Marriage & Divorce - 21 April 2007

my husband of almost 6 years knows im in severe pain all the time from severe endo and polycystic ovarian disease... he's kind and sweet "saying he will always be there for me" one minute then turns nasty and has a go at me "saying its my fault as im sleeping so much" im sleeping alot from the pain medication im on at the moment... ive got my period at the moment and im in a really bad state... i couldnt stand upright this morning as i was doubled over in pain... and he helped me up and helped me get dressed.... and within 5 minutes he was hasseling me saying im a lazy cow...
why do men act this way??? im really unwell and his attitude makes me feel useless when hes cruel.... but i love it when hes kind and caring as it helps me to relax and not tense up... are there any other women who deal with this type of man , or any men who can shed some light on the male attitude.....

2007-04-21 23:13:47 · 14 answers · asked by ANGEL 1

She entered this country legally, but has overstayed her visa

2007-04-21 23:02:48 · 5 answers · asked by jrwilcarter 1

I & my g/f loved eachother very much. Being of different religions I can't marry her due to my family obligations & married with a girl of my religion. Now I & my G/f both are employed. But she is not ready to marry with any one. What to do? Pl help !!

2007-04-21 22:21:17 · 23 answers · asked by rajtempl 1

2007-04-21 22:02:54 · 24 answers · asked by moonrider 6

2007-04-21 21:53:18 · 9 answers · asked by nevserve 3

i know every girl is different, and I know her really well but I don't know anything about latina women in general, so i don't know if she is different because of that or something else. do latina women like certain things in bed, i have heard even the quiet ones are wild. Are they more husband oriented in the home life. What can i expect from a latina wife?

2007-04-21 21:51:03 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-04-21 21:47:01 · 33 answers · asked by Charmed 1

We got married when I was 17 he was 19 and obviously priorities, values, etc were very different for each of us then. I have since straightened up my life and take my 2 children to church with me every week, while he goes snowmobiling or something...while I knew he didn't love church I ALWAYS thought that deep down he knew. That he knew what was right, the he believed in God and Jesus Christ. I see his position as unbelievably ignorant considering he grew up in the church and I find myself COMPLETELY turned off by this. It offends me deeply when he takes the Lord's name in vain or says JC out of context.

Here I am 12 years later looking at my spouse thinking if I were to make a decision now of marriage I would not EVEN consider him.

I am at a total loss here....What do you think?

2007-04-21 19:32:57 · 26 answers · asked by Ponderpink 3

2007-04-21 19:02:08 · 30 answers · asked by nin 2

I am interested in finding a woman who wants to have a fling and be discrete, and have a secret life with me?!...lol....is that bad because if it is bad, I am still not kidding

2007-04-21 18:34:33 · 14 answers · asked by jay chase 2

be many gir dont like man

2007-04-21 18:31:19 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

if there were no risks would you dont lie

2007-04-21 18:28:56 · 22 answers · asked by stacey m 1

I know I should let this go, but I just want to know what someone else think. I had met this guy (who later became my husband) and we had been together about a week...two max, and we were at a party. He was totally wasted and there was this girl there. I could use choice words to describe her but I will leave that out. Anyway when he was in the kitchen with her he kissed her. I didn't find out about it until the next day and a friend told me. I confronted him and he got upset and told me he didn't have a reason he did it other then he was drunk and he was sorry. He was really apologetic and he never did anything like that again. We have now been together a long time, but I always wonder...was that cheating?Please no dumb answers!

2007-04-21 18:27:32 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous

Whoo..I'm so hurt right now..but anyhow I met this guy at my gym he was a personal trainer, and basically he asked me out when I intially met him, but I didn't take him up on his offer, so a few months past, and I asked him to join me at starbucks, he told me he was busy, then we put it off and he told me he was too broke, so thogught to myself, okay I'm not messing with tim because he['s flaky, so i see him at the gym about three weeks ago and he asks me out again...and he calls me a few days later and tells me his uncle and close friend died, and that when he sees me at the gym, he'll let me know when we can hang out again..so a few days laster I see him, and he text messages me, asking me "How come i didn't speak to him? And I'm thinking Huh...but you were training? So today,.I just ask him flat out if there is anyone at the current moment that he likes more than a friend" and he tells me that there is and she's his top myspace friend..so i ask him if he likes me more than a frie

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and he tells me that "He can't say that he do" and goes on to say he isn't attracted to me in that way, but does say that he does find me to be very good looking and cool, but he just doesn;t see me in that way...so I'm feeling like crap. what should I do?

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I know he's 25, still lives at home with hos parents, and is a sunday school teacher..but he is definetly is a good catch don't you think?

2007-04-21 18:22:53 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

IF the proof is the last 3 months phone bill and it shows calls days and nights + she is his secretary and his wife does not even like her..he even call her on her days off..when they were confronted they said these calls are regarding business matters but he did call her very late and many times he blocked the numbers. They are both married, how could someone proof a cheating? Is it what I know enough?

2007-04-21 18:22:01 · 9 answers · asked by meemo 2

If its legally possible, how do i get married?neither of us want to convert.i stay in chennai. plz help.

2007-04-21 18:20:58 · 9 answers · asked by sure 2

Is a shrink or pastor better for counseling couples and families. I heard Dr. Gene Scott said God didn't want to hear about marital problems, just get divorced. What does his widow Pastor Melissa Scott advise?

2007-04-21 18:20:46 · 1 answers · asked by StanfordGrad 1

My wife wants a divorce. We have been married for 16 years and she said she is not "in love with me anymore" Problem is I don't believe her. We were having major issues in our marriage but we also did alot of fun things together with our two teenage kids. She has started a new job last July and right after the new year I noticed a change in her behavior. I love my wife very much and will do everything in my power to save our marriage. I Am in counselling and realize the things I did to hurt our marriage and I will correct them. She will not get counselling and I have found out that she has been talking on her cell to a male co-worker an aweful lot over the past few months. I want to call him and tell him that this is our marriage and our children and our lives that he is talking to her about and that he needs to stop whatever the hell he is doing because it is destroying our marriage. I know we can work this out if she is willing and he stops feeding her BS! I want my family back!!!!!

2007-04-21 17:39:13 · 16 answers · asked by da_catcar 1

It seems like I'm in the mood WAY more often than my husband... is this normal? Shouldn't it be the other way around? We've been married for 8 years, we are both attractive, healthy people, and we are very happy and in love.

2007-04-21 16:21:29 · 13 answers · asked by J.J. 2

I recently got fired from my job(the first time ever in our marriage). I always worked FT and supported the family while hubby stayed home. Now HE got a job and is acting smart and calling me names ie:fat, loser..etc. His friends are telling him nasty lies about me and he listens to it. He is staying out all night with "friends" and leaving me sit at home. I watch our son now. He tells me I can't get a job now I have to spend time with our son and stay home with him. Meanwhile he parties and I am trapped in the house. I have always worked and I hate this. How do I cope with this and what would you do. Get a new job and find daycare or stay home and feel trapped? I love my son but I am not cut out to stay home all day especially when he is gone day and all night out. HELP!

2007-04-21 16:05:54 · 16 answers · asked by Samantha 3

We are married, but getting divorced due to his cheating on me with a nurse at work. He picked the kids up saying he wanted to spend time with them. He actually took them on an outing with his mistress and her children. Her children actually were told that MY husband is ALREADY divorced even though when he did this, it wasn't even filed yet. I went completely nuts. He flaunted his affair, adultery, not to mention the kids feelings being pushed to meet this woman by their dad when he was living at home just a couple weeks earlier and is married to their mother! I haven't allowed him to take the girls since. I am still infuriated at the sheer gall! I told him if he wanted to visit them, he was to come here and sit with them downstairs. He hasn't seen them since. I don't want my kids hurt by missing their dad but I also don't want his utter lack of morality and disgusting behavior being shoved in their faces. Has anyone faced this? Any advice????

2007-04-21 15:44:32 · 17 answers · asked by a29mom 1

My children are now 6 and 8, my husband left in June 2000 we have received no support since then. My ex has never wanted contact with the children and I am a lone parent. Every 6 months or so, I get a letter from CSA giving a nil assessment. I rang them recently to ask if they would stop sending these letters. In conversation I learned that arrears of £16,000 were outstanding on the case. I worked part-time till recently - but am now full time (just under £24K) and things are a bit easier - but still no luxuries, no holidays etc. My ex husband works and whilst I don't know his earnings, but he was earning more than £2500 monthly 7 years ago when we were together. I don't know the CSA system and am desperate for some advice on how to tackle the maintenance and arrears - it would make such a difference to us! Someone suggested closing the case and re-opening it 16 weeks later which would put us on a new assessment system but I'm not confident about this. Any advice most welcome...thanks.

2007-04-21 15:13:18 · 1 answers · asked by Hells Bells 1

I wonder what most husbands normally do in marriage to make their wives happy. My ex-husband never did much to make me happy. Yet, he said that I always complained and was never happy.

His focus was always money and it was an inconvenience for him to spend money the way that I wanted or he always felt that I "wasted" money.

His mother claims that other than anger and control (the only problems that he has), he can give me a lot of happiness. I did not see that.

2007-04-21 14:21:10 · 20 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

We married since 6 years ago. I married her thought she is kind and she need somone to help her to change. I did everything possible to help her start loosing weight - she refused- helping her getting a job- refused with the excuse that if she found a job and work I will leave her- I even tried to help her get back on track and get her college degree she kept dealying untill just last year finally started school. Day to day life she does not have a schedule sleeping all day no weekend to spend togther because she spend all night reading or plying video games. our girls stay late till 3 am dirty kitchen , laundry every were on the floor. I am the only one who work and finance all her expenses and toyes. I am feeling I waiting for something will never come talked to her 1000 times nothing changed. she went to doctors once to see if she is depressed and did not want to continue because he basically told her same thing i was telling her for the last few years. be active, ... i gave up

2007-04-21 14:12:58 · 15 answers · asked by manfromearth2007 1

do u think a 19 gril is too young for a 31guy/men
he has 2 kids 11 boy and 6 boy and deverce she just meet him but i dont know if i loves him yet i like every him much but dont know if i like him b/c he is famous
im just scare b/c he has more life experience then me

2007-04-21 14:06:38 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

the 10 points. I had cancer for the first time in my early 20's. It was uterine. I would never have kids. At age 39 I married for the first time and he had 2 beautiful daughters. 4 years ago the youngest one, had a precious little boy. For reasons I won't go into, she just wasn't ready to be a mother or a wife. She divoriced & he was given sole custody. It was left to me and my husband to take on the responsiblity of raising him. & for the last 4 years that's what we've done. Not one week has gone by where we didn't see him. I'm the biggest female presence in his life and we've delvoped a bond that is strong and unbreakable. At times he slips up and calls me "mama". He is my heart, my soul, and he is truly my reason for living.

I was told I had cancer again & they say it's terminal. But I won't believe that. God wouldn't play such a cruel trick. He brought the 2 of us together cause he knew we'd need one another. And for it to end this soon is totally unacceptable.

2007-04-21 13:59:23 · 21 answers · asked by jhash61 3

So, lets just say that I've been married for 13 generic years and love to go on Christian missions trips. Part to convert, and part to meet new girls to give personal attention to.

Anyway, I told the wife I was going to be in Japan for a week on a conversion trip. In actuality, I have been with my Korean girlfriend in Seattle.

Long story short, we got into a bar fight with another couple we were negotiating with for a "special double date" on Thursday night. My Korean girl pulled out a kitchen knife. Next thing I know, we are both arrested for assault and in a King County jail!

I had my credit card, so I bailed myself out. However, I didn't want to put her charge on my card.

I have to get the money wired now from the wife! How do I explain being in Seattle?

Or should I just leave?

I'm an extremely moral person and I just want to do the right thing.

2007-04-21 13:55:02 · 11 answers · asked by Kermit 2

2007-04-21 13:35:10 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-04-21 13:25:36 · 6 answers · asked by Victoria C 1

The judge had just awarded a divorce to Lena, who had charged non-support. He said to Ole, "I have decided to give your wife $400 a month for support." "Vell, dat's fine, Judge," said Ole. "And vunce in a while I'll try to chip in a few bucks myself."

2007-04-21 13:19:54 · 4 answers · asked by oldman 4