In July he began a new job and this woman is his boss. She knew he was married with 4 kids and she started a relationship with him on the computer and would leave "Miss you" cards in his car when he wasn't at work. My life has turned upside down. My kids miss their dad and I miss my husband.
2007-04-26 17:19:04 · 27 answers · asked by Gabrielle's Mom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
lmao. Good try, if only it were that easy... but let's not forget this is more your husband's fault than anyone else's. He didn't have to cheat on you. Sue the crap out of him and get hella alimony and child support. Make sure he ends up in a 1 bedroom crap hole of an apartment.
2007-04-26 17:22:37 · answer #1 · answered by two_kee_kees 4 · 3⤊ 3⤋
You've put up with this for a long time by the sounds of it. How long has this been the situation? Surely not at the start. Was there a point in the marriage where he started distancing himself from you emotionally and physically? Look critically at your marriage. You have highlighted the lows here, but are there any highs? Weigh things up. Is there something to salvage and work on here, or do you feel this is more than you can bear any more? You can't change another person's behaviour. You can tell him how you feel about his behaviour and give him the chance to change, but other than that, you can only change yourself and protect yourself. Give him the opportunity to put this right. If he can't, or wont, then you have to decide what your next move is.
2016-05-20 00:23:40 · answer #2 · answered by tana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget her, file for divorce and child support. Leave the rest up to the man upstairs. The most important role in your life right now is to be a good mother to your children and prove to him that you are a great parent and a wonderful role model to the kids. Don't tell your kids anything bad about their father cause I'm sure they love him very much and telling them ugly things about him will only hurt your children. Besides, I'm sure you're better that that, don't go that low, neither him or her deserve it.
Don't waste your time and money on someone who's not ever worth it, your children need you more than anyone else. What goes around come around, wait patiently and see that he'll be back and it might bee too late by the time.
Good Luck and focus on the children. God Bless ^_^
2007-04-26 17:32:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey i am so sorry that you have to go through this. I am sorry for you and your family. Unfortunately this woman knew what she was doing, she set out intentionally to do this. and at the same time your husband knew what he was doing too. I don't think you can sue her. I'm sure statutes are different for each state, but I know where I live you couldn't. My daughter's father left me for someone he worked with, I didn't have a clue and it had been going on for probably a year or more (I was pregnant & had a small baby, I didn't notice he was working later) she moved in to our house as soon as I left (as in later that same day) and they were together for 7-8 yrs before they got married. Life came back on them. They were married for exactly 1 year. They both cheated on each other (there's a supprise) and it was a nasty soap opera. So I guess it does come back around on you.
2007-04-26 17:31:45 · answer #4 · answered by Sun R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, I'm kinda slow so let me see if I have this right. Your husband of 19 years that made promises to you before GOD and all your friends to love, honor, and cherish till death do us part thing. In the meantime, he's lied, snuck around behind your back, cheated on you, broke your wedding vows, committed adultery, abandoned his kids, and probably a few dozen other things and you want to know if you can sue the woman? Sorry, but I just don't get it.
2007-04-26 18:06:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the point . You didn't marry her ; you married him . You need to be getting a divorce attorney . How is revenge going to help you get on with your life ? The best revenge is living well . There is life after divorce . If he came crawling back ..it still wouldn't insure he wouldn't resume cheating on you . Pick yourself up , dust yourself off ..and start again without him . By the time he gets through paying alimony and child support for four kids ..he won't have a whole lot left over for dating . Count your blessings .
2007-04-26 18:58:36 · answer #6 · answered by missmayzie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say whether or not you have already started the divorce or are just legally separated from your husband or not. You only state he abandoned you and the kids after 9 months under her employ.
If you can prove that he is living with and/or supporting/dating his mistress, while ignoring his financial obligations to wife and children then yes, you can sue both of them individually and give them both jail time as well.
They are breaking the law in so many ways. Just the indecency of Quid- quo- pro make for a grand argument. (Her power play on the job has just crossed the line when he accepted her proposal while he is still under her employ and still legally married to you)
Take it to her supervisor or the corporate boardroom with an injunction stating she broke the law. Don't forget to get real juicy pictures of them cohabitating.
2007-04-26 18:15:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you live in the U.S…
You can’t sue a spouse for cheating on you. There are a FEW states that still allow ‘Alienation of Affection’ lawsuits where you can sue his lover for ‘stealing’ his affection. But it’s *very few* states that allow it. MOST states have abolished these types of lawsuits.
But even if you live in a state that allows it, be aware that these cases can get very expensive and they are not easy to win. Basically you have to prove that your marriage was relatively happy until she showed up and she was the *cause* of the breakup. Generally, the lover is NOT the actual cause. In most cases, there were ALREADY some pretty major problems/unhappiness in the marriage.
2007-04-26 18:03:11 · answer #8 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know if you can sue her or not.
all i have to say is that you have reason to want to, but, i would separate from him, get alimony and child support, take what you can, of course get custody of the children, stick him with ALL the bills and drag her name through court.
i am sure that you miss your husband, and the kids their dad, and i would advise you also to not talk negative about him, they will learn soon enough on their own and it will stick with them better if they learn on their own all the negative things about him.
your husband will lose her about as quick as he got her, because when she finds someone better, or sees all that you take from him, she will dump him...then he will probably also lose his job...
things have a way of working out, if you think that you would take him back after he was so easily swayed into her bed, then, i would for sure make him go to some kind of therapy.
be a good mom through it all, they need you more than they need their dad right now, be there, hug them, love them and help them through it the best you can...
2007-04-26 17:47:28 · answer #9 · answered by uranus2mars 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you can't sue her, your husband could if he wasn't receptive to her advances. Sounds like she is a power freak and once she has "conquered" her latest conquest, your husband, she'll dump him to go onto something more titillating to her. Sadly, she is really a horrible person. Rest assured she will "get hers" some day. She is really to be pitied, she will be a very lonely person later in life because she will end up with no friends....
IF you love your husband, suck it up and be patient. Keep busy with your kids, love them, hug them. Do not prohibit visits and phone calls from your husband to them... They NEED their Dad. His life is a living hell right now and believe me, he is not a happy person.
IF he comes home, demand that he leave his job, move if it will help, to another town. Get them apart for good, and then MAYBE you both can concentrate on fixing what is broken in your relationship. You then, will have the POWER to forgive and go on...
Hang in there, I'm praying for you!!
2007-04-26 17:26:54 · answer #10 · answered by Patricia D 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sue her? Why? you're going to get the house, and everything in it as well as child support for all four kids. You're set. If you want revenge, then get a photo of you riding his best friend with the caption, "So this is what a big one feels like!"
2007-04-26 19:13:10 · answer #11 · answered by hard_in_temecula 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋