Marriage & Divorce - 24 April 2007

We have been together for 8 years and at first we were really,really happy! We were real young (18& 20). As the years went one we delt with money issues his baby mama issues and so on. I feel I became bitter about all of it. My fam also disowned me for a couple of years for marring him so young. I was the golden child the f'd up in their eyes. It was real stressful I gained some weight(I didn't get like really big) I felt ugly but he would always say how beautiful I was regardless and I was crazy for thinking otherwise. I guess I have become a jealous person b/c a my hubby works in law enforcement and he has a female partner and her hubby works with him too, I have never met her or anything like that but anyway I was going in his phn and seen they were txting things like I love u!He said it a sisterly love b/c they have each others lives in their hands and I don't buy it. We fight about it alot and I dont know what to do! He gets upset bc I question him all the time.

2007-04-24 03:41:56 · 31 answers · asked by Ali 1

I've been abused (verbally/emotionally and in the past physically) by my husband of over 20 years. My daughter married and moved 16 hours away....(against my wishes for her but I understand how even she wanted to escape this hell). I have a beautiful home, but he controls all finances and everything. I can't live with is put downs and constant badgering any longer. My daughter says it's ok for me to go stay with her and her husband. If I do, I won't be able to bring anything with me but clothing. How will this effect the outcome of a divorce? Will I still get 1/2? (Well, 1/2 of what I can prove...since he's very secretive with money and I have no access to anything...including paperwork of any sort). If I could file a restraining order based on emotional/verbal abuse or get a divorce I would....but I don't think you can get a restraining order unless physical abuse occurs....and I don't have money for attorneys fees (which are always upfront).

2007-04-24 03:40:49 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

He is incarcerated, and can't fight it with a lawyer, but won't sign it, is there a time limit in which he has to reply or sign it? Can I get divorced?

2007-04-24 03:39:12 · 8 answers · asked by Tammy M 2

Just curious because I was caught naked by my neighbors wife. It is routine for me to strip down in our back yard and drink a couple of beers after doing yard work when it is hot. Our backyard is private and I never worried about being caught until Jan caught me a month ago. She was standing on a ladder trimming climbing rose bushes along her fence. I did not hear or see her, then I glance toward her house and saw her smiling at me.

Here is my dilemma, she is coming over more often, calling me over to help her with something around her house when her hubby is out of town. She is flirting with more than ever. Here is the kicker, she is very attractive with the most pleasant personality I have ever been around. I find her hard to resist now. I don't know, something came over me about her lately and I am having nasty thoughts. In this case, I cannot tell my wife because this would not fly doing it in secret.

How should I handle and have any of you wives experienced anything like this

2007-04-24 03:37:21 · 20 answers · asked by sxycpl4ya 1

My husband likes to look at porn on the internet and it upsets me. Why does he need that when he has the real thing at home? He says it's just fake, I'm the real thing he can hold and love, he just likes to look at pictures. Does he have a problem?

2007-04-24 03:34:27 · 13 answers · asked by Jenny007 2

My son has always been a Daddy's boy. No matter what he has always been loyal to me. I was divorced a year ago because his mother decided she wanted her sister's fiance and I lost everythign but my children. Now, she developed brain cancer and sent the kids to live with me. As they tried to help her, they determined she has about 6 months to live. She came out of hospital and took the kids back home with her and her new husband she married (her ex brother in law). Since my son went home, he has not called me, he has not made any atempt to talk to me and i have done nothing wrong. he was doing fine in school and now he failed 4 subjects and I am dying here without my boy. What would you do?

2007-04-24 03:27:44 · 11 answers · asked by Frankee06 2

and when we get in arguments she becomes violent and abusive. I have never been with a woman like this that can be so good --and so bad. IIts really getting old and I am totally turned off by her now. I hate sleeping with her because I no longer see the sweetheart just hte monster.
Dont say go to therapy-that aint gonna change my lack of desire--what else u gpt?

2007-04-24 03:27:18 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have been married for 9 years. Last year he changed his password because he ordered a camera for my 30th and didn't want me to see. Well he still doesn't allow me access to his email. He said we should have some privacy. I said the only reason he didn't want me to know was he was hiding something. I have found things out that he hid from me. I went out to his car once and found a note that read be a flirt lift your shirt. He was bored in traffic and put the sign in the window to see what would happen. I have had him lie to me in the past. He told me about two years ago that he doubted our love because I didn't like the idea of him getting a motorcycle. I said something like he would just use it to go to look at women in a local city that sponsors bike week. I remember saying I loved him and he not saying it back around that time. The excuse was he didn't hear me say it. We fought for several months and decided to stay together. I don't feel like I can trust him at times

2007-04-24 03:26:28 · 13 answers · asked by Roxy 1

My husband and I rushed into marriage and were extremely unhappy at the time and I was weak and vulnerable and questioned if I made the right decision since I was not over my ex fiance. I was not sure if the baby was the one I had the affair with or my husbands and was so scared that I didn't know what to do. I prayed every day that it would turn out to be my husbands' child. We have 2 other children and are very happy now. But I feel awful and this whole thing is haunting me.
The child is now almost 11 and is extremely tall just like the ex was which is a dead give away since my husband and I are not tall people. People keep commenting on the height of the child and I am so scared that it is being questioned behind my back. I want to come clean with my husband but I don't want to crush him and I don't want it to ruin the lives of all of our children and families. I have never told the other guy that there was a question about the paternity.
What should I do???

2007-04-24 03:23:20 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

My hubby and I have been married for three years and there are times when things have been a little rocky. We have a 1 year old daughter and I just found out that I was 5 weeks pregnant. When things get bad my hubby likes to go tell everyone such as his mom, his brother (currently in Iraq), and coworkers about our problems. I just found on the computer where he emailed some girl he knew back in school and told her he is in a unhappy marriage and he is only here for his daughter. I am so devastated. I am trying to keep high spirits. I had 2 miscarriages before I had my daughter and I don't want to go through that again. What should I do about my husband?

2007-04-24 03:12:10 · 17 answers · asked by Mom of Three 5

What kinds of issues are most often presented?
What communication approaches are used and how do they vary from those used for working with individuals or groups?

2007-04-24 03:06:37 · 2 answers · asked by holla 2

My husband recently began thinking about getting circumcised. Oddly enough i've never been with a circumcised man and didn't really know how to respond when he told me he was thinking about having it done? Is it really any different at all? Will lovemaking feel different? Has anyone been in a similar situation? Well any answers/advice would help really

2007-04-24 02:57:05 · 16 answers · asked by amber k 1

My husband & I use to have a great sex life but things are not so great anymore. I know that he is not cheating b/c we work together & we never go anywhere alone. Any suggestions on how we could spice things up?

2007-04-24 02:51:09 · 18 answers · asked by C29 1

if you don't know you don't know life really.

2007-04-24 02:44:00 · 10 answers · asked by no nick 2

He's 35 years old and still pulls his clothes from a pile on the floor every day. he has dressers (2) but doesn't use them. I can't stand the mess anymore, I just feel like screaming! Help! We don't have kids yet, but are talking about it and I don't want my kids to do what he does.

2007-04-24 02:40:30 · 20 answers · asked by Bren 2

My husband cannot/will not do any DIY, decorating, gardening etc (or even arrange someone else to do it) and I have to deal with EVERYTHING you can imagine from all the family finances, arranging repairs to house and car, childrens hospital appointments to changing the light bulbs. I do all the running around for our 4r old boys and 8yr old daughter as well as study for a college course I'm on.

Taking all this into consideration I can't understand why he can't see the hypocricy in his annoyance at the house hardly ever being tidy.
Firstly I've never been a particularly tidy person and he knew this when we met.
Secondly so long as the meals are cooked and clean clothes ready I would rather spend any free time I get actually out with my children or playing with them, not being a slave to my home.

It upsets me and I can't get him to see why.

2007-04-24 02:31:48 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I don't wish to continue the relationship anymore. I feel trapped
she won't leave me and is very needy. I mention divorce and she says that she will stick me with childsupport. I realy need help on this one. I feel my life is wasting away with a woman I do not wish to be with anymore.

2007-04-24 02:31:07 · 36 answers · asked by bobo 1

I havent washed up made a bed done any shopping
do you think he will mind ?

2007-04-24 02:21:50 · 55 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-04-24 02:15:02 · 16 answers · asked by buds 1

What happened to you or what did you do or what did fate bring? For some reason, people find it hard to accept even after the person has moved out.

2007-04-24 02:00:09 · 14 answers · asked by jazz41 2

is it too early to start dating i have been getting calls from other men for a dinner date or should i give myself more time we where together for 3 years and it was a rocky relationship no communication and i say communication is everything but i do still think about him ty so much for your input jewels tc

2007-04-24 01:51:27 · 12 answers · asked by jewels 2

hubby plays ps2 all night til 2am.....jeez its a wonder i'm pregnant?

2007-04-24 01:43:48 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've been going through some hard times with my GF of 3 years. We've talked about having kids before. At first she had told me she didn't want kids, then she said she was unsure. I think this might be a deal breaker in our relationship.

I've never asked myself why I want kids. It was just something that I wanted. Now, I'm kindof thinking about why do I want to be a parent? Is it about leaving a legacy or having someone there for you when you are older? Can someone help?

2007-04-24 01:25:49 · 13 answers · asked by Clappuh 2

I need some resources on a Divorce issue. My friend is going through a divorce her biological child was adopted by her husband a couple years ago. Now they are getting a divorce she does not want anything from him no child support or alimony just wants to end it. Her question is #1 can she change the childs last name back to her meaden name if so how can she do that. #2 is there anyway to revoke the adoption. If you guys can also give me resourses (website) on where to find this info so i can print it out.

Thank You
David

2007-04-24 01:17:42 · 5 answers · asked by David D 1

this birthday card from that special someone you were dating how would it make you feel?

Celebrating A Good Man
A lot of guys out there think they're men because they act tough and talk rough.
Real men know that wisdom is true strength, that gentleness is virtue...
A lot of guys brag.
Real men don't have to. Their actions speak louder than words.
A lot of guys blame anyone and everything for what doesn't go their way.
Real men accept life's challenges and use them to grow...
How do I know all this? Because I have watched YOU and I see how a good man, a real man, leads a good life.
So many people are celebrating you today and I'm proud to be one of them.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY

2007-04-24 00:48:08 · 12 answers · asked by GoodGirl 3

Recently my husband has completely stopped having sex with me, and says it's because I haven't gotten my depo, but we have alternate protection in the house to use in the meantime, and he still doesn't have sex with me and our sex life used to be great, also he is very rarely affectionate, and he never seems attracted to me, he acts as if he isn't at all bothered by not having sex with me. Then last night we had intercourse finally, and I did not finish, then I felt bad because I know it was a downer for him, so then he says.. we shouldnt have sex anymore until you feel better about your insucurities, it's like he's looking for any excuse not to sleep with me, how's not having sex going to help my being insecure? I am afraid that he just doesnt want me or anything, and we're young. I am 24 and he is 25. Somebody help me, I can't stand feeling like this!

2007-04-24 00:45:54 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 36 and my hubby is 36+. My husband knew about my emotional affair with my classmate when he found my unsent letter to him. It was nothing more.By the time we(me and my hubby) were seperate and i had been in email contact with my classmate( who really loved me but didn't tell me so during our college days). I came to know how deeply he loved me at that time. As my husband proved to be worse than the loser my parents thought him to be, I began to wonder what life would be in such a hell. Now he is broke and is doing some job. He never gave me any respect, so I didn't give a damn about him. This letter has really shattered him in more than one way. He feels sorry for having caused me such pain and again says he didn't plan my classmates' visit or our spending some time in a resort( No sex, I swear). He plans about our future but his face is a mixed-up. We are seeing counsellor now but i am afraid whether he would ever treat me with love and respect I couldn't get in the past

2007-04-24 00:45:06 · 11 answers · asked by venus 1

I have been up two nights, feeding the orphan kitten. My hubby has been helping me, alright - he is much better at feeding the little wee thing. This morning I could not manage to feed the kitten at all, so I asked him to help (I was probably too exhausted) and he agreed. By that stage I was crying cause it was sad to watch the kitty in agony and I said "I can't do this anymore". I was sitting with a screaming kitty for 10 minutes and had to shout to call him down. He fell asleep as it turns out. Then he comes down all grumpy with an air of superiority, would not let me him him. Then he says "if you can't do this, how are you going to have a child". Now, my husband confessed a month ago, that he did not want me to get preganant as he was not sure of our relationship. I know. Is he a nasty piece of work or am I too sensitive and going crazy?

2007-04-24 00:29:08 · 13 answers · asked by Alyssa Macey 3

we are married for 8 yrs we have 2 kids we've past many hard time but we still living together and Iam trying hard to work the thing and i want to conserve my marrige life in a good manner

2007-04-24 00:16:06 · 8 answers · asked by engine 1

2007-04-24 00:08:56 · 24 answers · asked by Ann SR 1