1st marrage. but then when u told him u were pregnant with his child and wanted to keep it he came up with every excuse known to man to"get rid of it".how can a man love one child so much but feel nothing for anouther?I don't think its because he does not love me as my friend told me hes been looking at rings for me.
2007-04-26 12:50:10 · 16 answers · asked by melindamartin768023 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My first instinct here was to tell you to kick him to the curb and have and love your child. However after reading some of the other comments here I think maybe I would sit him down and ask him how he really feels about keeping the baby. If he is still adamant about not wanting this child, then he isn't the kind of man that will be there for you in the long run. Don't do anything for him that you will have to live with the rest of your life. Good luck and remember that the world is full of fatherless children who get all of the love they need from Moms and family.
2007-04-26 15:47:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are pegging this guy all wrong. Men do NOT love their unborn children as women do...the fetus is an unknown entity in his mind, nothing but trouble and money as far as he can see. Men don't develope the parental caring until after the child is born, is helpless in his arms, etc. Hell, I didn' t want my first one at all, would not have minded on bit had my wife had an abortion..but after he was born, within a few weeks, the feelings were all in place. Stop with the worry, time will work it out. You already know he is a good father, so half the battle is finished. Not all men make good fathers, that is for sure.
2007-04-26 12:58:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming that this pregnancy was not planned? I know this guy who was with the same woman and had two children by her. The first he adored and loved but the second, he questioned paternity, said the child was not his. This woman, literally had to sue him for child support for the second child, because of this DNA tests were ordered. The results came back 99.99%, but he still didn't respond to the second child. They both were girls, both resembled each other, just 15 months age difference. But for some reason he could not accept the child. People have to learn that God gave us hearts and the human heart has the capacity to love. Just like me with my kids, I love them all. Not one more than the other. I feel for your plight, I know you want him to be happy about this baby, but maybe in time the love he have for you will extend to this new life you have inside of you.
2007-04-26 13:11:00 · answer #3 · answered by stepintostep 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it has nothing to do w/him loving one child over the other. maybe he's not ready to have more kids right now. but this is something that should've been discussed before you started acting like you were married. i suggest you sit down and have a long talk a/b your future together to make sure you want the same thing. i'm not trying to be smart but since you're now having a baby you need to grow up and fast. the both of you and remember children are a gift from GOD, and not everyone is given that gift.
2007-04-26 13:01:55 · answer #4 · answered by freedom fighter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may not be ready for another child yet, but that's no excuse to act the way he is. The child deserves the best. He should of thought about that before getting you pregnant. But he is going to have to learn both children equally now.
2007-04-26 13:24:43 · answer #5 · answered by benji 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful of this guy, first problem is getting pregnant with a man you're not married to, I know alot out there will say it happens all the time now a days, but I have always felt there was an order to things and marriage should always come before kids. Was is first child also out of wedlock? Watch out for him to bolt on you. and Good Luck
2007-04-26 12:57:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bringing a child into the world should be a joint decision between two people. He probably wasn't psychologically ready for another child when you broke the news to him. Sit down with him and discuss frankly. You are probably jealous of his son. Try showing him love as well. It will allay his fear that you may only love your child when it arrives.
2016-05-19 21:10:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So its like "where's the beef'- and now where is the ring. Sounds like he is really immature and although accepts responsibility for a child form previous marriage is unwilling to take on any more responsibility. Sorry but- its not about the first born- its about him being selfish and immature.
2007-04-26 12:55:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want the responsibility of another child. I am assuming he is paying child support, why would he want to pay more child support? You don't have a ring yet, so you really really don't know where he stands only he does.
2007-04-26 12:56:38 · answer #9 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you talk about having a child before you got pregnant? I am married and my husband has made it clear from the start he did'nt want anymore kids.He has 2 and pays child support and med. insurance for both.This is a very big chunk of money every month.Don't get me wrong it's his responsability,but maybe this is what is on your mans mind.Just ask him ,hopefully you have good comunication with him.Good luck
2007-04-26 13:10:44 · answer #10 · answered by campsorenson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋