Would you choose a disabled man/woman to get married?

Question

What could be your conditions to choose a disabled man/woman to get married, or if you've found disabled man/woman could be the one for you?

Complement by the answer from Aakash. I can say I'm a disabled one. As being this I wouldn't 'choose' a disabled one to marry because I think "a blind cannot to guide another blind." But, I really would marry a disabled one, without doubts, if we could feel well to each other and to make ourselves a happy and peaceful life, solving all problems we could have and increasing better days to future. (As to have match/found a correct person to live with! Like the love of the life.)

I'm very honest to say today (04,27th/2007), I've found many very good answers. And it's impossible to me to choose a best one. I'm sorry!
Thank you very much!

Answer 1

I'm too old now to give reply to this question but definitely if I was to get married to a lady with disability I would have done so, given her full love & affection, cared about her needs & provided her with every thing I could afford to give as a husband. The only condition regarding her disability that I would have preferred was her being only dumb not even deaf. I know many married men in the world will agree with me.

Answer 2

Disablity could be of many types - it could be physcial, mental or gentical.

In all the above except for a mental disablity the others should not be an issue at all. Because for a marriage more than anything its union of two minds.

When most of us decide to marry, we expect our partner to be a part of us for the rest of our lives mentally and psycologically and we do not marry a woman looking at her as a sex or a baby making machine.

Sex though definitly is a part of marriage - how long would it last? Beauty again for how long would it last? Again who could go against fate lets say after marriage due to an accident or un avoidable circimstance your partner gets physiclaly disabled and due to this would you dump the person? - At least in India we would not even think of it.

Geneticaly, if there is some problem one could go and adopt kids and thus in a way do some good deed towards the society.

Therefore all we need ot look in our would-bes is the beauty skin deep and on the compatibilty for the rest of your 2's lives.

Answer 3

kudos! a really interesting and important question ,to be answered
not only by the physically CHALLENGED but also by those who care for them..It covers sociology,psychology and some more aspects of life.First of all one should know that P.C persons feel
uneasy when normal persons feel SYMPATHY and try to help them whenever a task can be done by self.LOVE can not blossom
out of sympathy.A PCperson can get assistance from an attendant himself. If so, what does he/she need? Love.Love & affection from the spouse.If the partner is prepared to ignore the PC's disability,
show true love and never even make a hint of sacrifice made and
encourage PC to overcome the disability both physically &mentally,
it could be an exemplary life.Well wishers of the both should not
discourage them. Such an understanding and affectionate partner
will be a blessing for many physically challenged !

Answer 4

Woman here----sorry. What do children have to do with it? I mean, say A: with job or without or B: child or no child. Why does it have to be with a job and a disabled child? Your making it sound like a woman with a job these days is scarce and is it worth risking if she has a disabled child. How insensitive of you. Then you go to paint what you think could even compare to this by saying the second woman is divorced and unemployed. How do either of these compare? Seriously? Where's love, commitment, loyalty, friendship? Where's the stuff that make a person a person? A heart and soul.....

Answer 5

Normally people dont prefer disabled, but if u talk and think sensibly, then i guess a disabled person is also likable, it depends on how much he or she is disabled. Ive seen people who look decent and sometimes a lot beautiful are also disabled in some way but still they get married and live a very good life .. and some times u actually kow that u dont need anyone else but this lady or guy.. dont matter what they are like..

Answer 6

Disability has nothing to do with the nature, heart, thinking and family background of man/woman. In india 30% of womans are harrassed by there husband and in laws, they all are normal person. What you think now ? If you really like the nature and clean heart of that person then i think there will be no hesitation in accepting that man / woman. If fact you will stay happy for your entire life since you have got a very understandable partner.

Answer 7

I think a person's inner qualities and emotional compatibility with a partner far outweigh physical considerations. My husband is partially disabled. He can't run and he can't walk or stand for long periods of time and he is often in pain. While it is hard to see him in pain and while I sympathize with his frustration over what he can't do, I think his disability draws us closer together rather than otherwise. In any relationship there are going to be upsides and downsides and I would choose my husband over anyone else. We have a wonderful, loving, mutually respectful, intimate relationship. He is sometimes concerned about the possibility that I may have to care for him as time goes by if his disability worsens but that is something I would be happy to do for him. One thing to remember is that any person may become disabled at any time so even people who choose a physically "perfect" mate may end up with a disabled one or may end up disabled themselves. The important thing is love. :)

Answer 8

Any physical disability is meaningless in deciding to marry them. Does anybody know what love is? The only way a mental disability can get in the way is if, and only if, two people can't emotionally connect. Otherwise a disability is meaningless. Many people think it does matter, but that's why our world has a lot of problems.

Heath

Answer 9

If you are the one who is disabled and asking to see what kind of responses you get, then I say if you fall in love hopefully someone hasgotten to know you and loves you despite the disability. If you are the person thinking about marrying someone with a disability, and you have to ask this question, then don't do it. You are not going to be happy in a marraige of this kind.

Answer 10

Yes..I am married to a disabled person. There is no difference in our life to one that doesn't not included a disabled person except when it comes to sex. Each person needs to be accepted that each person has sexual needs and they will need to be dealt with differently. So as long as you have an open mind and jealousy doesn't play a part.. You can have a successful relationship