My fiance is the only one with a bank card. But we share an account. My money is in there too. Anyway, he changed the passwords and will not let me have any money at all anymore. I don't overspend.....he just got mad, and did this. I take care of our 2 kids alone most of the time.....now I have no emergency money to get baby food etc. What should I do?
2007-04-18 15:16:11 · 11 answers · asked by Envious80 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Note to that one comment.....I don't want to get married. I have been married before and not sure I really want to do it again.
2007-04-18 15:31:51 · update #1
I would open another account in my name only and deposit my money there. I would also go the bank and have them issue another card on the joint account for you.It is very controlling for him to cut of your funds. Dont put up with it.
2007-04-18 15:20:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all dump the fiance as he is being way to controlling to you now. You need to try and get your money back. Open up your own bank account and get your own bank card so you have say over your own money in this case. If this is a joint account than call the bank and get your own bank card. Good luck to you and i hope you get some money soon to help with the kids and your needs.
2007-04-18 22:28:32 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG get out girl...do not let him do this to you. my soon to be ex husband would change my passwords. not my bank accounts (luckily we never combined our accounts) but to my e-mail (we didn't share that either) and other things. this is a form of control and he thinks he has the upper hand. if you really feel you want to stay with him it would be smart to get your own account. if you are on the account you can just call your bank and tell them you forgot your password and GET YOUR OWN CARD. he is mad at you...not your children..he needs to realize that.
2007-04-18 22:22:45 · answer #3 · answered by Chrissy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one I would start my own account and quit giving him your money. For two you are dealing with a control freak I would give some serious thought about getting out while you are still able before he gets abusive.
2007-04-18 22:23:36 · answer #4 · answered by mr. Bob 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, get rid of him. And change your accounts so he has no access. You have a relationship and unfortunately children with a controlling man. You actually need an attorney. Take control of your own life and do it fast.
2007-04-18 22:22:39 · answer #5 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the bank and take our your share of the money and dump the manipulative, bastard. You do not want to be involved with such an a**hole.
2007-04-19 08:42:38 · answer #6 · answered by tom t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get your own account. Once you are married it will be worse. sounds like he is a control freak
2007-04-18 22:21:37 · answer #7 · answered by carolyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you what ? i think that is his way of controling you ! open your own account , if your money is in there too , he has no right to do that and i think that was spiteful on his part .
2007-04-19 07:51:07 · answer #8 · answered by dawn p 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's treating you like a child, not like a respected equal partner. I can't imagine staying in a relationship with someone who treated me like that.
2007-04-18 22:23:20 · answer #9 · answered by Maureen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your own account.
2007-04-18 22:20:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋