I have caught my husband in many lies over the 7 1/2 years we have been together. The latest was when his ex-girlfriend called, and he lied about who she was, he says because we were already arguing. When she called I sat there (acting oblivious), and he looked like he had something caught in his throat, when he told her that he was "sitting here with my wife and kids". should I believe him that he is not interested in her since he told her that?
2007-04-26 14:04:59 · 17 answers · asked by myerskribbs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
why is his ex callin him????????? alarm bells
2007-04-26 14:07:21 · answer #1 · answered by alroka 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From a male perspective, I would say yes. If not he will be sleeping with her again soon, if you don't do something now. Exes are no good. You can try to be friends and all, but in the end there are always some kinda feelings still there, and when a mans hormones act up, you know what happens. If he is cheating on you though and you know for sure, divorce his sorry ***. If you are suspicious where he has been one day, take his underwear and have the DNA tested in them. I know it sounds a little drastic, but it will tell you the truth. Just make sure you are absolutely sure he was with her. Then if the DNA is wrong, you will no that it was all in your head.
2007-04-26 21:17:03 · answer #2 · answered by badass6927 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were there, you know him better than we do. If you have to ask, he probably is. Then the next question is Why are you still with some guy who treats you this way..... 7.5 years of lies? god, hon, how do you stand it? If you're a bright lady, take care of yourself, and have lots on the ball, there are just toooooooo many neat guys out there to put up with one soooo flawed. In your place, I'd get a few sessions of counseling to figure out why I was willing to settle for so little. Marriage is lovely, and time with an appropriate partner in a marriage is the only way to live.... and life is sooo short.
2007-04-26 21:15:20 · answer #3 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he's having an affair....he was probably just caught off guard. But I also do not think that he should be talking to his ex.
It depends though...are they good friends? Are you apart of that friendship? If not, then he should not be talking to her!!! Make it clear that he's opening doors and that it doesn't make you comfortable if he's in contact with her.
This is exactly why I hate pagers, cell phones, and internet!!! LOL I'm very happy that my hubby nor I own a cell phone!!
2007-04-26 21:16:35 · answer #4 · answered by Liz B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is what I see, he lied because he didn't want confrontation or to be accused of something he didn't do. I am going to assume this is his reaction to things in the past as well.
If he was actually cheating you would know it, 90% of people who cheat aren't good at covering up everything.
Sounds like you two need to get soem counceling and learn how to communicate and fight fair.
2007-04-26 21:13:07 · answer #5 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although it looks suspicious, it doesn't seem to me like an affair. A woman you're having an affair with knows when to call you and when not to. She's not going to call when you're at home and there's a good chance that your wife is home as well. Unless, of course, she's crazy, in which case, let him go - maybe she's what he deserves.
2007-04-26 21:12:46 · answer #6 · answered by joss1925 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no ! he told her that to let her know he couldn't talk because you were sitting right there in front of him.obviously she knows he's a married man. maybe she's married too. if he wasn't interested he could have told her to leave him alone and not to call anymore.
2007-04-26 21:16:00 · answer #7 · answered by leapyrangels 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes 100%
2007-04-26 21:09:30 · answer #8 · answered by Tan Boon Hwee k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's his X. You're his wife. You've caught him in many lies.
Add it up.
2007-04-26 21:22:55 · answer #9 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just mentioned that he is a liar! You tell us, should you believe a liar?
2007-04-26 21:10:57 · answer #10 · answered by momfirst101 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her and ask her ... or ask him to pass over the phone and let you speak to her... you need to know how was she reacting.
2007-04-26 21:13:06 · answer #11 · answered by Bionicgirlz 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋