Marriage & Divorce - 18 April 2007

My wife and I got into a fight today about her allowance. I have been giving her $20 dollars per week as allowance but she seems to think thats too little! You know women these days, they want everything. They need expensive starbucks lattes, fancy clothes, big gas guzzling SUVs so they can feel safe, etc. We've come to the conclusion that $20 isn't enough and we need to increase it.

So what do you guys think? I'll tell you what i think. I think she should get $40 per week. I think thats a reasonable number given my salary of 75k/year. We need to save all we can for a house, retirement, and college costs for the kids we'll be having.

2007-04-18 16:41:00 · 49 answers · asked by ayehoss123 1

She says she is spending it on our child but I dont see it and now she is asking for more money. She got married and then divorced and into alot of debt and I think she is using my support for her own expenses.

2007-04-18 16:26:49 · 18 answers · asked by flyguru1 1

how to get an uncontested divorce

2007-04-18 16:23:34 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

So, when my husband and I met ,the sex was pretty good. I always wanted it more, and would get annoyed if he wasn't in the mood. Tables have turned, I backed off. He's easy to please. Once a week, and he's good. So, I can provide him with that. More then willing to. But, my lover of 4 months and I reach multiple orgasms together. We are sexually built for one another. We spent 3 hot hours in the hot tub, followed by an hour long shower. How he has the energy for his wife, I don't know? The sad thing is, we are going to end up staying with our partners. He has a child with her. I've grown accustomed to a lifestyle I don't want to give up. Do you believe that it is okay to have a little something on the side? My very good friend once said........The main course is nothing without a little something on the side!). Can I make this functional? Can I make it work? What about you all, have you????

2007-04-18 16:18:18 · 22 answers · asked by Confused Chick 1

2007-04-18 16:01:32 · 8 answers · asked by Baby Girl 1

2007-04-18 15:54:25 · 34 answers · asked by ACG 1

I have been with him 16yrs and we have our ups and downs but never like this, Today I was at a friends house where he barged in and started punching me and kicking me. I have never seen a house clear out so fast.No one helped me. I had to go down the street to call the police. The police made a joke about the love being gone. I dont think they will help me. I am worried he will damage me car or house tonight. What can I do? I want him arrested. They said they went to his house but twice they went to the wrong house. I dont think they even tried to find him. Everyone I know is afraid of him. Help me ;please

2007-04-18 15:53:12 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-04-18 15:45:25 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

he just said he love me very much only one week ago, now he start a relationship with another woman,how can he change he feeling so fast?

2007-04-18 15:42:41 · 15 answers · asked by sska 1

Note : For background info have a look at my previous questions.

My ex Eli and my husband James were in a car accident together 2 weeks ago that left James with minimal injuries and killed Eli.I was so upset that after Eli's funeral last sunday I blew up at James and told him I wish it had been him that died instead.I don't know how to fix this.I said what I said in the heat of the moment and it really couldn't have been any further from the truth.I tried to apologize last night but he doesn't believe a word I say because he's now convinced I was in-love with Eli all along.What can I do or say to make him believe me?

2007-04-18 15:38:21 · 35 answers · asked by Frankee 1

2007-04-18 15:29:15 · 15 answers · asked by Nurul NorAina Ruslan a 1

I really dispise his 2 1/2 year old step brother. What a little jerk.

I've lived for 25 years and I honestly feel like I have met my arch nemesis. How that much hatred and rage can be in a 2 1/2 year old is amazing.

He talks gibberish, throws things, doesn't walk that well and is always making a mess.

Toilet training ain't the worst thing, you know what I mean?

I had a screaming match with the kid last week, and it's come down to this.

Either my boyfriend chooses him or me. Bottom line. I've had a very rough life, and don't need to be treated this way by a 2 1/2 year old. It's like he knows how to push every button I have.

2007-04-18 15:24:20 · 11 answers · asked by Mel Dogg 1

My husband also cheated on me for many years. We have 4 children. He is in his 50's and I am in my 30's. In all these years I never had the courage to leave him. For the past 2 years he has changed alot and is trying very hard. The problem is I cannot get over the past and I want to move on. In the last 6 months I have met someone else who seems perfect for me and is very nice. I live each day feeling guilty and feel that I married for better or worse and since my husband is making an effort I shoud try and work things out, but my heart is not into him anymore. He tells me to get ovet the past but I cannot. I dont make enough to support my 4 children but I am just not happy. Is it wrong of me to live in the past or is it time for me to move?

2007-04-18 15:19:09 · 27 answers · asked by Ms K 2

My fiance is the only one with a bank card. But we share an account. My money is in there too. Anyway, he changed the passwords and will not let me have any money at all anymore. I don't overspend.....he just got mad, and did this. I take care of our 2 kids alone most of the time.....now I have no emergency money to get baby food etc. What should I do?

2007-04-18 15:16:11 · 11 answers · asked by Envious80 1

Why is it she is the one yelling and cussing .... She gets what she wants or we can't see the kids ... I mean she tells them he hates them peels out in front of my house and throws rock on my car and a 7X7 window what gives ...

2007-04-18 15:14:41 · 10 answers · asked by dunham_girls 1

How long after your divorce did you start dating again? (i'm not talkin about rebounds or anything like that) how long were you all separated before the divorce? how many of you didn't mess with a separation and went straight in to divorce? just curious...thanks!!!

2007-04-18 15:12:25 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

He tells me I make him do it. He yells and screams over the little things and gets so mad when I don't do things when he feels they should. He always says he's sorry. Why does he keep doing this to me if he loves me?

2007-04-18 15:06:32 · 54 answers · asked by BJ B 1

Do you not think it hilarious that some people have not realized if you put some spaces between the letters they will not be censored.

2007-04-18 14:59:46 · 10 answers · asked by Livinrawguy 7

2007-04-18 14:58:42 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

If a man grabs you or keeps you from leaving the house, is that physical abuse or borderline? Is there borderline? Or is it just if he strikes you?

2007-04-18 14:46:26 · 26 answers · asked by justcuriouslyasking 1

If you are unhappy in your marriage divorce seems a way to resolve this, I was just wondering if anyone wishes they had perservered longer in trying to make their marriage more fulfilling.

2007-04-18 14:44:59 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

wife was tight, toned, cute, and knockout when she was younger. Now she's turning thirty, gained weight, feels old and is beside herself. We have kids but it's like her whole world is tied up in being young. Is this a sign that she's always had low self esteem and does not have enough self esteem to pull her through just getting older? it seems a little rediculous. everybody gets older. its no big deal. it's like she's lost her life because of her weight gain and her youth. I don't know what to do to help her. does it seem like she always had low self esteem because she focuses on her looks? I had no problem getting older.

2007-04-18 14:43:32 · 10 answers · asked by survivor 1

I checked her inbox and outbox on her phone, so I must make amendments to my original post and ask for some real insight into t his> Here's how the inbox message read from the guy:

"James": I'm sorry sweetie, what time do you get home today?"

Wife: That's okay honey, I forgive you

the wink was on the message she sent back...is there any other way to interpret these texts...I'm really unsure about how to read them or what to do...I really need help cuz I'm nerve-racked over here.

2007-04-18 14:38:18 · 41 answers · asked by blackadam21 1

My boyfriend has been giving his X wife a certain amount of money every month since they separated almost 4 years ago (this amount was a mutual agreement). She recently began working part time as opposed to FULL time and is now talking to my boyfriend about "back pay"...would anyone know how far back he would have to pay is he does get taken to court (ie 1 year or for the entire duration that they've been separated.)? She also has a 3rd child with the man she is with now. BTW she is in IL and we're in NY.

2007-04-18 14:37:52 · 6 answers · asked by monkey 2

he is sleeping for 17hrs. a day he's says he just can't keep his eyes open(but he surely gets up for video games) we haven't been getting along lately, mostly cuz i have to take care all 5 kids (3 under the age of 2,twins) i'm getting overwhelmrf and about to have a breakdown!!! do you think it could be depression?? it's worse than just plain lazy. any advice my kids would apperciate it so mommy can stop going crazy!!!! thanks

2007-04-18 14:34:22 · 19 answers · asked by amber l+5KIDS 2

2007-04-18 14:29:40 · 15 answers · asked by payman has lost his religion 4

I remember and do not miss those days.

2007-04-18 14:19:49 · 13 answers · asked by sokrates 4

2007-04-18 14:17:01 · 19 answers · asked by lilcrow_38063 1

We split because I lied to her about having done drugs. It was casual use, and it was wrong. I'm not trying to justify my crime, but I didn't spend the rent money on it. Since the split, I have gone to councelling, etc. There has been no further use, and there will be no future use. My wife and marriage are worth far too much to me. I was wrong to do it at all. I love her with all my heart and wish to reconcile very much. 7 months ago, I was served with a TPO for harassment. I found that when your spouse hangs up on you, and you call to ask why, it's harassment. Because I cannot call, or communicate in any way with her, I have no idea whether she's divorcing me, just needs time, hates me, or anything else. She also has all of my possessions. The TPO only allowed me 1 trip to our storage to get my things, but was already empty. I do not want a divorce. I have never been unfaithful, even during the split. I believe in her, but I'm not sure how to deal with this, emotionally or legally.

2007-04-18 14:13:49 · 16 answers · asked by Russ B 1

I like the name I have now and do not feel the need to change my last name to "Youngblood". I can't stand it ( I have a very english sounding name). My fiance wants me to take it. Any others been in the same situation?

Why do guys need for a women to take his last name? Or name their first born male after them? Can't they find some other way to feed their egos?

2007-04-18 14:08:45 · 9 answers · asked by dumbblond 3