Marriage & Divorce - 24 April 2007

She and her husband just moved to my area about a year ago.She is absoultley amazing.stunning looks,intelligent,humble she has evreything.She actually married her husband a year 1 1/2 ago.This is actually her second marriage she married very young and her first husband just completly went crazy and just up and left leaving her and and thier small child.So it's very complicated as you can read. Anyways i've gotten to know her and have really developed a huge crush on her.She is 25 her husband is 42 and im 21 i just wanted to clarify that i dont have some "older wife leaves husband for younger man fantasy".I just love being around her.I know these feelings i have for her are completley innapproriate.My values and morals would never allow me to act on how i feel for her. It's just kinda of wierd because i haven't felt this way for a person before, so i dont completely trust myself.My question is how do i get over this crush? I really need some advice,i feel wierd even asking this question

2007-04-24 05:50:00 · 13 answers · asked by jncb85 1

2007-04-24 05:49:35 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I were getting a house built for the last year and I just got signed off the purchase contract yesterday. He is still on the purchase contract and will probably buy the house with a friend. I have been thinking about divorcing him for about 3 years now and we've been married for 4. I have left to my moms house about 7 times because of the fighting but always end up coming back in a day or two. I don't know what's wrong with me but even when we are not fighting I always think about what it would be like if I were in a relationship with someone else. Nothing sexual, I just don't get the physical attention I need from him like the hugs,kisses,cuddling that I need. I have told him many many times about this. But he is just not the type of person to give this affection. I feel like he doesn't love me all of the time because he doesn't do those things but I know he really does love me. We have two kids together and it seems like after 5 years we yell at eachother even worse.

2007-04-24 05:42:20 · 18 answers · asked by wifey 2

I received over $1000 a month for 11 years from my childrens' father and he recently died. He left a large estate to his children. I am struggling trying to get by with $1K less a month. Anyone know Illinois law who could help me with this?

2007-04-24 05:41:41 · 6 answers · asked by kannon320 1

My wife and her ex-boyfriend of almost 2 years communicate and keep in contact via e-mail and telephone it's not regular and she doesn't hide it from me but still it bugs the hell out of me. This guy is famous, so I suggested next time he's intown we get together for dinner so I can meet him too. She says she'd never cheat but I don't trust her with this guy because I know she has some feelings there. She says he is like a brother, but in an e-mail of hers I read to him she said that she is committed to our marriage and completely in love with me but feels guilt because she still feels like she loves him as well. I'm worried that this is temptation, an annoyance for me, and could be a basis for adultry. Am I overreacting?

2007-04-24 05:39:51 · 19 answers · asked by Dan 1

My wife passed away a month ago and Iposted my profile on Yahoo Personals.do you think Iwas wrong in doing ?
Should I wait longer (a year or so) I feel like I'm cheating on her
memory .

2007-04-24 05:12:40 · 25 answers · asked by Raymond F 2

So none of you would leave your hubby because his Johnson is too small?

2007-04-24 05:11:37 · 26 answers · asked by joe v 1

I have been with the same guy for two years and we have a baby. He cheated when I was pregnant (for about months) and even though this was over a year ago he still lies about it. For as long as we have been together he will lie about everything. I have threatened to leave him but he swears he will not lie again but he always does. I have another 3 year old daughter living with us as well and I want to do what is best for me and them. It boils down to this...love isn't always enough. If someone really loved you they would not lie right? Keep in mind this is the short version of things he has done. Do you think that a person will change if he has not done so the entire time you have been together?

2007-04-24 05:11:02 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

If someone can give me some insight on open marriages it would be a great help. All insight is good wether it be bad or good. If anyone knows of any chat groups on this subject it would be helpful as well.

2007-04-24 05:06:56 · 9 answers · asked by Wanda 1

My husband never wants to get his kids(grown) from his first marriage together with our 3 boys. I'm having a cookout with my family should I invite his kids? Our boys know who thier brothers and sister are but don't realy know them. He never wants our boys or me around his other kids. So should I invite them? I don't know if they will come or not.

2007-04-24 04:58:12 · 17 answers · asked by Vonvon 2

2007-04-24 04:54:19 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

We talked about it already, and his excuse is he doesnt want to "hurt me or the baby" i have told him that is not the case. It makes me feel unwanted and frustrated, i dont know if im just being too selfish but i dont think its fair that now that im pregnant he shows no interest in me in a sexual way., i've NEVER been the type to ask for it, so i feel silly doing it now. any advice. thanks.

2007-04-24 04:53:58 · 41 answers · asked by Bree-ana 2

The 80's and early 90's were fun. Nowadays, you wives are the most boring pieces of work I have ever seen.

My wife was right, most American women do not know how to relax and have fun. My wife is from Helsinki, Finland where they are SO OPEN MINDED. I love that country.

2007-04-24 04:51:02 · 32 answers · asked by sxycpl4ya 1

I’ll make a long story short, I been with this guy for 8 years on and off… and the last 4 years living together prior to him moving in he told me he had a child with another women while we was on/off, I was hurt then and still to this day. Since that day he told me I have never been able to look or respect him the way that I used to. Within the last 2 years I have told him on numerous occasions that I did not want to be with him. Once this is said he goes nuts, he try’s everything in his power to make it work. He just does not get the point/message.. Now I haven’t left because it’s my house. It’s getting to that point…
I have been on several dates, gave my cell number out ..etc chat online.. He knows most of what I do its no secret. And he still wont leave…………….HELP ME !!!!

2007-04-24 04:45:54 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Can't be my thought as I was not there!!!!!

2007-04-24 04:41:32 · 41 answers · asked by thehotmustards@btinternet.com 2

she always tells me she wishes I were bigger down there. I am small but that's what god gave me. Now she has successfully given me an inferiorarity complex because I am thinking she is flirting because she wants to find some man to get it on with that has a huge P.

Would any of you wives torment your hubby like this. Tell me I am small and flirt and dance with young men?

Am I wrong for confronting her? I am afraid if I confront her she might get mad????

2007-04-24 04:32:01 · 25 answers · asked by joe v 1

A bit back grand about our marriage.

We married 7 years, no children as we love each other too much. And my husband is 20 years older than me. I meet him when I was in Uni. He is a lecturer in the University. The one of the many reasons that I wanted to marry him because I have very bad childhood, my dad was passed away when I was 16, then my mother got re-married very fast. I was lived in a home with no love from my both my parents. Finally, I thought find him( my husband), and I thought he is very mature and very settled.

However, since last year, he was offered a very well paid job in another country where would take 8 hours by flight. I am also have a very good job, and very good paid. My life is here, I do not wish to sell our house and give up my job move with him to another country, this job requires to travel at least 6 to 10 months a year. So he basically won’t be at home if he takes this job which he loves to take it. If he miss this chance, he will never get another one.

I love him, and want him do well in life. But I just simply don’t think it would work between two of us if he takes this job. I don’t want to have a double life. Having a husband who never here! I am sure many people having this kind of life, but I just don’t think that is what I wanted in life.

My husband now is coming back in 7 weeks time to discuss what he is going to do with this job with me…. what should I do?

2007-04-24 04:28:09 · 31 answers · asked by Tomorrowalwaysbetter! 2

Well here's the thing...

My ex did me really bad. I'm not with him anymore.

He says he doesn't care about the kids. (1year & 5months)

Should I change they're last name to mine so that they have someone to identify with.

My family is what they know. I feel like they may ask one day, "Why do we have a different last name?"

For me there is only one thing holding me back, that is the birth certificates say they're birth name.

Please help. Need oppinions.

2007-04-24 04:26:50 · 19 answers · asked by That Gurl 1

I have 2 step sons aged 14 and 15 and a step daughter aged 16. Everything was allright until my stepdaughter turned 16. A sudden change her behaviour sadden me. She became rude towards me and loose all her manners. I tried talking to her but she just turn away and just ignore. I know im not her real father but she could just at least show her respect. i got no one to turn to to express my sadness. cause every time i tried to bring up this issue with my wife, i would end up being the one to blame. its like i cant even voice out anything about the kids. im so sad. i know its her kids but i treated them like mine. i showered them with love and never once i regard them not like my own. most of the time my wife and i argued is always because of the kids. nobody respects me now. im so sad. sometimes i feel like running away but i cant. i love my family. i love the kids. and i love my wife deeply. im so confused. what should i do. im going crazy...

2007-04-24 04:25:19 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

she thinks i am not giving adequate respect to her parents ,she is so hung up and touch on the idea that no kind of efforts work,i tried reasongin,explaning everything i can..still nothing...she picks up a fight over silly things and after a few hours of c0old war tell me its cause she misses me too much...i am gettin tired of all this fighting..its affecting my work ..and mor important my relationship with her ....please help

2007-04-24 04:19:34 · 18 answers · asked by gaurav 1

My husband and I seperated a while back and during our seperation we still communicated for the sake of the kids. I knew he had someone but never saw her. As I am sure he knew I had someone. Well, my son would tell me of a lady and when I inquired about it, my husband's mother said it was her neice. I really didn't think anything of it until he and I later patched things up. Well it was then I found out who she really was. I was pissed at him for not telling me in the beginning that she was his lover and not his cousin. Well, he broke it off and the mother kept up a relationship with this woman. Talking about me and trying to break up our marriage; even had the women come over and knock on our door. Well all that is past and now we are doing great! The only problem is the mother, she now trys to be sooo nice to me, but I dont give her the time of day. Am I wrong for not having anything to do with her? When she calls I don't even anser her calls, I just let him know she called!

2007-04-24 04:15:54 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife takes care of EVERYTHING in her family. So occasionally her grandma stays with us. Am I wrong to tell her I prefer her grandmother comes in on a Monday and leaves the following Sunday so I can have some alone time with her? She insists on keeping the grandmother until Monday, which means that our weekend is spent with my wife 'babysitting' her grandmother instead of me getting to enjoy a quiet weekend with my wife and baby. Why can't other siblings pitch in?

2007-04-24 04:11:19 · 30 answers · asked by miodragon 1

do u love her/him with all your heart mind body an soul

2007-04-24 04:10:10 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

She is a real pig, but I feel really froggy.

2007-04-24 04:06:58 · 8 answers · asked by Kermit 2

We are good friends now, it's just that I've never been on my own , I'm anxious and a little excited...I should be right??

2007-04-24 04:04:36 · 21 answers · asked by tuliosgurl 1

I am open minded, have nothing against bi sexuality. He also says he's faithful.

2007-04-24 04:00:53 · 18 answers · asked by JaguarWoman 3

Are u attracted to a certain race? if so, which one? aside from stereotypes, what are the benefits n downers? more details the better...

2007-04-24 03:54:27 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-04-24 03:48:59 · 16 answers · asked by dlouise212 1

We've been married for 4 years and have 2 small children and my husband has cheated 4 times, he has a drug and alcohol problem so he's never cheated sober, he's been drunk everytime, but that's no excuse. This last time the girl ended up pregnant and she's sure it's his and is keeping it. He says he don't want anything to do with it, which don't bother me at all. I'm now on prozac for depression and anxiety and things seem to be getting better but I still don't know what to do about this situation. I love him to death but I can't deal with any of this anymore, I don't want to leave him but if he continues his ways, I don't think I have a choice but to leave, but what about the kids? I don't want to take them away from their dad, who they love very much and I love him too, it's just too much and it scares me to think of what will happen if he drinks again, he may be going to jail in June for a DUI, I think it could be good though bc it will give him a chance to think about his life.

2007-04-24 03:42:54 · 24 answers · asked by poopykins81 3

Is he/she absolutely trusted by everyone to the point he's/she's respected as a good honest reliable person that couldnt do no wrong and has been living in the same village all of his/hers life so everyone knows them and all of this to be true of him/her.And you personally know he would never do this to anyone never mind yourself.
Well that was how everyone including me felt of my ex but none the less,he had an affair with our best freinds missus,,then became his best man and was still wanting to resume the affair,then he met me, and i became very close freinds with both of them,and we all socialised togethr.and still he was trying to resume the affair.Until she'd had enough of him trying it on with her and i found them out .Mr nice and could do no wrong in anyones eyes,disrespected all who loved him,new him,and respected him.he lied, cheated and hurt just about everyone he knew.So i ask again do you really know your partner.As i and no one else had any reason to distrust my ex.

2007-04-24 03:42:14 · 29 answers · asked by patsy 3