my caught my botherinlaw spying on my getting dressed .my husband doesnt believe me , he just wants to sweep under the carpet . like it didnt happen .......i feel vialated .and angry my husband wont stand up to his brother .What should I do ?If i approach him about it I know my husband is going to get ferious
2007-04-26 13:40:44 · 31 answers · asked by dulcemama619 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
******** Helloo! You are a grown woman! Go to your brother in law and let him know that you don't appreciate him violating your privacy. Let your husband get mad! It's your privacy that was violated! Go one step further and tell your husband that since you aren't comfortable with his brother around, he is not permited in your home!!! He doesn't have to say anything to his brother at that point (as long as he agrees) but he does have to allow you to be comfortable in your own home. Take the situation into your own hands since you are, sadly, on your own here.
2007-04-26 13:52:19 · answer #1 · answered by ionwheels03 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Next time he is visiting ask him in front of your husband why he was staring at you while you were dressing. Next time try to catch him watching you on video camera. Set up a camera and mention out loud that you will be going to get changed. Go change into something else and then show it to your husband. And if your brother in law is married, I would tell his wife. Even if she acts like she doesn't believe you, I think that she will put an end to him coming over without her with him. Good luck either way. Also, if that doesn't work, take your brother in law to the Maury show for a lie detector test. You husband won't be able to deny it then will he.
2007-04-26 14:01:56 · answer #2 · answered by lily_florance 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that I would be more furious w/ my husband for not taking my side then I would be for that pervert of a brother in law!! But as far as how to handle it?! Talk to your mom!! Mothers ALWAYS have the best advice AND they are ALWAYS on YOUR side!!
Unfortunately it doesnt sound like there is much that you can really do without ruining the relationship w/ your husband AND his family! That sick bro in law has really put you in a bind and it still flabergasts me that your husband doesnt have the balls to stick up to him!! What an ***!!!! Like I said, I would be really pissed at my husband too!!
Just make sure to stay as far away from the bro in law as possible and if your hubby doesnt understand that then you may want to rethink EVERYTHING about your marriage!! I KNOW that really sucks but you DESERVE a loving, supportive, understanding and PROTECTIVE husband!!!
If it was my husband I believe my bro in law would be in the hospital and my husband would be in jail!! LOL
Good luck and I am SO SORRY to hear of your problems!
2007-04-26 13:50:56 · answer #3 · answered by Kat J 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell your husband that you are very upset and do not like what happened. Then if your husband does not take care of it say something yourself. If your husband says anything to his brother you will know because the right thing for your brother in law to do is apologize. Tough break cause he will always remember what you look like naked.
2007-04-26 13:45:43 · answer #4 · answered by $$ bLatAntLy fLagRant $$ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him you saw him, you didn't like it, and you hope that it doesn't happen again. Your husband's approach doesn't solve any problems, and if you say this little to your brother-in-law likely nothing will get back to your husband.
Good luck - I hope this doesn't become a huge issue for you and your family, but it's always better to be upfront than to try to cover things up.
2007-04-26 13:46:02 · answer #5 · answered by superfish 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yea well nothing happened toyour hubby so he is of course fine but you cant just sweep it under the rug. i think YOU need to talk to your bro in law and let him know that that was not cool and if he does it again you are going ot call the cops. it is not ok to be peeping on anyone especially your family memeber. your hubby may be hurt but then now you can be even, now he can feel a lil hurt like you. good luck.
2007-04-26 13:48:07 · answer #6 · answered by Christina 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Explain to your husband how uncomfortable it makes you feel and tell him how worried you are and after you get your husband to agree with you then confront the brother-in-law! Theres no point starting a fight between you and your husband over this!
2007-04-26 13:45:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would approach my brother in law when you two were ALONE and it would not hurt to have a little mini recorder in your pocket when you do
Do not ask did you
SAY I SEEN YOU LOOKING! WHY DID YOU DO THAT... if he thinks you are alone maybe he will spill his cuts. But the recorder also protects you in case he goes back saying you talked about some thing Differant..... YOU WILL HAVE PROOF
2007-04-26 13:46:24 · answer #8 · answered by Peggy C 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should lock the door when your brother in law is at the house or change in the bathroom. If the opportunity is there some people just take it. Not saying it was right but how can he watch if the door was shut and locked?
2007-04-26 13:45:35 · answer #9 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, If my husband were unwilling to do something, I would do it and the brother would no longer ever be welcome in my home. If my husband did not like it he could leave with him. I would not be violated in my own home, and especially by someone who is suppose to be a family member. I would leave if nothing were done immediately. No questions asked, gone. God bless****
2007-04-26 14:22:21 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋