I like the name I have now and do not feel the need to change my last name to "Youngblood". I can't stand it ( I have a very english sounding name). My fiance wants me to take it. Any others been in the same situation?
Why do guys need for a women to take his last name? Or name their first born male after them? Can't they find some other way to feed their egos?
2007-04-18 14:08:45 · 9 answers · asked by dumbblond 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My mothers maiden name was Smith, so that is not always a good idea. Our daughter has his last name.
2007-04-18 14:15:09 · update #1
Keep your name if that's what makes you happy. I promise your kids won't need therapy for it like some may suggest. I took my husbands last name because I wanted to, not because he made me or pouted till I did.
2007-04-18 15:50:56 · answer #1 · answered by layla983 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a hang-over from ancient times in Europe where the woman was a chattel of the man. Amongst other cultures, Middle Eastern and Asian, women do not take the family name of their husband.
The options are:
1. You may keep your own maiden name.
2. You may take your new husbands name.
3. Compromise and hyphenate the two family names (in which case your children would also have the hyphenated name).
2007-04-18 14:18:19 · answer #2 · answered by Walter B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess not. I'm in the same situation. Our wedding is in the planning stages at the moment but I'm sorry to say I'm not really interested in taking his last name. I agree, I don't feel the need to change my last name either. I even asked him about the possibility of him taking my last name, especially since all my children (3) share my last name (which is my maiden name). It sort of makes more sense, establishing unity instead of dividing (Me and him with the same last name and my kids with my maiden name).
2007-04-18 14:16:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have been sad as a kid if my mother had a different last name from me, like she had chosen not to really claim me and my father. I don't have issues with the guy taking the girl's last name, or the girl taking the guy's last name, or both of them taking a completely new name, but I think that the last names of both parents ought to match the last names of their children. This is so the kids don't have to constantly explain that their parents ARE married but just couldn't put aside BOTH of their egos (not just the man's) and make a unified decision.
2007-04-18 14:23:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You do not have to change your name to your husband-to-be's last name. There are plenty of women who have kept their maiden name. Some compromise by hyphenating their names, while some use their maiden names as their middle names and use their husband's last name. It's tradition that women take the last name, not egos.
2007-04-18 14:14:05 · answer #5 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Its not ego, its heritage...this is why in our culture the middle name is your mothers maiden name...we honor yours as well.
2007-04-18 14:13:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What decides it is children. If you have or are going to have kids, all three of you need to have the same name. It's just too much for kids these days to not know who they belong to.
2007-04-18 15:46:06 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
it truly is ideal she substitute her final call to tournament yours, there is satisfaction and dignity in doing so. it is going to smoothing the dating in case you too have the comparable final call. That became into what my mom did, and it would be ideal that way it truly is that in case you like her. substitute her suggestions if she would not substitute her suggestions.
2016-12-16 09:46:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not ego its tradition...I gave the choice to my wife (although I hoped she would)...and was very proud when she took my name. And if you have these pre concieved notions about men....you are going to have a very rocky marriage
2007-04-18 14:15:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋