I am trying to be trusting and move forward after some upsetting events in my marriage. I know the phrase "once a cheater always a cheater", but is it really true? Have any of you really learned your lesson and are now able to avoid temptation? Thanks for honest answers.
2007-04-18 21:26:15 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes and i think lots do you either just get tired of it or you get a better marriage or even sometime your current relationship improves. Sayings are just sayings they usually sound good but not reality.
2007-04-18 21:32:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry,once a cheater always a cheater.Ive cheated and have been cheated on. When I cheated - it was a way for me to become unattached-and to lose intimacy to the person. Once this happens the person cheating cannot really-truly be totally intimate again with their partner. The bond has been broken and the relationship will never be the same. It is sad for both people-the cheater will feel weird and your partner will pick up on your behavior-"you cannot hide those lyin' eyes". My last 3 relationships I did not cheat. It made me feel good.
2007-04-18 21:42:53 · answer #2 · answered by juststopit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I cheated on my first wife because there were many things missing the marriage (like sex, understanding, etc.). I never felt guilty about at all and never will. I have never cheated on my second wife and have never wanted to.....
The phrase "once a cheater always a cheater" is not always true.
2007-04-19 01:46:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are 2 types of cheaters.
The ones who do it because they can.
The ones who do it because they are looking for something lacking in their lives/relationship.
If your husband did it out of temptation,I believe it could happen again.
If he did it because there were things going on between the 2 of you-and you have addressed those problems-chances are he has learnt his lesson.(If this is the case for you,I am NOT saying it was your fault he cheated.I am saying he cheated as an escape from problems,rather than sort it out.)
But the best thing to do is-Trust your intuition.You know him better than anyone-Do you think he will do it again?
2007-04-18 22:48:08 · answer #4 · answered by Jane Doe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, when I was married I cheated, when I divorced him after years of abuse, I found a loving man, who not once have I even had the notion to cheat on, Maybe your relationship with your wife is over, but once you cheat in a relationship, I do think it will keep on happening, maybe she just isn't the right girl. Sorry
2007-04-18 21:32:20 · answer #5 · answered by rachie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that all people are different in what really becomes the very last time.More than likley this person will not stop until the ultimate end result happens,then it will be too late.But the good news is you will have probably fixed this person to be the very best in their next relationship.
2007-04-18 21:34:28 · answer #6 · answered by harley6455 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Occasionally people learn from their mistakes, and make a better life for themselves. Yes it is possible with plenty of love and understanding. Just don't be so blind that you let that person continue to treat you wrong. Counseling usually helps. I hope they realize how badly they would have felt had it been you that cheated.
2007-04-18 21:32:30 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2007-04-18 22:01:00 · answer #8 · answered by Bill I 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but I had to ruin things with a couple of gf's before changing my ways.
I think being a little older helps a bit - gives you more perspective.
2007-04-18 21:39:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it's not true, but don't ever let your guard down. just in case, 1st time shame on them 2nd time shame on you.
2007-04-18 21:30:14 · answer #10 · answered by rightsidney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋