Marriage & Divorce - 18 April 2007

2007-04-18 23:51:28 · 26 answers · asked by Rob T 1

15 years of marriage, 3 kids... but i cannot stand him to use me any longer: i am a free worker for his business, housewife and... no appreciation. He is not here when we need him. What's the point to continue "relatinship"? For his success? Or becuase it is 15 years already?

2007-04-18 23:02:09 · 22 answers · asked by Everona97 6

I had a big fight with my husband and all of my family wants me to get divorsed and i know that he hurts me when he is angry but i trully love him, we been together since 3 years and we are now married since one month and we still did not move to live together, shall i get divorsed knowing that it is been a week he did not contact me in could someone plzzzz help

2007-04-18 22:36:27 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have been married for 10 years. About four years ago we got into an argument and he literally ran away and hid. Long story short, we ended up back together, but there was a lot of damage done to our finances and to our relationship. We basically lost everything, and had to rebuild from scratch. But....every time we argue...over even the smallest of issue he starts threatening to leave. I think he does this to frighten me. Well it happened again yesterday and I called his bluff. So he's out of my home, and I really don't want him back even though he's already been home begging me to let him come back. I don't think I've ever really been able to forgive him for the incident 4 years ago. Is it me hanging on to an old issue? I don't think so because he makes it an ongoing issue by threatening to leave all the time. Should I have been able to get over that and go on? All opinions welcome.

2007-04-18 22:07:47 · 25 answers · asked by PJJ 5

my ex was always a good dad very intersted in seeing my son, he still is but now he has a new girl friend and is getting in to alot of trouble, he has a warnt out for his arrest he is injecting steriods and just genrally not a good role morall,
i just said to him that unless he sorts his self out he cant see my son.
he is saying that when my son grows up he will hate me because i kept the two of them apart.
i will have my son think that he does not love him when he does,
i dont know what to do for the best, i would hate for the shoe to b on the other foot and i could not see him.but then i would never do any thing that would cause that

2007-04-18 21:46:28 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

You are free to turn my question around and ask the same for a wife. Actually, the issue I want to raise and share with you all is simple. Why is there so much of dishonesty in the most intimate of relationships on this earth, and isn't it rampant enough across geographical and cultural differences ?

2007-04-18 21:44:09 · 38 answers · asked by nanhowala 3

What harm can it cause my unborn baby??? I am so worried... I took 2 drops on my sore throat every few minutes yesterday only... I am worried about my baby... please give advice

2007-04-18 21:36:24 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

my wife had an affair starting last sept till end of nov- i found out in dec. we have been married 25 years this month 23rd aprill . she is trying realy hard she said it was a mistake her head was messed up and realy regreted it ,and has no contact with the other bloke, she gave her job up where she met other bloke. but i cant put it behind me every day i mention something about it or ask the same questions ive asked 100 times and she has answered them and been truthfull with the answers .but she now refuses to answer as she has given me the answers 100 times .she now wont talk about it and says she needs to forget and put it behind her,but i cant i have to bring it up ,and this upsets her she says were suposed to be putting it behind us .I still get images of her and him making love and find it hard to let it go.I know she is right ,but i cant put it behind me (she got very depressed last week and took an over dose of tablets and had to be taken to hospital) how do i stop.

2007-04-18 21:29:11 · 11 answers · asked by anthony f 1

I am trying to be trusting and move forward after some upsetting events in my marriage. I know the phrase "once a cheater always a cheater", but is it really true? Have any of you really learned your lesson and are now able to avoid temptation? Thanks for honest answers.

2007-04-18 21:26:15 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

About 2 months ago I discovered my partner had a 4 month affair. The affair has since ended but because of my deep and undying love, I have chosen to try to reconstruct the trust and rebuild the relationship that I once cherished with all of my soul. Since that time, I have done a great deal of self evaluation on the matter, trying to decide if it was my fault my partner cheated or if there was something more I should have done but didn't...those sorts of things.
What I have decided is that people are fallable, we make mistakes each day and we learn from them, no matter the degree, mistakes are a given. I am finding more and more comfort in the fact that as time passes by, I am less and less hurt by the mistake of my partner of 8 years. I am finding resolve in the fact that even though the affair was a long one, they chose me over their lover. I am less and less angry with the mutual friend that my lover slept with even. I am at peace.

Have I freaking lost my freaking mind

2007-04-18 21:13:41 · 3 answers · asked by D tothe M 1

Has has stoped this too many times but every few months I find something new and the subjects are getting more depraved.

2007-04-18 20:54:00 · 14 answers · asked by mature_egyptian 1

Is criticism a major factor of this?

2007-04-18 19:46:39 · 17 answers · asked by deezonyxde 1

Because he lives at home still because his work is nearby. So on his days off he comes to my house. We have a 2 year old. I need good advice please. We had a fight. Why? I asked him if he had an extra hard disk laying around because he has so many computers at home and one was for his half brother. I said something to the point of "are you sure you're not giving your brother a better hard disk than me" and it ended up with him saying he loved his half brother more than me. It hurt me alot hearing that from him. He knows my family is in another country and that he is my only family. He said his brothers came first. They didn't even grow up together. I always listen and obey him and I am trying to do alot for him, but why can't he love me more. I sure love him more than my sisters. Anyway, I told him he could have our daughter since they are one blood, I'm never going to be family to him. And ever since then he won't talk to me. He's even hiding from me. What should I do

2007-04-18 19:30:58 · 7 answers · asked by marief2rnurse 1

My wife and I got into an argument about one of her old boyfriends who has been contacting her. I finally told her I wanted to end last night, or theres going to be changes at the house!
I said she was pushing it with me and I will not tolerate it any longer! After the kids went to bed she said she spoke to him because it was like being in high school again with no worries or responsibility's!
So I asked her outright( I'm that tire) what she wanted in our marriage or if she wanted our marriage? She finally admitted that if I had not gone to her HIGH SCHOOL REUNION, She might have had the affair! She said it's not me but she needed to feel young again! We adopt 5 kids because she wants kids, were taking care of 3 teens, all at her instance, And she says that! I told her this morning that I need time away from her because If I stay were going to be divorced!
The funny thing is I got a bad feeling about the reunion so I made time to go to it and felt bad about not trusting her after it!

2007-04-18 18:28:42 · 14 answers · asked by Free-Lance 5

well i wont get into great details about my marriage only that i have been married many , many years with plenty of ups and downs. i have never cheated and my wife is a stay @ home mom and doesnt have to work. that doesnt seem to be enough for her anymore and i suspect she may be cheating? she constantly complains and tells me she is leaving. i try to communicate, but she tells me to shut up so i try to restrain myself. i am thinking of just going away for a few days without telling anyone where i am going!! is that wrong or what??

2007-04-18 18:24:59 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

I cheated on him about 5 years ago and we got married sence, then but i didnt think it would turn out like this!!! We both love each other so much and have been through things that a lot of pepole get divorced over,but to this day he cant trust me! I work hard every day,5 days aweek ,then come home to take care of the 2 boys.!!!! I cook,clean raise my kids and i am always there for him when he needs me!Gets mad because i have more guy friends then girls. Then when i do find a girlfriend he does not like her .Now he does not want me to hang out with her and we r close friends now!!It SUCKS!!!!!!!!He thinks i always go out when he leaves for work . If i do he still gets mad!! SOMEONE TELL ME WHAT TO DO!!!!!!!

2007-04-18 18:19:51 · 11 answers · asked by hotmomma 1

Just to avoid letting her have the house and half of his assets??? There is quite a bit of money at stake and he hasn't finalized the divorce yet. He is the one who filed first.

2007-04-18 18:19:46 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

We fight all the time. I think he is immature, selfish, and arrogant. But, I don't want to divorce bc he is a good guy and we have a baby. How can I get over this thought of leaving him?

2007-04-18 18:07:08 · 24 answers · asked by Kapalski,Kelly 1

Just curious to see if the husbands income is considered her income as well or if its considered separate.

2007-04-18 17:44:53 · 13 answers · asked by sticky 3

Even though the person is not with their spouse?

2007-04-18 17:24:36 · 27 answers · asked by Shannon83 1

Oh gosh I'm really in rough shape now. My wife and I just finished a heated argument over our finances. We sort of lost control and I ended up slugging her in the face. She has a really bad nose bleed and wont get out of the bathroom.

What can i do to make it up to her?

2007-04-18 17:17:37 · 42 answers · asked by ayehoss123 1

I don't know how to handle this one. He was the only man I've ever known to show me true love..the only man in my life who has ever made me feel important. He was my best friend since high school, and now I've lost him for good. We've been divorced for almost seven years, and I'm still not over him. He was the one I would go to whenever I felt sad and alone in this world. His compassion and love for me always made me feel special. Now that it's been confirmed (I found out today) that he is in fact very much in love with someone else and getting married very soon, I know that I will never see him again. I've tried contacting him several times and he hasn't returned my calls. Our mutual friend tells me that's because he doesn't want to hurt me any further. He doesn't feel it's a good idea to keep contact. I know I'll never see him again. I'll never be the same without his love...without hearing him laugh...without him seeing my beauty. I feel as though I've lost myself. Please help.

2007-04-18 17:11:47 · 33 answers · asked by peaceseeker 2

your boyfriend of 2 years talks to an old friend that he has said that he was once attracted to? Not to mention that she is a model, he even once admitted to me when he was intoxicated that he had had a sex dream about her, later admitting that he did not even remember telling me about? Later I told him to stop talking to her, he told me that he called her and said that because of the situation (me) that he wants to cut off all ties. He did do this on his own accord. Are men capable of really cutting off all ties(at least what he told me), Although they only talked once a month....I just do not feel comfprtable with the whole thing.

2007-04-18 17:09:27 · 11 answers · asked by Advice25 1

okay so here's the story. My husbands ex has a kid, he was with her when she was pregnant. They stayed together for about a year and a half after the kid was born. Then they split and we got together and had a kid together. I also had a kid with my ex. So this kid stays with it's grandparents and the mother goes out and partys all the time. My husband goes and picks the kid up every weekend. So him and his ex "hates" each other, but they still talk on the phone, and it's not about her kid. She calls and asks him stuff like can u fix my car? Do you need some boots? Telling him stuff like I need a big piece of WOOD. I've asked him to stop talking to her, cuz I'm not going to put up with this, But she still calls and he doesn't say anything, cuz he's afraid that she wont let him see the kid anymore. I don't know what to do, I love him so much but it makes me mad that they still talk. It's seriously making me sick, I've been to the hospital 2x cuz of panic attacks

2007-04-18 17:06:51 · 11 answers · asked by y4h00_f4c3s_4r3_s0_cut3 1

It seems like people give up on marriage too quickly. Marriage is work, but so rewarding. What do you think?

2007-04-18 17:02:04 · 28 answers · asked by k h 2

I'm planning of leaving my 14 year marriage...but when?? I am a silent partner in the business, and don't do too much, (Its more for tax reasons) We still have a mortage and an investment (very run down) property we were going to put units on. This would help us both financially (possibly clear morgage). Should I tell him I want out now, our wait till after the units are built, have a part time job, and can afford a better place for me and the 3 kids

2007-04-18 16:54:49 · 18 answers · asked by lifeshouldbesweet 1

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2007-04-18 16:52:31 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

people be honest here, can you really trust your spouse

in alot of marriages and relationships, they both say that they love each other and would never do anything to hurt the other,

most of these end in cheating and divorces, how can a human being trust another human being? you just can't because, "ALL PEOPLE ARE CAPABLE OF UNSPEAKABLE THINGS"

2007-04-18 16:50:39 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

I would like some specifics about divorce laws in South Carolina. I want to divorce my husband, but I have heard I must be separated for 12 months. Is there any way to make it less time? Someone said adultery, but I know he isn't fooling around. If I said I was, what would be the consequences?

2007-04-18 16:49:39 · 5 answers · asked by Kimmie 4

Me and my fiance are thinking of eloping but aren't sure how to go about doing this. We're both 18 years old. Please help us?

2007-04-18 16:46:53 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous