For Marrieds only, Do you/and your spouse have non-mutual, opposite sex friends?

Question

what do you think about this issue?

Answer 1

Yes.

If it goes beyond "friends", you'd have a problem.

Answer 2

The only time non-mutual, opposite sex friends are allowed is when you had them before marriage. Even then an effort should be made to establish a relationship with the spouse. Personally, it is not good for a spouse to have non-mutual opposite sex friends.

Answer 3

Yes, we do. I think it is important to have mutual friends, but also non-mutual. With a healthy relationship, you should be able to have relationships with opposite sex individuals without your spouse being angry. As long as they are just friends, it is fine.

Sometimes it's hard to be the mutual friend when the couple is upset with each other, it puts them in the middle. If you have non-mutual friends, it allows each of you to vent without stressing out your mutual friends in the process.

Answer 4

My husband and I do not. I think you have to be mature and very comfortable and trusting in your relationship to have friends like that. My husband and I are young and still learning to fully trust one another. I personally think if you or your spouse have a friend of the opposite sex it makes the other person wonder too much if something else is going on or that something could happen. It causes too much stress on the relationship. If it is a co-worker I think that is ok but can still be tricky.

Answer 5

Yes, we do. And I think if this is forbidden in a marriage, then there's a big problem--lack of trust. A marriage cannot survive without trust.

With that said, the friendship/actions need to be appropriate. I’m not going to leave my husband at home on Saturday night while I go out bar-hopping with my male friend.

Answer 6

Yes! Just because you get married don't mean you give up your friends whether they are male or female. We don't have a friends night out with opposite sex friends. If we go out we go together. And those friendships have limitations after you get married I think!

Answer 7

No, my husband and I don't. I think it might be an unspoken rule that you can't hang out with another of the opposite sex without your spouse. There are too many potentials and possibilities...and it leaves too much room for jealousy. However, that rule does not apply if the opposite sex happens to be homosexual, as that is a safe zone.

But like I said, it's an unspoken rule. There are some people that disagree with me. I'm personally not comfortable with it because my husband and I were friends first...and that is a strong area for relationships to begin. Just because someone is married doesn't leave them immune to falling for someone else.

Answer 8

Off course we do, there's nothing wrong with it. His girlfriends turn out being my friends and my boyfreinds are his. We all get along as long as no one starts going beyond those limits. As long as there is trust and mutual respect in the relationship then there is nothing to worry about. I meet guy freinds all the time and girlfreinds too, I introduce him to them at the end they end up better friends. I don't get jealous, and he doesn't get jealous it all depends on the trust there is.

Answer 9

Yes we do. I have a really close guy friend that I have known since highschool. We talk everyday. We even have movies nights where I will cook for him or he will cook for me. My husband at first had issues but he got to know him also and now they get along great. I have no problem with any of his female friends. We both trust eachother.

Answer 10

Nope I gave them up when I married I do not believe you should have friends of the opposite sex unless you and your spouse know's them, and you are always out as a couple that you never go out with this friend without your mate!

Answer 11

a few - I don't see a problem, if you can't trust your spouse, what kind of relationship do you have! I don't get along with girls as well as he does, I'll go out with them (him and his female friends) occassionally, but it's more to get out of the house than anything...

Only once did a girl friend of his try to be "more", but he put a dead stop to it, and wound up not seeing her anymore because she was trying to get him to leave me... for the most part, people respect our relationship, and know better than to interfere with such love and trust.