what do you think?

Question

My wife passed away a month ago and Iposted my profile on Yahoo Personals.do you think Iwas wrong in doing ?
Should I wait longer (a year or so) I feel like I'm cheating on her
memory .

Answer 1

Honey your not wrong, how you feel, are you emotional ready to handle a relationship, are you strong enough, have you given yourself enough time, noone can tell you how long you should wait before dating... some people get over death quickly while others greive for years... was one month enough time for you.....????? only you can answer that question..... God Bless Hon...

Answer 2

this sunday will be a year since my boyfriend died, and I started dating someone new after four months. I wasn't looking to, it just happened that I met a guy I got along with. We went out as friends a few times and took it from there. We've been together 8 months now, and there are days when I think I moved too quickly, like I need more time to process everything because for the first year, you don't know how certain things might affect you, like birthdays or anniversaries. Overall, I'd say it's probably too soon to go looking for something because it seems like you may be trying to replace what you've lost or that you're in denial, but whatever happens, make sure you're comfortable with it.

I'm sorry for your loss.

Answer 3

Awwwwww..huggggggggg. I'm so sorry for your loss. Grief can take different forms. Make sure that you are grieving in a healthy way. If you feel like its too soon, it probably is. Find healthy ways to move on with your life. Find ways to socialize. I'm not sure finding women on personal ads is the answer. Get out and be with friends, make new friends. Do some things that you've been putting off. Find your passion. I'm not sure if you're a spiritual person but it might help to explore your spirituality for a while. If you understand that we don't really die, we just go somewhere else it might make things easier. Our intuition is just our creators way of showing us a path. We are all connected, your wife will speak to you too. She'll let you know that its okay to move on. Open your eyes, you'll see her around you in other peoples actions and deeds. Take the time to deal with her memory, find a place in your heart and mind that nobody else can erase. Take the gifts that she gave you, sort out what they are and the universe will show you another person to give them to. Good luck, hang in there. :)

Answer 4

everyone is different, and it's not uncommon to want some companionship.

if you feel as if you are cheating on her memory, perhaps you are not through the grieving process?

you can find a lot of information on the grief process if you do a websearch.

meanwhile, perhaps you can spend more time involving yourself in activities you like? what about socializing with friends and family? you really need support and care in your life right now.

i'm sorry to hear about your loss, and i hope you will be able to go forward with life and regain your happiness soon.

take care.

Answer 5

You may not find your next soulmate, or girlfriend on Y! personals. If you are looking for sex, then be cautious. I don't know how long it's been but there are major diseases out there that will leave you scarred for life and even kill you.

Best of luck, who is to say that it is too soon. If your wife was ill you've had time to cope/grieve deal with the pain of the loss. Feel out the dating scene and take your time. Use protection in every situation.

Answer 6

That's a question only can answer, and it sounds like you just did. What you had with her was special, and you probably just need alittle more time. That's okay. Take all the time you need. Don't be in a rush to get back out there and start dating. It just may do you some good to take care of yourself right now.

Answer 7

What's important is how YOU feel about it. If you feel you are ready to date again, by all means, date. If you feel it's too soon, don't. Do you. What makes you comfortable. If you begin to date and then change your mind, that's ok too. What other people think does not matter. They cannot live your life for you. They are not the ones filling the void you may or may not feel. Make your decision based on how you feel, not what you hear.

Sorry to hear about your loss. It is never easy. Good luck.

Answer 8

People mourn differantly. If you are truely done mourning, then why not. However, if you are not over your wife yet, then no. Not only is it hard to put yourself into a relationship once one has ended so suddenly and unplanned, but think how unfair that would be to the "would be date" you are trying to hook up with.

Seeing that you ahve said thatyou feel like you are cheating on her by doing this, I would say you are not quite over it yet.

Answer 9

You aren't cheating, how ever your heart hasn't had time to heal yet and replacing some one with the memory of another isn't good for you or that person,.Take some time to findyourself you just lost your best friend. Hope this helps.

Answer 10

Well what was going on before her death? You are the only one who knows if you are ready to move on but it does seem kind of soon. If you think you are ready you shouldnt feel bad. Maybe you are just feeling the absence and need someone. If thats the case, you should probably turn to family and friends for support. Im sorry for your loss and I wish you the best.