my husband won't wake up or stay awake and i'm losing my mind!!!!!!?

Question

he is sleeping for 17hrs. a day he's says he just can't keep his eyes open(but he surely gets up for video games) we haven't been getting along lately, mostly cuz i have to take care all 5 kids (3 under the age of 2,twins) i'm getting overwhelmrf and about to have a breakdown!!! do you think it could be depression?? it's worse than just plain lazy. any advice my kids would apperciate it so mommy can stop going crazy!!!! thanks

Answer 1

Sounds like he's finding ways to "check out"of the relationship by sleeping & video games.
You need counceling ASAP before those 5 children become products of a broken home.
His behavior is a HUGE warning sign that needs attention immediately.

Answer 2

Is there a medical reason why your husband can't stay awake or is he working a graveyard shift? If no to the questions I just asked, then your husband may have a medical problem that is causing him to sleep so much. My advise to you is to help your husband seek medical treatment. Do you have a support system such a mother, father, sister, mother-in-law and friends that can help you? Every mom needs time to her self every now again to get away from it all. Also with kids under 2 incorporate nap time so that you can get at least an hour break during the day. I don't know about your financial situation but a lot of moms put their kids in daycare for a couple hours of day to help get a little break from the little tykes. If this is not possible incorporate a schedule for the kid and stick to the routines so they can fall asleep for right at nap time. And try to get your husband to watch the kids instead of playing video games. Because I imagine if it was me, when my husband finally woke up to play video games, I would have to make a run to the store (you know with out the kids and leave him there along with them for a while). Good luck? Let us know what happens.

Answer 3

Yes, it sounds like either depression or possibly sleep apnea. Either way, make an appointment for him to go to the doctor, get a baby sitter and go with him so he can't lie to the doctor.

It's possible, at this time of year that he is suffering from SAD (seasonal affective disorder) caused by the change in the seasons and not getting enough exposure to sunlight. Try taking all the kids out for a walk when the sun is out together. Even 15 minutes a day can help.
Also, is he eating right? He could be low on his B vitamins. The B vitamins help regulate mood. If he's low, get him on a multivitamin a.s.a.p.

And.... "lose" the cord to the video game. There are enough kids in the house you can blame that on and get away with it. I don't usually advocate being dishonest but your situation calls for drastic measures. Just get rid of it. Put it out with the trash. He (and the kids) can find something else to do.

Arrange to leave him with the kids for about two hours while you go off and run some "errands". Go sit in the parking lot of the local mall if you have to, but get out of the house. You need a breather and he needs to ge re aquainted with his own kids.

And finally, when was the last time the two of you went out and just had fun? Not talked about kids, or bills or in-laws or anything. Make a "date night" for the two of you to go out and do things you did when you were dating. Get silly! Go to an arcade and play Wack-A-Mole or something. Go rediscover why you fell in love (and had all those kids!!) :)

Answer 4

Whew...that's a tough situation. I feel for you! I have been diagnosed with depression and I have been known to only want to stay awake for a couple hours...just long enough to do something that I enjoyed then when that got old I'd go back to bed. I'm not a doctor by no means, but I do think it sounds like depression. Luckily, I got help and am now taking medication. You must know that people with depression have a very hard time seeking help. What boosted me into seeking help was my husband left me...he had had enough. That woke me up long enough to realize something wasn't right. If I were you I would first try talking to him after you do some research about depression and see if the shoe fits. If the shoe fits and he isn't willing to discuss it...I hate to say it, but you may want to get away for awhile in order for him to realize the seriousness of the situation. That's really hard for me to say b/c I do know what it's like to be that person, but I also know what helped me to get better. Good Luck to you and your family. Best Wishes

Answer 5

Sleep disturbance can be caused for several reason. When a person is depressed he hardly sleep out all, 2 or 3 hours night or 17 hours a day. The sleep is a way of avoiding problems. Insist he go to the Dr. If he does not get help you will be depressed as well. I wish you well.

Answer 6

Your husband just may have sleep apnea. Sounds like it to me. I found I have it and now that I know and am being treated for it. I am much more rested and don't need to nap and be tired all the time.
My son just retired from the U.S. Navy and he had the sleep test and he has it. He said he is now sleeping better and awaking refreshed & ready to go.
When your husband gets to feeling better, he will surly give you a hand.
You have a hand full and you need his help and support.
I have suffered deep depression in my life and I would advise you to do every positive thing you can to keep yourself uplifted. Depression is awful and once you fall apart, you need help medicaly to get going again and it takes a lot of work.
Think of all you have been blessed with, love and play with your babies. Be sweet and loving to your family and that includes your husband. You can turn all of this around and I will pray that you will be sucessful. Please work at it honey~jill

Answer 7

Sounds like depression or he needs a change in diet. My husband went through a phase like this. He has weird hours on his job and he travels, he wasn't eating right at all. It landed him in the hospital with a potassium deficiency that presented like a heart attack.(very scary) He was trying to live on fast food, potato chips and pepsi. A body can only take this so long. Once he learned that eating well while he's out is just as important as eating well at home, he's been sleeping less and much healthier. Get him to a doc for a check up.

Answer 8

I think your husband needs to talk to a Dr. this amount of sleep is not normal. Or he sleeps to keep from taking care of the kids. One other question don't he work? I think your husband could be in a severe state of depression and should
get it looked after asap. I alsao think that you guys need to find some time to be together just the two of you and for both your sakes I hope he has gotten snipped or you had your tubes tied 5 kids holy cra p. Tell him to make a Dr.'s appointment now it is not healthy to be sleeping that much unless you are a cat!

Answer 9

narcolepsy, or maybe mononucleosis, or depression or depression and just plain lazy, seek medical attention for the first two. support and try to motivate him out of the latter two, those failing, kick em to the curb, once lazy, always lazy imo. is he doing some kinda drugs already perhaps? people don't sleep 17 hours unless they worked their asses off for 2 days or something and need the rest or are jus plain screwed up. my prescription for these symptoms would be sunshine, exercise, work , oh and get a J O B. and a job would probably help, and in case i didn't mention, a J O B would probably help a lot. that failing, sounds like curb time buddy~

Answer 10

Wow, it sounds like you both are on the edge. He either has some medical problem, or he's having severe depression. You both need to be checked out by a doctor and then seek counseling. Do it for the sake of your kids. They can't have a stressed-out mommy and a depressed daddy.