My husband and I seperated a while back and during our seperation we still communicated for the sake of the kids. I knew he had someone but never saw her. As I am sure he knew I had someone. Well, my son would tell me of a lady and when I inquired about it, my husband's mother said it was her neice. I really didn't think anything of it until he and I later patched things up. Well it was then I found out who she really was. I was pissed at him for not telling me in the beginning that she was his lover and not his cousin. Well, he broke it off and the mother kept up a relationship with this woman. Talking about me and trying to break up our marriage; even had the women come over and knock on our door. Well all that is past and now we are doing great! The only problem is the mother, she now trys to be sooo nice to me, but I dont give her the time of day. Am I wrong for not having anything to do with her? When she calls I don't even anser her calls, I just let him know she called!
2007-04-24 04:15:54 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She lives 2hours away but is suppose to be coming to visit. I don't want her in my house. Know that before the split I was nothing but nice to this woman and I found out she doesn't like me because I stopped my hubby from giving her money every time she called. she has a husband! I didn't mind him helping her but she had a different story every Friday!
2007-04-24 04:18:27 · update #1
Unfortunately, you have to be civilised. This is your husband's mother.
I don't blame you for not answering the phone, that's ok.
While she visits, stay close but don't get too close.
You have children, you have to set a good example for them. (But you don't have to like her.)
2007-04-24 04:41:34 · answer #1 · answered by Like being a DINK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut all ties with this woman you don't owe her the time of day! When she wants to visit the children she can do it through her son. She is a trouble maker and causes stress in your life. I would'nt trust her ,she is a back stabber, and very disrespectfull. She was a problem to your marriage and kept up a relationship with this other woman. When she comes to town don't be home, leave the house and let your husband visit with her. You are married to your husband and not his mother. A mother does not keep attached to her sons ex lover and think her daughter inlaw should be comfortable with that!! You would not be wrong in having nothing to do with her if that is your choice. I myself would be uneasy with her around especially if my husband knew of continuing contact with this other woman. She should have never got involved the way she did. She is a liar and I would not trust her. Tell your husband he and the kids can visit with her anytime but you will leave untill she is gone. If mother-inlaw has a problem with that......to bad. She damaged the relationship between you and her! Good Luck Sweetie.
2007-04-24 05:12:53 · answer #2 · answered by Lindsey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't blame you one little bit. When she is in your home be the perfect hostess though, keeps her on her off her feet and hubby can't say , you treated my mother badly. Make it a game in your head so you don't lose it....
2007-04-24 04:38:15 · answer #3 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋