What made you accept that YOU MARRIAGE WAS OVER?

Question

What happened to you or what did you do or what did fate bring? For some reason, people find it hard to accept even after the person has moved out.

Answer 1

When my wife decided to cut down having sex to 10 times a month and wouldn't even pencil me in for one of them.

Answer 2

It was not a matter of accepting. I knew the marriage was over. After seven years, we separated and were divorced 2 months later.

My ex and I are still good friends. We make much better friends than spouses.

We had no children together and no obligation to each other. We just became friends again...plain, simple friends. That can be a good thing.

And yes, I'm in a long term relationship now (2 years) that I'm very happy with.

Answer 3

I did find it hard to accept that is was over.....within my first marriage. I was involved in my second marriage(which only lasted 2yrs) and completely unhappy.....I took a hard look at the relationship between he and I, our environment, our dynamics and decided right then and there I was not going to life the rest of my life in an unhappy marriage. I spent many many years in my first one trying to make it work. I was now in my forties and feeling the physical effects of being so unhappy and within a non supportive marriage.
It was very difficult at the time to accept that I had failed again but knew 100% that I would be happier without him than with him. A controlling partner is not a marriage. Divorcing for a second time was truly starting over for me. I was in my early 40's and it was a huge financial hit for me.
That was three years ago........Today I am surrounded by friends, family who give a damn about me and have my back if I need them. My life is stable and full. I stay active with my two children, my interests, dating.

Answer 4

Actually it took another woman to make me realize it was over, but even then, I kept denying it, trying to rationalize it. I didn't want it to be over. But he quit communicating with me and spent less and less time at home. It was obvious that he was ready to move on even if I wasn't. And as difficult as it was to accept that, denying it was only prolonging the agony of separation. I wanted what we had. I wanted to be married and share the things we had shared. But the truth is, it wasn't like that anymore. Things change/ people change. You just have to accept that and move on. That doesn't mean it is easy. It's just a fact. Sorry if this is the situation you are in.

Answer 5

my boyfriend was married before we met and got a divorce. You dont really accept that marriage is over exactly.... you spent so much time with this person... some years.. you lived with this person..... theres a thing called memory.... and those things you can never forget.
You have to try to move on though.... meet new people... and learn from your mistakes.
its hard dealing with someone who's been married before... because they are extremely cautious and dont want to go through another divorce.

Answer 6

I realized it when I was alone in bed and felt utterly abandoned. I realized it when I saw how he screwed up my life and had so little concern for me. We broke up when I was in the middle of college...only 2 months to go! He assumed that I wouldn't care or feel so emotionally and mentally drained enough as it is.

I knew then, only a real person who has no care in the world for me would do that to me consciously. That's when I knew it was over.

Answer 7

After so many years of waiting that he will noticed me as a person that deserved affection, and passion. And the day that he told me he is developing deep feelings for this married woman that he had an affair with..

Answer 8

When I called a number on my phone bill in a place over 600 miles away, and heard "Hi, you reach Angela and asshole". Ok, it didnt' say asshole, but you know what I mean...right?? lol. Anyway, that's when I knew it was over, and I've been happily divorced now since 1998 (Christmas Eve the sheriff delivered the papers to me, my best Christmas EVER!!!)

Answer 9

It's always about trust. If their actions don't match their words, then trust isn't possible.
I don't care how many times they say I love you, if the actions toward your basic needs and some of your desires aren't fulfilling, then it's over and can never be recovered because to your ears it will sound like more empty manipulative promises.

Answer 10

When I called his job to talk to him, and they said he hadn't been employed there for over a week. I've been happily divorced for almost seven years now.