Men do you really love the woman if you tell intimate sexual details to your friends about her ?

Question

That is what my fiance does.

He even describes what my body looks like !

Answer 1

Men only share their experiences if they include some whore they don't care about.

Answer 2

I am not a man, but I often have talks with my sister in law...my brother's wife. We have a very open communication rule where everything is within bounds and it is the best friendship I could ever have.
Yes, it sounds bad, but in our cases, we both married within two months of each other, had our kids within a month of each other...I have three, she has two. We started talking about things when we were pregnant the first time...all of the gross and disgusting details etc.
It was a bit weird at first, but then we decided that everything was game and we can give each other advice or "tips" if you please.
We are the best of friends and we have both helped save each other's marriage more than once by sharing our experiences.
Men aren't any different as far as being confused, etc... They just have a different way of feeling people out for advice. If someone says that what they told them has happened to him, the man feels better, because he is not alone.
Male or female, we all have the same feelings, we just aren't all supposed to show them or express them the same for fear of being rejected or appearing stupid.
If it bothers you, let him know how much and ask him to please not discuss it in front of you, but you cannot expect him to not talk to anyone.
Good Luck, and keep an open mind.

Answer 3

What??? And you're considering marrying this guy? Sex is one of the most personal and intimate acts a couple can share with one another. You cannot get any closer to that person physically than sex and it is not for anyone else to share in...physically or otherwise.
This guy has no class...no brains and certainally no respect for you. If he did he would not be describing your most personal moments together.
Lady...if you marry this jerk you deserve every bit of bad stuff that is assuredly coming with him. just how old is this juvenile, immature and socially stunted "man"...if we can term him that...anyway?

Answer 4

This depends on if you have or haven't told him that you aren't comfortable with him saying things like that, and what the context of the conversations is.

Locker room bragging after you asked him politely and reasonably to stop? Not cool.

Having a frank discussion with friends about things they like in bed and saying you're really good, and you've never told him not to say that? Not as big a deal.

Some people like to talk and don't see boundaries where others do. If you've told him your boundaries and he's not respecting them, that's one thing. But if you haven't, you should have that discussion before you start trying to decide if that means he loves you or not.

I tend to share things in some situations that I'd never dream of mentioning in others. Also, is he saying good or bad things?

It's not really a cut and dry situation.

Answer 5

Well I would say he does NOT respect you OR himself......and if he does not RESPECT you then how can he "Truly Love" you when respect is such a big part of True love.
To me he sounds VERY immature and needs to grow up.....I guess it is up to you if you want all his buddies to know every time you give him a BJ or not. I have work with guys like this before and I could NEVER understand Why they would want to talk about there love life.
I actually told one guy...who EVERY Frikkin Day was talking about his wife....that she had told my wife that he was not too bad in the sack....but she wished he could last longer cause she was tired of faking it.....and that's why she was giving him BJs all the time....because she would just start to get going and he was done. Funny thing....he never talk about his love life after that.

Answer 6

I think it's poor taste to discuss one's mate with one and all. However I can see a case when he does so with his buddy for 20 years, especially if there are issues.

Let's say he really loves you but there are some bounds that have been established in your relationship about specific physical acts. I think it's reasonable that he asks his best friend for advice on how he can approach you to overcome this barrier. I'm no expert - just my opinion.

Answer 7

if you really LOVE someone, you dont tell your friends intimate details about your partner!
if it was a fling, one night stand etc. then it would be okay.
who wants other people knowing what your partner looks like or does in bed? imagine when you become married and you take your partner around the friends that heard about those "intimate details" think what is going to be going through their minds?
your partner should be a special kept secret that only you are supposed to see, and more importantly you are the only one who should know what your partner does in bed or the things they do in bed etc.
who wants someone that everyone else knows about?

Answer 8

I don't kiss... and tell this guy needs to shut up. I guess he must be trying to impress his friends by bragging about his exploits. The next time he does this around you and his friends you should criticize the way he makes love and tell his friends how bad he is at it. Maybe he'll shut up then

Answer 9

If a man tells intimage sexual details to his friends, it tells me that he doesn't respect her. He may love her, but he's disrespecting her by sharing personal information that's nobody elses business.

Answer 10

It's a sign of lack of respect for your privacy.

But not a sign of lack of love for you though. Like the other person here said, he doesn't appear to have boundaries..

Just ask him to quit doing it, remind him that it hurts your feelings, and remind him that it's totally unnecessary for anyone outside your relationship to know anything about what you do behind closed doors. It's called privacy.....

Answer 11

Sorry--- womans view but violation of trust. I know that guys will be guys and everything----but become mature enough not to brag. You might be suprised at where true intimacy and trust might take you physically.