MY WIFE AND I HAVE TWO KIDS BETWEEN US AND SHE BROUGHT THREE INTO THE RELATIONSHIP WHILE I BROUGHT TWO INTO IT. SHE'S VERY MENTALLY ABUSIVE TO THE KIDS AND SOMETIMES PHYSICAL. SHE DEGRADES MY CHILDREN ON MOST OCCASIONS BY USING RACIAL WORDS I.E. WET BACK ,ETC. NEEDLESS TO SAY I'VE DECIDED TO END THE MARRIAGE AND START NEW. WHAT LEGAL RIGTH DO I HAVE WITH GETTING CUSTODY OF MY TWO KIDS? AND WHERE DOD I NEED TO TURN?
2007-04-26 14:12:44 · 6 answers · asked by R C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My oldest daughter from my previous marriage is 17. My two children with her are 5 and 3. i have another daughter that moved out as soon as she turned 18 to get away from her.
2007-04-26 14:25:12 · update #1
hire an attorney, first and foremost.
keep a journal, take notes from now until you leave. keep taking notes of phone calls & conversations & contact your wife has with your kids.
if anyone has heard her being verbally abusive-ask them to write a statement for you documenting it, giving the date/occasion and what was said.
when you move out, take your kids with you. if you leave the kids with her, you'll have a hard time getting them back. i would suggest that you meet with your attorney before moving out and having the paperwork prepared before you move out. file a petition asking for temporary custody.
when you move out, you should obtain a nice clean home with appropriate furniture. have child care lined up with a responsible person.
don't argue or become physical with your wife. if you do, she can use it in court against you.
2007-04-26 15:51:35 · answer #1 · answered by Susan D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a child protective worker for 40 years. I recommend you file for custody and be able to show when and for how long she left the children, what she did to the children. Although CPS records are confidential, a judge can request the juvenile court judge allow him to look at the record, even if there has been no juvenile court involvment. The children need to be able to make clear statements about what has happened and who they want to live with. It is a myth that children of a certain age get to choose where they live. They opinion carries weight, that is all. Reconstuct the history will take some time but do your best - use on or about. Also, don't forget to ask for child support. ConnyL
2016-05-19 21:43:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
document document document. write down what she says, when she says it. have some evidence. if she calls and says something about the kids that is derogatory, save the message. how old are the kids? are they able to testify?
emotional abuse is just as bad as physical.
do NOT leave and leave the kids with her! once you do, you have set the precedence and will have a hard time getting them back! try to get her to leave and leave the kids with you
just make sure you are able to provide them a loving and caring home, without criticizing their mother. dont play into a tug of war with the kids with your wife. be the mature adult and be there for your kids and show them how you are not going to play into those games.
then get yourself a good attorney. good luck
2007-04-26 14:21:04 · answer #3 · answered by Dawni T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Report the abuse to DHS and then get an attorney. If abuse can be proved, you'll win hands down. Good luck!
2007-04-26 14:21:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to a lawyer
2007-04-26 14:16:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a good lawyer!
2007-04-26 14:15:45 · answer #6 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋