Marriage & Divorce - 26 April 2007

2007-04-26 14:38:55 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

i mean i had this boyfriend right but he broke my heart really bad, he basically was cheating on me but yet i still kept a lil hope he may still love me, but know i completly understand what i was for him, nothing much but some past time, he left with this other girl who at first he use to told me alot of bad stuff about her, but know they are together which i dont understand, i dont understand what i did wrong or soemhting i mean he left with the girl he use to hate and left me all broken hearted. but i also dont wnat to go like nothing have happen,i am angry at him hes nothing but an ingrate he didnt appreciate what i felt for him, so anyone can be kind and tell me how can i let him know how much he hurt me, but also whitout feeling desperate.

2007-04-26 14:31:36 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

My Husband and I have been married for 1 year. He owes his ex-wife $1,000.00 (court ordered) a month for child support. They have 50/50 custody, and we honestly have them more than their mom does. For the last several years he has been paying $1320.00 a month ($519 comes out of his check auto. for her car payment, and he writes her a $400.00 check 2x a month, when he gets paid.) Finally he has realized that OUR bills need more attention and has told her that he can't just GIVE her an additional $320.00 a month. Here is my problem... He has already paid the car (519) and written her a check for $400.00...so all he owes her for this month is $81.00. Well, he doesn't want to just give her the 81 he wants to give her $240.00 (half of what he'll owe her monthly, in additiion to the car payment). Am I wrong for getting upset about this? I don't understand why he just wants to give her money. We need it for OUR bills, the girls live here too! Any suggestions?

2007-04-26 14:27:02 · 14 answers · asked by Amers 1

Every time I try to motivate my husband to do his part for our future (get a job or do what he says he's going to do) he threatens to leave me.I moved to a new city w/ lots of jobs and opportunity with my husband 6 weeks ago. He hasn't been looking but found a part-time temporary under-the-table through a friend. I told him tonight that it's find and I appreciate the cash but why isn't he looking for a permanent real job anymore. Of course, he threatens to leave me again and this time adds that I should be happy he's helping ME out. No, he doesn't have savings or a trust fund that help with living. So, I told him the last time that I don't deserve a husband that is always threatening to leave me. I'm guessing that if I don't make good on it being the last time, it'll continue and I'll be stuck insecure and feeling used (again). So, how long am I supposed to put up with it? Is there a better way (besides having ltalks about how unfair it is to always threaten divorce)?

2007-04-26 14:24:41 · 10 answers · asked by LaMorena 2

I am 50 and semi attractive and notice that men my age are not really happy to give back physically....Is there any age group that does or is it just a person by person situation or maybe geographical?

2007-04-26 14:14:36 · 16 answers · asked by flame57 2

MY WIFE AND I HAVE TWO KIDS BETWEEN US AND SHE BROUGHT THREE INTO THE RELATIONSHIP WHILE I BROUGHT TWO INTO IT. SHE'S VERY MENTALLY ABUSIVE TO THE KIDS AND SOMETIMES PHYSICAL. SHE DEGRADES MY CHILDREN ON MOST OCCASIONS BY USING RACIAL WORDS I.E. WET BACK ,ETC. NEEDLESS TO SAY I'VE DECIDED TO END THE MARRIAGE AND START NEW. WHAT LEGAL RIGTH DO I HAVE WITH GETTING CUSTODY OF MY TWO KIDS? AND WHERE DOD I NEED TO TURN?

2007-04-26 14:12:44 · 6 answers · asked by R C 1

I have caught my husband in many lies over the 7 1/2 years we have been together. The latest was when his ex-girlfriend called, and he lied about who she was, he says because we were already arguing. When she called I sat there (acting oblivious), and he looked like he had something caught in his throat, when he told her that he was "sitting here with my wife and kids". should I believe him that he is not interested in her since he told her that?

2007-04-26 14:04:59 · 17 answers · asked by myerskribbs 1

I'm 29 and have a 49 yr old partner, he wants to marry me but am i at risk or are older man better then young men in trust wise issues.

2007-04-26 14:01:31 · 11 answers · asked by malieta s 1

me and my husband got in a big fight today over the fact of doing things for my mom who is verry tight on money right now and he seems to flip out anytime I want to do things for her such as take he out to dinner and such( she seprated from my father now and is going though a hard time) anyways we got in a fight about it saying that he doesent do things for his mom so he should not have to do things for my mom. I told him he is welcome to do things for his mom. then after fighting about this for awaile I sad fine let have a money limet like spend no more then 20 bucks(witch is verry little) on her a month and he fliped out on me. saying that just becuse my dad is not here for her that he does not have to take the place of him. witch im just doing it to be kind me and my mom had a ruff time growing up. then he say well his mom doesent have money eather. Anyways am I wong for wanting to do stuff for my mother? and how do I deal with this?

2007-04-26 13:45:19 · 15 answers · asked by jeziyo 2

my caught my botherinlaw spying on my getting dressed .my husband doesnt believe me , he just wants to sweep under the carpet . like it didnt happen .......i feel vialated .and angry my husband wont stand up to his brother .What should I do ?If i approach him about it I know my husband is going to get ferious

2007-04-26 13:40:44 · 31 answers · asked by dulcemama619 1

Who do you or would you put first? Yourself, your child(ren) or your husband and why?

2007-04-26 13:27:29 · 46 answers · asked by journeythroughlife85 2

So, I've been married for 7 years. It’s been rocky since the beginning, but we've been stubborn enough to get though the rough patches. Now, we're separated, but still married (due to work - I'm now in another state for at least the next 6 months, make it home every other weekend). She's pulling away from me again, this time; I think I should let her go.

We have no kids, she's not pregnant (she can't get pregnant - medical reasons), and she's done this before. Usually, I pull us back together, but now that I've lived on my own again for the first time in 10 years, I'm wondering if it’s worth it. If she wants to pull away, why don't I let her go?

There's no one else for me out there, I'm not having an affair (don't think she is), so it’s not about running into open arms.

What do you think?

2007-04-26 13:24:54 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband doesn't ever want to have sex as much as I do, how can I make him want it more...ideas please?!?!?!

2007-04-26 13:05:55 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I found out that he has been a go going thing for over one and a half year. Recently, she found out that he has been cheating on her too! and decided to sent me this ... after she found out that he has been replying ad on criag's list. What should I do?
I am 48 yrs old and mother of 2 , ages 17 and 18.

He wrote,
Hi, I'm a WM, looking for someone special. Someone with a little (or big) something extra. Preferably TV TS, but a passable CD could get me going too. I have a strong sex drive so i'm always horny so write me and maybe we can play!

2007-04-26 13:01:04 · 45 answers · asked by Bionicgirlz 2

i have been with my bf for 5 yrs now and his exwife(who he has a child with)is still as bitter/jealous as ever of me.now he wants to get married but i don't know if i can take it she makes my life hell.to make matters worse he will not stand up for me in fear of hurting his child and she nows this.

2007-04-26 12:59:41 · 7 answers · asked by cassygooyu 1

1st marrage. but then when u told him u were pregnant with his child and wanted to keep it he came up with every excuse known to man to"get rid of it".how can a man love one child so much but feel nothing for anouther?I don't think its because he does not love me as my friend told me hes been looking at rings for me.

2007-04-26 12:50:10 · 16 answers · asked by melindamartin768023 1

me and my husband has been married for 12 years and the sex is good when i get it,but the problem is that i don't get it to often, maybe twice a week. if that. I know he is not cheating because he works all the time and i know where he is all the time and we do have a close relationship.

2007-04-26 12:38:01 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

my daughter goes to see her bio dad and he still does nothing but badmouth me to her. she came home one day at age 3 singing mommys a b... he tells her things like I am the reason he is not around and bad mouths my current husband to her also, of whom she calls daddy on her own and is very fond of him. now she is 5 calls on weekends she is at bio dads, crying to me how she does not want to be there and wants me to come and get her, which is not allowed. i have made a promise not to bad mouth my ex, since my mom did that to me when she divorced my dad and it was awful. i try to just deal with the situation at hand and tell her her real dad loves her and it is his turn to spend time with her, but she doesn't want to be over there still. what should i do

2007-04-26 12:33:46 · 8 answers · asked by im done 2

2007-04-26 12:26:47 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

Why are men so worried about "toys" in bed?

2007-04-26 11:59:28 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

her real father did not come into her life till she was 9 mo. old. My husband and i have been dating since she was 2 mo. old. he takes financial responsibility and carries her on our insurance. her bio-father doesn't pay his child support like he is supposed to and refuses to hold a job and carry insurance.

2007-04-26 11:43:19 · 54 answers · asked by im done 2

I am due to wed my fiance soon, and I don't know if I can go through with it...like ever. We started out so perfect together. (Like we all do) We are soo much alike and share common interests. It's like fire when we are on top. Problem..we do nothing now but fight. He is controlling all the way and cuts me off whenever I speak or show any feeling about anything. He is so very hurtful and he admits he is an #$#%#%@, but tells me to take it or leave it. He says he was raised this way and can't stop, and doesn't know how. I had a problem upbringing but wanted better for myself and became who "I" wanted to be. He says he can't. I think it is a load of crap. Can anyone give me any ideas? I love him but not sure if my love is enough anymore. We have almost no connection anymore....I am lost!

2007-04-26 11:42:51 · 15 answers · asked by lsbisson 1

my wife is depressed. she thinks i'm the cause of everything. when i first met her she was so happy that i came to save the day from her evil parents. now i'm evil and she's depressed. she also told me she was depressed in college to the point she couldn't get out of bed half the time. she's making me feel like i'm the cause and she's looking on divorce sites. she doesn't understand that it will be a temporary high to get divorced and be single again then everything will come crashing down. we have 3 kids that we worked so hard with. 2 are mine and she has a daughter. im extremely frustrated. one day she tells me im the man of her dreams. the next i see she's looking at divorce attorneys on line. what the heck! i'm extremely frustrated and threaten to leave her if she doesn't get help. besides that option what else can i do? it's affecting me now.

2007-04-26 11:28:37 · 14 answers · asked by golf4everdude 1

Is that bad?

2007-04-26 11:16:10 · 10 answers · asked by Shadow 4

I mean, especially young people.I personally think that you should know the person for quite a while before you do something drastic.Because, you know not everyone can be faithful especially when they are young and naive.Whats your views on this issue?

2007-04-26 11:15:11 · 6 answers · asked by Peta-Gaye W 1

I'm 21 and my wonderful 28 year old bf has been married before. My mom is totally against me marrying him. She said I "deserve" someone who hasn't been married...she feels like he's had his chance and is cheating me out of mine. In her eyes, he's just not "good enough". Any truth to that?

2007-04-26 11:10:38 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 16 & he is 14. Today i took him to the mall we were hanging out playing games in the arcade .We hang b/c we r close. At closeing time 4 girls started to flirt w/ him... He was acting like a jerk kissing one of them. They were all older but he likes older more exp. girls. I went to the car & waited he kept hanging w/ these girls. So I should have left him i was so mad . But I didn't want him to walk home It was far from his sisters house. When i started to leave One girl gave him a #. I told him Let her take you home. he said No babe im w/ you. I told him You r rude to let me wait. I was screaming at him . Then he laughed & I laughed & then it was over . Why did I get so mad? After we went to the lake and throw stones . He always trys to make me jealous b/c he throws better than me....

2007-04-26 10:49:34 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

What could be your conditions to choose a disabled man/woman to get married, or if you've found disabled man/woman could be the one for you?

2007-04-26 10:48:26 · 27 answers · asked by mary2 2

If part of the custody agreement states that the parents can't take the children out of the state without notifying the other parent, even for vacation.. what can be done about this?

2007-04-26 10:35:00 · 9 answers · asked by Nikki 2

totallylost put this at the end of her answer to me....do you agree?
they say you don't know someone till you get married, that's true...but you REALLY don't them till you try to divorce them! that's when you really see them for what they are....
.....my husband's actions make it hard to believe he ever loved me....told to get out but he'll miss kids, bitter custody fight out of spite, told I have mental problems and he wouldn't want me back unless I get help....and I thought I married a nice guy...LOL

2007-04-26 10:30:51 · 19 answers · asked by JustWant2B 5