Because he lives at home still because his work is nearby. So on his days off he comes to my house. We have a 2 year old. I need good advice please. We had a fight. Why? I asked him if he had an extra hard disk laying around because he has so many computers at home and one was for his half brother. I said something to the point of "are you sure you're not giving your brother a better hard disk than me" and it ended up with him saying he loved his half brother more than me. It hurt me alot hearing that from him. He knows my family is in another country and that he is my only family. He said his brothers came first. They didn't even grow up together. I always listen and obey him and I am trying to do alot for him, but why can't he love me more. I sure love him more than my sisters. Anyway, I told him he could have our daughter since they are one blood, I'm never going to be family to him. And ever since then he won't talk to me. He's even hiding from me. What should I do
2007-04-18 19:30:58 · 7 answers · asked by marief2rnurse 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A year ago we had a fight and he didn't talk to me for 3 months. He said I had to change a lot of things. I keep telling him I'm not going to change overnight or in a snap of a finger. Why can't we fight normally? I really hate the silence. How can I move on when it's not talked about? We just had a lot of things done to my house to make it nicer for both of us. He is telling me what I should take up in college. I'm trying to do things for him that I normally don't know how to do. Why do people do this?
2007-04-18 19:41:50 · update #1
He left with our kid and the next day I picked up our daughter and he was not home, he was not at work, his mom and his brother claims they don't know where he is. I missed my daughter that's why I picked her up. I only said they should live together because it seems she loves her more than me.
2007-04-18 19:54:12 · update #2
It doesn't sound like you live with him, it sounds more like a part time room mate.
2007-04-18 19:33:57 · answer #1 · answered by rightsidney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy, did you mess up. Don't ever get involved in someone's family. "Blood is thicker than water" You are water. It is none of your business what he gave his brother. He is not married to you.
On the other hand, what in he** were you thinking when you told him that he could have the baby? What kind of mother are you? You were given the blessing of a child. This blessing comes with the responsibility to care for that child for the rest of your life. If you were not prepared to do that, then you should have been using fool proof protection.
I am sure that your bf did not appreciate what you said either. He is seeing you in a different light. Now he has to make up his mind if he still loves you, after what you said.
Best to give him some time to think. If you can't work things out, you might want to talk to his mother about raising the child. You don't sound like a very good mother. What do you think that your child would feel had she had been old enough to understand what you said? She would have felt unloved by you. Time to grow up and realize that everything you say and do will be watched and copied by your child. It is your responsibility to give that child unconditional love. It's time to be a role model too. That means thinking before you make stupid remarks. If you are not prepared for that responsibility, give the child up before you destroy her life.
2007-04-19 02:50:13 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a backbone. You , if you want , can do better than that . Being alone is more relaxing and enjoyable than subjecting yourself to that treatment. But, I am guessing you already know that , and for some reason you are punishing yourself.
Find some comfort in friends , ask him to move out and move on with your life. Treat this as the father of your child and everything will work out much better.
2007-04-19 02:36:18 · answer #3 · answered by Georgie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This relationship isn''t going anywhere. You don't live together, you're not married, and he stops talking to you for 3 months. I'm sorry but that's bull. You have to have more respect for yourself. You have to believe that you deserve better. You giving him your daughter is also bull. Daughters prefer their dads sometimes, but that doesn't mean you have to give her to him. You can share custody.
2007-04-19 03:30:38 · answer #4 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump the fool and move on. Why have kids if you're not even going to get married? I would fight for your daughter though. You'll probably regret it later.
2007-04-19 02:35:50 · answer #5 · answered by SlamDUNK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you and him are under a lot of pressure; why aren't you married so he can be a husband and dad at one time...hmmm maybe it is too much for him and yet he should take care of his child...
2007-04-19 02:35:33 · answer #6 · answered by Pooks 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of him! he already told you.. ask yourself what he does that makes you feel good.(not sex)
get someone new.. soon he'll realize what he took for granted
2007-04-19 02:46:21 · answer #7 · answered by RACHELORE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋