2007-04-21 19:02:08 · 30 answers · asked by nin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Happily ever after is only is a fairy tale. I don't believe people live a life a problem free regardless if someone cheats or is faith full. Marriage is work and people need to work at it.
2007-04-27 03:52:31 · answer #1 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, half the world tries again. Get thee and he into a church and worship together, stay in your spouses bed, accept both parties the no trust situation cause it ain't gonna go away. After about two years things settle down a bit. But remember these cheaters, well they got crush problems, and this stuff may resurface, thats why worshiping is so critical to keep the weaker party under gods house of good daily living talk and people to connect with. If he isn't just right try again, you might be his only connection to staying on the right path, without you, hell might await them. God expects you to try to save this union give it your best, you won't regret it, your the spiritual head of this family!
2007-04-28 16:10:01 · answer #2 · answered by kim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dirty pride is holding you iinto this marriage, you need to talk to a lawyer and decide to leave him. He is not respectful, he does not love you enough to sleep in same room he does not show your or treat you with love, he doesn't put you before himself What part of this are you having issues with understanding? I know it is blunt and it hurts but he doesn't want you, it sounds like he is just keeping you with him for the childs sake but has basically stopped living the life of a married man. He needs to give you some of his pay, I would talk to the military counsellors or chaplain and tell him or her your problems. and ask them to help you get some income for you and the baby. Also ask them if you can keep the lodgings if they are mmilitary. Marriage is great and I am a believer in hard work for partner ships but in all honesty you can't work with someone who doesn't want to be married. Do not get pregnant again to him or anyone else in your futre. you can't buy furniture? that is apalling, get your self enlisted again and or find a job and put your baby into day care and make her daddy take his turns in caring for her. You need to get your self respect and dignity back dear and then stand up tall and be ready to fight for your rights in life. You say he lies and does things behind your back but don't say what exactly. I would suggest he is also going out with his mates and leaving you alone a lot.
2016-04-01 01:45:08 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes my husband I had been married for 3 years and my husband was gone a lot I went out with the girls and met an old male friend my designated driver got drunk so my friend drove everyone home then me (i live on a farm) so cause i was the farthest away I was last we started talking about our hie school days one thing led to another and I cried so hard after and asked him to leave 1 week later when my husband came home I told him he forgave me we have now been married 23 years
I never betrayed him again
2007-04-26 20:50:30 · answer #4 · answered by Dont_drink_and_drive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you forgive them you are thought to have forgotten what happened, but it is not that easy for most. Trust me I know. Marriage is not a easy thing and it takes equal effort to make it work. I am pretty sure there are alot of people out there who got past it and were happy after. I guess it just depends on how willing you are to make it work and how much love is involved. I also thinks it is important that it doesn't happen again.
2007-04-21 19:15:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes but it takes a lot of work. Takes a long long time to get the trust back. Would probable be better to move on and save yourself the future heart ache. I don't think you ever feel the same for that person. And there is no guarantee that they won't do it again.
2007-04-28 14:33:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it has happened, but it depends on if it were a one night stand, or an on going relationship. A one night stand, can be forgiven and you both can move forward. the other isn't easy and the only way I have seen that happen is when they end everything, and then come back together a year or more later.
2007-04-21 20:11:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It didn't work that way for me. But i hear its real hard work to get trust back. In my case he wasn't forthcoming with the affair. he lied about how long he was seeing "her" and he got caught in some lies so i just walked away he didn't love me enough to tell the truth or stop talking to her to try and fix what he caused. plus i didn't have to lie with not being able to trust him. I let her have him. And in my case he cheated on her too. go figure. but i guess if you both are willing to do whatever it takes then give it a try if you can forgive. Just makes sure he completely breaks things off has no contact with her or him whatsoever.
2007-04-21 19:17:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a work in progress. Happily ever after? We'll never know until the end. I hope so. My marriage means everything to me, and I'll do what I have to in order to protect and preserve it.
2007-04-21 19:13:51 · answer #9 · answered by rtanys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, people can forgive - or try to- and stay in a marriage for different reasons.
But I don't think they can live happily ever again.
Trust is a precious thing, and it is very fragile. Once it is broken, it cannot be mended.
2007-04-26 14:44:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋