my daughter goes to see her bio dad and he still does nothing but badmouth me to her. she came home one day at age 3 singing mommys a b... he tells her things like I am the reason he is not around and bad mouths my current husband to her also, of whom she calls daddy on her own and is very fond of him. now she is 5 calls on weekends she is at bio dads, crying to me how she does not want to be there and wants me to come and get her, which is not allowed. i have made a promise not to bad mouth my ex, since my mom did that to me when she divorced my dad and it was awful. i try to just deal with the situation at hand and tell her her real dad loves her and it is his turn to spend time with her, but she doesn't want to be over there still. what should i do
2007-04-26 12:33:46 · 8 answers · asked by im done 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sorry i was in the same situation just keep praying and God will help you and your daughter get out of that situation God helped me
2007-04-26 12:37:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would seek legal help.
I'm sorry, but a 3 year old calling mommy the b-word?!?!?! That's ridiculous!!
He should not be teaching your child such things!!!
If you ask me, that's reason enough to prove that he's an unfit parent. She's old enough to say she doesn't want to be there, I would think in court that they could take away all custody rights!!
If I were you, and in that situation....I would allow no more than supervised visits, and VERY LIMITED supervised phonecalls.
I'm sorry that your poor child has to go through this. And good luck!!
Honestly, you may think you are doing the right thing by letting daddy be in her life......but you could be hurting her in the long run.
Do what's best for her!!
2007-04-26 19:38:35 · answer #2 · answered by jezyka 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a Dad in the same boat with verbally abusive and angry Mom, and I really don't know. I want to see more answers on this.
There is no court that would take the kids away from a parent who can afford the care and doesn't have a big ding like gambling, drugs or immorality on their record. The abuser can just run their mouth. In my case I had copies of E-mails from the mother sent to the oldest daughter's account showing Mom's abusive actions, and the court just "reprimanded" her.
2007-04-26 19:38:32 · answer #3 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your problems should be worked out through a mediator. From what you tell, he a bad influence on the child. And I can see the situation taking it's toll on her eventually.
2007-04-26 19:38:13 · answer #4 · answered by Truth Hurts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep being the better person that you are. there's not much you can do a/b what he says a/b you and your husband. and the courts don't really worry a/b what 5yro what or to do or not so unless he's beating on her there's not much you can do here,sorry b/c you will be the one to get in trouble if you go against the court.
2007-04-26 20:11:28 · answer #5 · answered by freedom fighter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a talk with your ex, and tell him to grow up and stop putting this little girl thur hell! If that don't work take him to court and maybe loseing his right to see her will force him to grow up. He needs to know that the little girl is the only one being hurt....and to get over it.
2007-04-26 19:41:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why can't you get a good attorney?? my friend spent 6 mos. out of every year at her dads and he always sexually abused her. have her tell a child physicatrist how she feels at his house. that negative talk is child abuse--how do you sleep nights?
2007-04-26 19:56:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take her to a councilor and have her talk to him. Let the councilor determine what is wrong. This will help her and you.
This can not hurt but help.
2007-04-26 20:07:17 · answer #8 · answered by Jose M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋