Oh gosh I'm really in rough shape now. My wife and I just finished a heated argument over our finances. We sort of lost control and I ended up slugging her in the face. She has a really bad nose bleed and wont get out of the bathroom.
What can i do to make it up to her?
2007-04-18 17:17:37 · 42 answers · asked by ayehoss123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just be lucky you don't belong to me. You would be packing your bags. Or I would be doing it for you....You have no right to inflict physical pain on anyone. If you hit her tonight, you have hit her before.
You are not a person I would hesitate to kick under the bus and call it a day.
YOU NEED TO GET YOUR STORIES STRAIGHT. HAVE YOU BEEN MARRIED A YEAR? THEN 3 MONTHS AGO YOU WERE SINGLE? JUST CAN'T DECIDE IF YOU ARE MARRIED OR NOT??????? YOU ARE LYING ALL OVER THE PLACE.
2007-04-18 17:22:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Shove all of your money (finances) under the bathroom door with a note that your headed out the door to find the nearest tall bridge to jump off of, and do it.
Get some help please, there is no argument so bad that it should turn to physical assault. She could actually have you arrested for domestic violence if she was to choose. You could kill her by hitting her in the head like that, or leave her mentally scarred by such abuse!
I've had anger management myself, and it can help you to learn how to control and understand anger in a more positive way, since anger is a normal defense we all use at times. But we just can't use it to harm another person physically... Because we think they made us mad? That's what you think.... But it is ourselves that allow ourselves to feel anger. So take it out on anything but another human being!
Get a stress ball a punching bag, take a deep, long breathe, count to 10, just walk away.
Better apologize to her (whole heartedly) and please never allow such crazy behavior to ever occur again.. That's the only way you can ever make it up to her!
2007-04-18 17:44:32 · answer #2 · answered by not perfect 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, be a real man and admit to yourself and to her that you blew it and lost control. Don't say "Yeah but she did ..." Anytime you put hands on your wife, you're in the wrong. Next, get yourself to counseling. Find the source of the anger that lead you to hit your wife over money. Last, ask her forgiveness and whatever she says she wants of you, DO IT!
If you think financies are hard now, wait till you go through a divorce.
2007-04-18 17:23:33 · answer #3 · answered by tranquility_base3@yahoo.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finances can be extremely stressful and cause a lot of relationship problems, but hitting her is absolutely uncalled for. There's really nothing that you can do to make it up to her. I suggest that you call a close friend of hers to come over and comfort her, in the mean time you should leave and stay somewhere else. Also, it sounds to me like you need to learn how to control your anger.......anger management classes would be a step in the right direction.
2007-04-18 17:21:52 · answer #4 · answered by Lwood 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Man, you are crazy to hit your wife! If she calls the cops on you, you'll be arrested for domestic violence and get to wear the label of 'abuser' for the rest of your life. It will prevent you from getting custody of any kids. Talk about a quick path to misery! You better be kissing some serious butt and take an anger management course.
2007-04-18 17:25:32 · answer #5 · answered by J D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make it up to her ? How on earth could an action like that be taken back ? If there is any truth to this you have made an error in judgement that will be with you forever. There is no way you can "make this up to her" actions that are taken and words that are spoken can never be "taken back" . You need some anger management and I hope you have the name of a good lawyer, Chances are you are going to need one.
2007-04-18 18:50:12 · answer #6 · answered by Victor B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear, is this the first time that you physically hurt your wife? Sounds like you are terribly sorry for what you've done but absolutely that is a BIG mistake.
Better you let the anger subsides then approach your wife. Tell her that you are really sorry for what you've done and was got hurt more realizing that you hurt the most people person in your life. If she doesn't forgive you the first try, be persistent.
Hope you won't do that again.
GBU.
2007-04-18 17:22:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is not funny. Didn't your parents teach you NEVER to hit girls? She could have you arrested. Your life would fall apart around you. If you truly want to make it up to her, talk to her through the door and tell her you are sorry, you love her, and that you are going to check into anger management classes. You should do whatever you can to help her, not harm her. Couples talk, argue, discuss, yell, debate, agree, communicate BUT never hit! If you really want to change, check out the website below.
http://angermanagementonline.com
2007-04-18 17:26:27 · answer #8 · answered by Czech Chick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should apologize through the bathroom door and then ask her is she wants you to leave, and do it kindly. If she wants you to go somewhere else tonight, do it. You're lucky your not at this moment getting your one phone call. If she says no, get out of the path of her because any further interaction between the two of you tonight may re-ignite the argument and you may still end up getting hauled away.
2007-04-18 17:22:15 · answer #9 · answered by ersof59 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Giver her some ice, some paper towels. SAY YOUR SORRY. Go for some marriage counceling/ anger management. Finances are one of the biggest stresses in a marriage relationship. Seek help!
2007-04-18 17:23:11 · answer #10 · answered by PW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋