I found this message on my wife's phone...is she cheating or am I being paranoid?

Question

I checked her inbox and outbox on her phone, so I must make amendments to my original post and ask for some real insight into t his> Here's how the inbox message read from the guy:

"James": I'm sorry sweetie, what time do you get home today?"

Wife: That's okay honey, I forgive you

the wink was on the message she sent back...is there any other way to interpret these texts...I'm really unsure about how to read them or what to do...I really need help cuz I'm nerve-racked over here.

Answer 1

First of all is she the type that calls everyone sweety and honey? Sounds like they might have missed each other for some reason. Is your birthday coming up or anything? Is there any reason to communicate with this person? Is he a mutual friend? You need to come out with it. Ask her who he is. Tell her the truth. If she has nothing to hide everything will be just a misunderstanding.

Answer 2

I'd be nervewracked too. It does look like she is cheating. The simplest solution is to take her cell phone away - put it in a drawer somewhere and forget about it for a couple of days - with the ringer off. Then check back and see if this guy calls her and leaves messages. When you have some privacy (go elsewhere to check the phone) listen to any messages. Even if you don't have any messages, you will still have the inbox message from James. Confront her then and ask her who James is and what he means asking about what time she gets home. Also ask about the sweetie and honey.
I suggest getting more messages because she may give you a huge argument over the simple James message you have already seen. If you have a lot more evidence, then it will be much more difficult for her to deny. If there was any way possible to tape the voice messages off the phone, I would do that before handing her the phone back.
The more you can ask her about, all at once, the better.
It does sound to me like she is cheating. It could be her uncle. Or cousin. But that's why it's good to have more messages.

Answer 3

If it's based on "James" text, well you could be paranoid because some guys like to call their female friends, "sweetie". But the text from your wife is different. If there is nothing going on with them, she could have just replied "that's okay, i forgive you" but why with such a word as "honey". It's a term of endearment, a name we give to someone special to us. You better clear this up with your wife. You might just be paranoid but the way I see it on a woman's point of view, I don't normally say honey to someone I am not attached or involved with.

The best thing you're going to do is try to send a text message to "James", any sweet message or "I love you honey" and wait for the reply. If you receive something like "i love you too sweetie" well, that says it all.

Answer 4

There are many possible scenarios. Do you know this James person? Could he be a gay friend? Who knows? It definately warrants looking into a little further. Give her the benefit of the doubt for now and just keep an eye out for suspicious behavior. I hope it's just an innocent thing. I hate seeing relationships go through rough patches. Good luck to you.

Answer 5

I would say that you are one paranoid crazy guy that could be something purely innocent. But before I get lost in telling you how crazy you sound. Why the hell were you in there that is very private you had no right in reading her messages so whatever you found in there is exactly whatever you deserve. My husband would never dear and he knows that I would know because I always know when he is up to no good. He doesn't even touch my purse unless I make him hold it or lets say trick him into holding it. Lol!

Answer 6

Does she normally get home from work earlier than you do? If so, I'd be nervous.

I vote for William's plan--text James back like you are your wife and see what kind of response you get. If you get another strange response, then ask her, but be ready to give her a good reason as to why you are checking up on her.

Answer 7

1. why don't you trust her? If you are checking up on her like this, you must have some reason.

2. I would be concerned but you need to ASK HER. And then be prepared to defend why you were snooping...

listen, if you go looking for trouble, you WILL find it. If you really think she's cheating, sit her down and have a talk right away....

Answer 8

Semen interior the fallopian tubes have no longer something to do with exhilaration. you have some intense issues understand-how rape and lady anatomy, pal. might you get exhilaration from intercourse after being beat up and with with a broken jaw? I hardly think of so! cheating is willingly having intercourse.Rape is against her will. Gad, what's incorrect with you?????????? Rape is an act of violence and you're loopy to think of anybody enjoys it! i'm hoping you do divorce her so she will finally discover somebody supportive and understand-how as you is merely no longer!!

Answer 9

Now, I'm not a remotely jealous person. I never could imagine checking my spouse's cellphone, e-mail, etc. But if I was you and I now had this info, I'd investigate before confronting her. Think, how can you gather more info? Just confronting her with the text messages, 1) she knows you were checking her cell. 2) she may lie.

Answer 10

it sounds as though you already don't trust her feeling as though you needed to look through her phone. What made you want to do that? Is there more to the story. I think it could be a friendly text, but it could really go either way. If you want to bring it up nonchalantly, then ask her to see her phone, use the excuse that you need to look up a number, see what her reaction is...good luck and lets hope she isn't cheating for your sake!