Has has stoped this too many times but every few months I find something new and the subjects are getting more depraved.
2007-04-18 20:54:00 · 14 answers · asked by mature_egyptian 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Only you can answer your own question. Obviously, your husband doesn't respect you or your marriage. He may be addicted to this type of "porn." And if he is willing to salvage your marriage, he should get counseling for his addiction. Would I stay with a man that behaved like this? Absolutely not. Before you decide to leave, please seek counseling for yourself so you can discuss your options. I wish you all the best. Laurie Lee
2007-04-18 21:00:02 · answer #1 · answered by Laurie Lee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
? Why is your husband talking dirty online? Would you not be open to talking dirty to him or with him? Is it the shock value that excites him or just content? Would you be open to talking to him about this or maybe reading and making comments in a "naughty journal" for him? Maybe he can write in it and you can respond daily... Does he like porn in general or just the naughty talk? Do you have a enjoyable and open sexual relationship? Do the conversations bother you or just the breach in intimacy? Do you feel betrayed by his "sneaky" behavior?
If you love him some kind of compromise must be reached, You don't want him to hide this from you, ( you really don't )because he will feel isolated and you can start to really make up what you think is occuring which can be far worse than the reality.If you don't love him in general not just because your hurt or sad or dissappointed in him, but really don't love him... maybe your love for him is conditional and not lasting. Older adults with lasting marriages go through many trials betrayal, infidelity, pain, loss etc., the only things that can get you through this and every other problem you will face is trust and honesty, and I know that's not an answer but you'll find your own, Good luck !
2007-04-19 04:08:24 · answer #2 · answered by fbarkon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't leave him. I saw this on a talk show once. Men get an addiction to it because they dont ever feel the guilt of actually doing the things they "nastily" discuss online....if it becomes way to frequent then your husband needs help. You should sit down and talk to him, and maybe agree that your going to have to get rid of the cpu for a month or something to get his mind off it.
2007-04-19 03:58:14 · answer #3 · answered by nanalynnminn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not okay with you and obviously is something he continues to do. You need to ask him why and see if he is willing to get help for the addiction (if that's what it is) or if it can be worked out between the two of you if it's just something he chooses to do. He needs to know how unacceptable it is to you and then let him decide if you should leave. Obviously, if he continues or wants to continue this act, you know it's time to go!
2007-04-19 04:10:09 · answer #4 · answered by enjoyrselves 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stay when the first time happen. Only if he admitted that he was wrong and promised not continue to do that anymore. Then I'll try to work thing out with him. But if he keep doing it and even getting worse then I don't think he even care if he is hurting me anymore. I'll not gonna stay around and wait until he cheats.
2007-04-19 04:03:24 · answer #5 · answered by Lilian 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband shouldnt keep secrets from you , you should share in on what he wants .. try to do some of things he talks about so the focus is on you not the chat .. its because he is bored with the sex aspects of the realtionship or he is not getting any
2007-04-19 04:00:22 · answer #6 · answered by llllhardc0rellll 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously the same things dont turn you on--there is nothing deprived or filthy about sex--try being more adventurous and open with your husband and maybe he wont be looking elsewhere to fulfill his fantasies
2007-04-19 04:21:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your morals and values in a relationship say to you on this subject hun? If you don't approve of this behaviour then tell him to stop it or else.
2007-04-19 04:00:30 · answer #8 · answered by Sugarplum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, i feel the same way i caught my husband on the chat line phone in on hand / porn magazine in another one masturbating lawd where are the good men at what happen "SIGHS" .
2007-04-19 04:09:29 · answer #9 · answered by MISS MUHAMMAD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to him seriously. Since he hasn't actually cheated on you, you shouldn't get a divorce.
2007-04-19 03:57:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋