Who do you or would you put first? Yourself, your child(ren) or your husband and why?
2007-04-26 13:27:29 · 46 answers · asked by journeythroughlife85 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I believe you should put your children first. You took on a great responsibility when decided to have them. You have to take care of them and guide them. As for you and your husband--that should be equal. You should take care of him, but in the same he should be taking care of you. Then have a balance. Unfortunately in the real world it doesn't always work that way, so always make sure you have time for something for you. Relationships are hard and as much as you take car of everyone, make sure you take care of yourself too.
2007-04-26 13:34:46 · answer #1 · answered by katmusic 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I agree and disagree depending on the situation. I know that in order to have a strong family foundation you need to have a strong relationship with your spouse, this would put them before your children. If your relationship with your spouse is good your children will feel more secure and confident. They won't be worring about what's wrong with mom and dad. I think the best thing is to find a good balance. I find myself putting my children before any relationship I have, and I think that's the mom instinct that just comes in and takes over. If it's the husband or the child in an accident I would run to my child and then my husband. Right or wrong smallest one first. Great question! I love these that are a little more challenging to answer.
2016-04-01 09:10:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
0. God
1. Husband
2. Yourself
3. children
2007-04-26 15:21:53 · answer #3 · answered by prouddaddy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If the children are younger than 12 yrs., then the children come first. If not, then you come first, then the children. Sorry, but the husband is last.
Your children will always be your children, but your spouse may not always be your spouse. As for you, you only live once.
You are given one mind, one soul, and one body. You must always be good to the tree of them so others will know they must be good to your mind, soul, and body too. We treat people how to love us.
2007-04-26 16:07:27 · answer #4 · answered by TheWiseOne 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have to say you, and let me explain why. If you don't take care of yourself first, you can't take care of anyone else either. By that I mean enough sleep, eating right and exercising. You need a healthy mind and body. After that, the needs of the family will fall into place. Sometimes it's the kids, sometimes it will be the spouse. Either way, be good to yourself so you can be good for your family.
2007-04-26 13:58:53 · answer #5 · answered by wolffpac2b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when I was growing up, my mother always tell me that when I have my own family, the person that I need to put first will be my husband and then myself. If and when I become a mother it will be my child, then my husband and then myself. I did wonder why my mother said that to me, she said it's your unconditional love that will guide you in the right direction, and because you already know yourself and who you are, it will be your child,and partner that comes first to complete the cycle of life, and you know, my mother was right even though that she didn't had the Chance to see her only grand children..
2007-04-26 13:53:19 · answer #6 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it all depends on the situation. if the children are being harmed in anyway, then the children come first. if everything is great than the marriage comes first...that means you and your husband. if you neglect your husband than your marriage will suffer. but on the other hand if the children are in danger or are sick or need something that cannot wait, then the children come first. all you have to do is use your common sense that God gave you.
2007-04-26 13:31:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I tend to put myself last thinking that is my job to look after everyone else. But if you go by what the airlines tell you at the beginning of a flight then you always put your own oxygen mask on before helping someone else. So, put yourself first and then you'll be in better shape to help others. Good luck.
2007-04-26 13:31:07 · answer #8 · answered by MJ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My children. The only relationship that can ever truly feel unconditional love is the parent/child relationship. My children are my life. And too many times in my marriage, I've been put down and called ugly names by my husband.
2007-04-26 15:19:18 · answer #9 · answered by kari w 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
always put God first my friend then he will guide and lead you. How ever it will all fall in place . Look to your bible for guidance. trust me ok. This is the order it shall flow in GOD + You+ Husband and You as one no comparision for kids, no competing at all so tell both sides at once you will not make a choice and the choice is theirs to wherther they want to be in your life or not. Then evey thing will be ok. Work it out and mean it. Stop being a victim be strong. always think work it out not who come first because GOD comes first ok. Ms. miamigurlfly
2007-04-26 13:43:29 · answer #10 · answered by msmiamigurlfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋