For starters I have about 4 weeks to go with baby #4. I am now on bed rest, was working 70 hours a week. So other than being worn out from the kids, housework and tired belly, my hubby just will not communicate with me. I try giving him hugs and kisses when he gets in the door. But his usual routine is come in sit on the couch, watch the tube, eat, shower and sleep. It doesn't matter if I am nice or down right b!tchy, I can not get this man to talk to me. When I ask, he says all I do is just grouch. I admit that I do nag alot; but common, if you are ignored every single day, no matter how hard you try; I think you'd be the same way. Does anyone have any suggestions on a way to turn this around?
2007-04-26 18:31:13 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
P.S. I always try to look good and haven't gained much, just a li round belly and bigger boobs. He's gotta atleast appreciate that one lol.
2007-04-26 18:44:02 · update #1
Oh jeepers. People are so quick to say leave or to fill your head with crazy thoughts. Hun, I have the same thing going on. It is rough to say the least, but keep your head up ;). First of all, try spending some quality time with your kids before your new baby arrives. I have 3 and sometimes I wear myself out from trying to keep up with housework, meals, baths, keeping my husband happy if at all possible, and still trying to take care of myself. Being a mom is no easy job and when you have a husband that is less than supportive, it is just downright draining of all that you have. IF you can find someone to watch your kids, then maybe you could do something romantic for just the 2 of you that is if he is interested. Otherwise, I would suggest writing. Write down how you feel, how much you love him, how much you need him, how much you miss the things you used to do, how much it hurts you when he doesn't want to spend time with you. Don't let it come out as if you are attacking him, but let the words come from way down deep. Love is the key thing to remember if you choose to write. I have found that sometimes written words can come across so much better than when spoken because you can take the time to think through what it is you want to say. It has helped several times in my case - temporarily. If you believe in God, keep the faith that He will see you through this because He surely can. Much love to you and you are in my prayers.
2007-04-26 18:57:18 · answer #1 · answered by sizzlinhotmom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is just typical kind of man...they'll be like that knowing you'll stick around no matter what. First stop the baby producing, you have 4 now, that should be enough. 2nd, stop the nagging, guys hated that, even tough we knew it necessary, just talk what's important like he did. 3rd, don't stop impress him & expend your circle of friends....and all those worth if you still want him around. And don't forget always treat yourself better...
2007-04-26 18:54:12 · answer #2 · answered by butterflykiss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you aren't, but you have to check how much pounds heavier you are now than before, you might not look good, that is why your hubby gets turn off, you should consider that looking fresh and beautiful is the way to make your hubby stick to you, if you look lousy, then just wait for a few months, he might falls for another girl.
2007-04-26 18:39:35 · answer #3 · answered by emma l 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yeah! Get rid of the TV. He has three kids and a wife, he needs to communicate with them and spend time with them.
2007-04-26 18:35:05 · answer #4 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It is obviously not working out. Leave him for heaven's sake and for the sake of your kids.
2007-04-26 18:43:17 · answer #5 · answered by Leonie A 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋