Marriage & Divorce - 26 April 2007

i felt really ditched as i felt i was his first love like he was mine . I also discovered the lip marks of this girl in his wallet when i inquired he told me tht he didnt even remember and care abt them and that wallet was 3 yrs old atleast and if he knew he would have removed them from there .I dont knw but i feel very jeaolus abt the whole matter i just cant tolerate that my husband loved someone before me i know i cant do anything abt the past and now my husband is totally dedicated to me but still i want to knw abt their relationship how deep was it how was the girl and all and i have asked it to my hubby but he just says that its his dead past an inconsequential and he doesnt wanna talk abt it but i feel very disturbed abt his past and wanna knw abt it though i knw its useless to do so but at certain contexts i just remember abt my hubby s past relationship and get disturbed
dnt knw wht to do ?

2007-04-26 23:44:06 · 14 answers · asked by kamya 1

I feel really bad because I lost mine and only realised on the train home... i've tipped bins upside down at work to look in there.. but no luck.. only thing left to do is to turn the bedroom upside down... anyone had any similar experiences. i feel so bad..............

2007-04-26 23:41:20 · 17 answers · asked by Curious kitten! 2

2007-04-26 23:17:59 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-04-26 22:49:52 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

I hate him so much because of his changed behaviour.
He drinks much when i asked he said he will stop when he reach 40 years and as of know he is 32, come home late hour eg. around 3-5am, and yet during working day, no time to chat with his family, making plans like starting bussiness without cosulting me. etc.
Last time I was pregnant instead of help me in other ways he was teasing me.

2007-04-26 21:59:03 · 23 answers · asked by Xxx 1

Just wondering if it's true because someone told me that once. I am not really sure about that so I am asking? If it's not then what does it mean? I thought that was odd.

2007-04-26 21:51:14 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok.. before any of you start lending moral judgement, I want you to release yourself of stupid cultural sentiment and please answer this intelligently. Here is the deal:
I am a 32 year old male.
I love my wife unlike any woman. I've never seen another woman as beautiful nor as perfect for me than her. I've been married for almost 5 years, but I still crave sex from other women. I don't crave emotional attachment, I don't want feelings.. I just want to have very animalistically sex with another woman. Just raw. I've tried not thinking about it.. but it is not working. What the hell is my problem or what the heck should I do. Cheat and find out it wasn't all it was cracked up to be and bear the guilt (even worse.. loose my wife).. or screw. This sex drive is very deep rooted within me. It is within my makeup. I feel instinctively sexually insatiable.
Any help appreciated.

2007-04-26 21:14:21 · 18 answers · asked by Sex Crazed 1

Why do humans have to have sex or have kids? or get married and etc...

Mature answers only...

2007-04-26 20:27:08 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have always put my career first, I am not that interested in having kids, and I work 12 hours a day...i love my job and my industry. My boyf does eventually want kids, he works exactly 40 hours a week, no overtime, but makes a lot more money than I do. He thinks that if we get married, because he makes more money, we should nurture his career first, if that requires moving, etc. I find this decision difficult because even though he does make more money, I have very high career goals that I want to achieve and my view is that since he clocks out right at 8 hours a day, never overtime, that he does not care as much about his job as I do. I do not think that I will ever make more money than he does. I am not sure what to do! I would hate being a stay at home mom, that is just not me! I would love it if he would be a stay at home dad and I could keep working my 50-60 hour work weeks. How does a couple of very career minded people make it work??

2007-04-26 20:24:10 · 7 answers · asked by gigi 1

2007-04-26 19:29:28 · 23 answers · asked by chandru c 1

I am going to need to look into ... well definitley get a lawyer. My horrible awful ex wants to take my kids age 4 and 5 that he hasnt seen in 3 years!! I am a wonderful mother to them and I have to fight this he is a horrible abusive man. So my question is about lawyer fees if you have any experience on retainer fees hourly cost or total cost. I need to start saving right away for this cost and I need to know what to expect. Thanks 4 your help

2007-04-26 19:25:22 · 6 answers · asked by *Krista* 2

At the beginning that we decided to live together, we have no any rule. she rarely to clean bathroom or clean dishes or wash clothes!!! They are become my job!!! Should I say to her or just keep doing as usual as I stay alone????

2007-04-26 18:58:19 · 14 answers · asked by Frida y 1

I'm in Pennsylvania..Delaware county to be more specific. I've been "married" for 3 years almost. Now, it wasn't a real marriage, and I guess I just didn't care enough to get it annulled because although we got married, we were only 'married' for like 2 months, and he left me. He dissapeared and cheated on me, oh and he moved to another state so as you can see, I felt like he was already gone from my life.

Anyways, I want to get it annulled. We shared nothing together..no house, no assets, (we were young) he was going to the army. We just have a child who he has never even paid child support for. He's just out of my life. So do you think its possible? and where do i go to get it done? The courthouse? or do I call a lawyer?

2007-04-26 18:48:03 · 10 answers · asked by Bizzy 3

2007-04-26 18:44:07 · 21 answers · asked by JJ 2

I earn a really low wage. So low in fact that I can not quite afford to pay just my basic living cost (rent, utilities, food).

I have a child from a previous relationship. A child that I love and adore and would do anything for.

The CSA want to take a quater of my wages. This will leave me unable to pay my rent. I will become homeless. I don't live in an expensive place. I live in the cheapest place I could find.

At the same time my ex has decided that she no longer wants to let me see my daughter and no solicitors I can find will take on a legal aid case like this because it will take too much time and they get paid per job and I obviously cant afford to pay for one if I can't even afford my rent.

I'm in a total losing situation, with no one to offer me help.

2007-04-26 18:43:18 · 11 answers · asked by Only Mark. 3

Before I ask the question, I just want to say if you are gong to be rude and not understand my point of view, just don't answer.
Ok my husband and I have an extremely playful relationship. Normally he never does anything to hurt my feelings, but he went to a strip club with some of his friends. Although this may not be a bid deal to some, this isn't how my marriage works. So, I want to do something to get him back. Just somethng a little naughty that I know he wont like, but really isn't wrong.. ya know? My mom said I should dye all his underwear pink and make him wear them, but I want something a little naughty....
GIRLS!!!!! Do ya have any ideas how to get your hubby back and teach him a lesson with out compromising our relationship?

2007-04-26 18:40:27 · 14 answers · asked by ~C~ 3

2007-04-26 18:37:57 · 23 answers · asked by HANUMANT 1

For starters I have about 4 weeks to go with baby #4. I am now on bed rest, was working 70 hours a week. So other than being worn out from the kids, housework and tired belly, my hubby just will not communicate with me. I try giving him hugs and kisses when he gets in the door. But his usual routine is come in sit on the couch, watch the tube, eat, shower and sleep. It doesn't matter if I am nice or down right b!tchy, I can not get this man to talk to me. When I ask, he says all I do is just grouch. I admit that I do nag alot; but common, if you are ignored every single day, no matter how hard you try; I think you'd be the same way. Does anyone have any suggestions on a way to turn this around?

2007-04-26 18:31:13 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I amazed at your sanctamonious answers!

I have not given the details of the sex that I am having and can assure you that I am acting safely. The fact is though that I am loving man love and feel no guilt.

Why not? Because it feels great! And so long as noone knows, noone is harmed. I don`y believe I am the only one going through a similarly exciting and wonderful stage in my life.

2007-04-26 18:13:05 · 19 answers · asked by streched99 1

I am marrid 3 years and I don't know how to help my husband anymore. I always tought that if I'm going to get married someone, is gonna by for life. I decide to marry my husbend after sad event and I tought that I can count on him always but our life had turn upside down after a year. My husband likes to get high and that start my problems. It become more often and than every day. We had our own bussines and after two years of marriage we had to close it. I tryed everything. I send him to rehab twice but that didn't help- maybe for a week. He did not work for 8 months and finally he got a job but didn't last for long and he got fired. Our bills are due but he still want money to get high. We started arguing a lot and I started to screem sometimes even trow staff tords him. I'm becoming violent and I hate that. What should I do? I tryed to help him but he likes his lifestyle and he pulling me down with him.Is it the time for divorce or should I still fight for it? I am so tired of it!

2007-04-26 17:39:38 · 17 answers · asked by betty 2

I have a friend who cheated on her husband with her husbands brother. She has decided at this point not to tell him. I advised her to come clean about it but she says that her husband is mentally unstable and wouldn't be able to handle this kind of information at this time. She says that she is afraid that if she tells him, he might do something to harm himself. What does everyone think she should do? I know under normal circumstances, the right thing to do would obviously be to tell him, but in the event that he's the way she's described, does anyone have any insight as to what would be the best thing to do? Please no smart comments. I know this is absurd but she actually did indeed make that huge of a mistake and I really need advice right now as to how to guide her. PLEASE HELP!!!!

2007-04-26 17:20:04 · 17 answers · asked by McLovin 3

In July he began a new job and this woman is his boss. She knew he was married with 4 kids and she started a relationship with him on the computer and would leave "Miss you" cards in his car when he wasn't at work. My life has turned upside down. My kids miss their dad and I miss my husband.

2007-04-26 17:19:04 · 27 answers · asked by Gabrielle's Mom 1

what do you think about this issue?

2007-04-26 17:11:50 · 21 answers · asked by kewtber 3

Well you see, my boyfriend and I recently broke up. We're together for 4 years! We have on son and another on the way! We've been through thick and thin together! But I'm a jealous person and he is too but he takes it to a violent stage! He just got out to jail April 8th for DV and went back the 14th! He was threating me and scaring our son! He has an anger problem.And I told him to leave but he wouldn't. I litarlly had to run from him! Someone called the cops and he was taken! I haven't talk to him since!
I love him soo much and I know he loves me too!! What can i say we got tough love! But I know our kids don't need to see any of that! I know we could probably work it out if we talked but I'm fed up with this s**t!! I love him but i think it's time for me to let got! But since I've been with him for 4 years it's difficult for me to let go!!!! I miss him! When I think about me and our kids growing older without him it breaks me heart! HOW DO I LET GO? Please give a some advice THANX

2007-04-26 17:09:18 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

i think marriage cause a lot of problem, its like a contract hard to get out, you can get the same amount of happiness by live together with your spouse, so is staying unmarried the best insurance for your happiness?

2007-04-26 16:14:05 · 16 answers · asked by df a 1

All answers were good, I wished to give 4 best , but A@Q would not let me. I am the guy who asked about giving the wife lingerie after 32 years of marriage. Really on paper it is 34, I couldn't handle her driving 50 miles to work, work a 12 hour shift at night), then drive another 50 miles back home 4 to 5 days in a row in one week. After a total wreck, off the road snowy fender bender, flooded areas, snowing roads and flat tires. I always went. I suggested she rent an apartment, it turned out the city life offered her more than back home, clubbing and dancing. She threw the lingerie issue up to me as a fault. She is not shy about enjoying what off time she has in the city and is only working 3 nights a week. I have without hesitation NOT used her as ,my check book. I pay with what I earn. I guess the next step is waitng for her to find the right guy and the paper work..

2007-04-26 16:10:05 · 1 answers · asked by michael d 1

We've been together for almost 10 years, and have 2 kids. He's no fun anymore, no romance. I've gotten the distinct feeling in the past that he was cheating.

He is currently deployed, has been for 5 months.. i'm a stay at home mom with the kids..lately he's been talking about divorce... i don't know why?

2007-04-26 15:54:57 · 42 answers · asked by ? 2

Why is it that a woman in a stale, crappy marriage cannot get something on the side with a guy that she is actually attracted to? All the guys out there that are available and open to this situation are nasty and gross.

2007-04-26 15:46:15 · 11 answers · asked by Marissa J 1

That is what my fiance does.

2007-04-26 15:23:00 · 20 answers · asked by Kendra H 2

So like yesterday I said I was having problems with my man ... well I'm not sure if we are still having problems or what ... today we had sex for the first time in almost a week because we haven't been getting along, well anyways I asked him if I was just a piece of meat or if we was good and he won't answer me for a while then finally he said he just wanted sex. Well then I asked him if he still loved me and he said yes and he will always. Then I asked him if he still wanted to be with me and he never answered me. I asked a few more times before he went to work and he still never answered me. By the way we have been married for 4 years and together for 8 years. Please someone give me some advice, good advice if possible. Also we have a two year old daughter together. One more thing PLEASE ONLY SERIOUS ANSWERS AND DON'T BE JERKS ABOUT IT NEITHER!!!!!!!!!!

2007-04-26 14:50:49 · 17 answers · asked by T 6