Is he/she absolutely trusted by everyone to the point he's/she's respected as a good honest reliable person that couldnt do no wrong and has been living in the same village all of his/hers life so everyone knows them and all of this to be true of him/her.And you personally know he would never do this to anyone never mind yourself.
Well that was how everyone including me felt of my ex but none the less,he had an affair with our best freinds missus,,then became his best man and was still wanting to resume the affair,then he met me, and i became very close freinds with both of them,and we all socialised togethr.and still he was trying to resume the affair.Until she'd had enough of him trying it on with her and i found them out .Mr nice and could do no wrong in anyones eyes,disrespected all who loved him,new him,and respected him.he lied, cheated and hurt just about everyone he knew.So i ask again do you really know your partner.As i and no one else had any reason to distrust my ex.
2007-04-24 03:42:14 · 29 answers · asked by patsy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
One of the beauties of beign an individual is that there are parts of us that are only for us. We can know someone very well but never totally and that is as it should be. In a close relationship there should be respect for privacy as well as a sharing and a caring. It is the trust side that matters.....have to be able to trust that the other will be honest if troubled in some way notjust go ahead and deal with it in whatever way they seefit particularly if the issue has consequences forthe partner. In other words we can only ever hope and no one can be 100% sure.
2007-04-24 20:50:29 · answer #1 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As you have found out, the answer seems to be no.
I trusted my wife 100% never for a minute thinking she would ever ever stray, but guess what. Over the past year, she has cheated, lied and generally taken me for a fool. At first I forgave and accepted that we all make mistakes. I'm no angel and have done plenty I am ashamed of but I never cheated. That was always a step too far for me. In the end it all became too much and we have since split.
So sadly the answer is no. What scares me is will I ever trust anyone again. You seem to be right in that boat with me. if you need to unload, email me. We seem to have something in common.
2007-04-24 08:48:20 · answer #2 · answered by yogi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess fidelity is the only and most important thing in the world to you? I think when I was young it was to me also. I loved my husband totally and I know he loved me. On Dec, 19, 1980 at 3 pm I answered the door to a police officer who imformed me of my husbands death . I never thought of living even one day without him I just loved him. I still do, he had a woman on the back of his bike, I did not know her, no one came foreward to fill me in on her, I have never given her another though. If he needed something more than I want him to have gotten it. To this day I still miss him every day at least 3 times and I love him totally, she made no difference. Because He gave me enough love, he loved his daughters. If he gave anything to her he must have had extra. I do not now nor did I ever own him I just loved him. I wanted him to be happy. and to tell the truth I would have shared him with anyone if I could have him back for just one minute. So decide dear what about his infidelity is so disturbing to you? Are you a control freak? must youown his soul? or let him love how and who ever he wants? Try not to look at that one act like it is everything. give it the importance it should have. weigh the consequences, I would take my husbands arms here around me over the other choices . try to be more open .He did nothing to anyone but whoever he was with and you ..not all of your friends, or anyone else. Don't throw away every thing for a fling.
2007-04-24 04:07:29 · answer #3 · answered by sosueme534 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I trust my guy a 100%. He has been lied to and cheated on by his soon-to-be ex-wife and I know he wouldn't want anyone to go through what he did. Plus, I've always been one of those people who don't doubt until I have good reason. I know that is sometimes stupid, but I think everyone deserves a new chance in a relationship. Being suspicious the entire time isn't good.
2007-04-24 04:02:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your right, I don't trust my husband 100%, I trust him 1000%. I can honestly say that I know where he is 24/7 as he does me. Yes, men get other desires, that is natural. But he brings them home to me. He tells me if he seen someone he thought was sexy and I tell him the same. I have been with my husband for 17yrs. and there have been times in the beginning of our relationship were we both strayed, but were honest about it with one another. They were times when we were split up though and before we married. My husband or myself wouldn't even consider (well more than a few seconds. That's only normal) cheating on each other. And I would stake my life on it.
2007-04-24 04:02:43 · answer #5 · answered by lily_florance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one can be 100% sure of anything especially trusting someone. You want to beleive the best but always remember no one is perfect and some will lie and cheat while otheres do not. I have been married for over 12 years and do I think he has cheated?? NO I do not but do I know 100% that he wont no i dont. thatswhere your trust and faith in someone comes in. I
2007-04-24 03:48:26 · answer #6 · answered by teresa.hereford@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never know someone 100% there are parts you may Not even want to know. Do I trust my husband, yes to a degree. There is always someone out there somewhere that will give them that little something they want rather than get it at home. There is the excitement factor that plays a huge role in it. Good luck
2007-04-24 04:00:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one constant you can rely on in life is that fact that people change, for whatever reason, i thought i had found my soulmate, bearing in mind that i dont usually think like that, we had eight happy years, then it just fell appart, so to sum up you can trust people, but only when the time is right. Never assume that because they are trust worthy at one point in time they will allways be trustworty. There are still good people out there. x
2007-04-24 03:54:58 · answer #8 · answered by chilli 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To get to know someone takes a lifetime. I am sorry to hear that this has happened to you, but it sounds to me more like the man was a "swinger" & feared the response he would face as that lifestyle is not that widely accepted.
2007-04-24 03:57:25 · answer #9 · answered by martiek7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never know the person completely but if you take the time you can get a pretty good idea.
2007-04-24 04:09:40 · answer #10 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋