since day one of the discovery, and I am still here, but let me tell ya, IF he had told me to wait and see, and I'm not giving her up while I am figuring it out, I WOULD HAVE REMOVED HIS CHOICE FOR HIM AND EVERYTHING HE OWNED WOULDA BEEN OUT ON THE FRONT LAWN!
2007-05-10 13:13:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What this guy is basically saying to his wife is "Well, honey, I just MIGHT love you enough to dump my mistress and go back to being a full-time husband. Or maybe not. I'm not sure. I might love HER better than you. I need some time to decide. So just don't bother your purty little head about it for a while, okay?"
This guy is playing a head game with his wife. A cruel, nasty, sadistic head game.
Yes, she should dump him. As a going away gift, she should take him to a tattoo shop and have "LOSER" tattooed in big bold letters on his forehead.
2007-05-10 13:39:21 · answer #3 · answered by Bruce A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to wise up!!! Leave his *** NOW!!! He will never make a decision if he knows that his wife will be there waiting on an answer. Sorry, but how stupid can she be??
Why would she want him back after he's been messing around?? He'll just do it again with someone else. She'll always wonder where he's at when he's late, etc.
Tell her to be strong and leave him - don't wait another day.
2007-05-10 13:23:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats called wanting your cake and eating it too. If I were her I would be furious, how would he feel if it were the other way round. Does she have low self esteem, she can surely do better than him, he sounds like a waste of space to me.If he really loved her it would never have happened in the first place, now he's just playing her. If she lets him get away with it this time, on his terms, he will do it again surely she should be the one laying down the law now. Tell her to leave him and find someone that wont use her.
2007-05-10 12:53:23 · answer #5 · answered by jo h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HER TO DUMP HIM. What the hell does he think he's playing at, he has a lovley wife at home who you can tell loves him very much and he decides to fool around with a silly mistress. You need to tell your friend to leave him and in a way she is very silly herself as she is allowing this to happen so he is getting away with it. She needs to be firm and leave his a*s and get stronger to not allow this to happen to her ever again. Be a good friend and tell her to get rid of him and get stronger or else men will be walking over her for the rest of her life.
Wish you all the best xxx
2007-05-10 12:51:58 · answer #6 · answered by xxsummerxx232 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to get tested for std's and leave him. He has cheated for almost half of their marriage. If he loves her, he will leave the mistress and try to work on their family. I would leave him but still give him a very short amount of time to come back. At the same time, she should not be his doormat.
2007-05-10 12:52:00 · answer #7 · answered by PharmNerd 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm with you. She's a fool but what can you advise someone who has had no problem with her HUSBAND cheating on her for almost half the time they've been married? She obviously has self-esteem issues and is very insecure. Pray he does not give her an STD. I cannot believe anyone would "wait around" while their hubby shagged or "didn't shag" (what kind of excuse is that)? It's beyond stupid and soo pathetic.
2007-05-10 13:26:11 · answer #8 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to hold something over the person so that he knows what he has to lose if he screws up again. Have the guy sign a piece of paper to sign over the title of the car or some major property so that the wife takes that property in the event of divorce. At least have him sign a confession so he agrees to give up custody of the kids or something.
2007-05-10 12:52:10 · answer #9 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. She's a fool if she even so much as entertains the idea. In fact, as soon as he was done laying this little spiel out he would have been staring at the front door. Then he could begin picking up his clothes off MY front lawn after I threw them out of the second floor window of MY house from MY bedroom.
"Will TRY and not have sex with her but can't guarentee he won't kiss her"??? Yeah...right.
2007-05-10 13:01:34 · answer #10 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋