Any way to make mother of my child document how shes spending my child support?

Question

She says she is spending it on our child but I dont see it and now she is asking for more money. She got married and then divorced and into alot of debt and I think she is using my support for her own expenses.

Answer 1

Nope there is no way you can force her to show where the money is going...are your kids fed and clothed? Do they have a roof over their heads? Is there electricty, water and sewer for the home they live in? If the answer to any of these questions is yes then you have the answer to where "your" money is going.

Answer 2

You may not see your child in new shoes and clothes, every time you see them. What a lot of dad's don't take in to acount is, that there child support goes on food and light and heat.
Gas in the car and the water bill and the cable bill. As a friend once said, why should my money be going in to my ex's gas tank? Well with out gas your ex can't drive to the store to buy, food for "YOUR" child. And if you feel she shouldn't put it towards the light bill, is "YOUR" child to sit in the dark? Once i pointed a few things out, he got it. And no i don't think you can't ask for a list, showing how she is using the money. SORRY but then i could be wrong.

Answer 3

Some states have started making the CP's accountable by making them put all the purchases for the child on a credit-card type thing. It's important over the long haul to get realistic figures from the CP as to what they spend the money on but over the short-term there really isn't much you can do about it.

One thing I've learned from paying CS is that some things are just how they are and no matter how unfair, there is no sense getting all worked up over it. I just don't have the time or energy to stay pissed off about it. Even if she spends the money on herself, that's something my kids will see and she'll have to answer to them later. They will see the record and realize that you've been paying all these years then they will look at the CP and ask themselves "How much did they contribute?"

Good luck!

Answer 4

dude THEY ALL DO THAT , even the ones who do spend child support on the kids, still spend some of it on themselves, heres some numbers for ya!

OK, lets see...
-rent; 1000
-electric 300-500
-food 400-600
-heat 300-400
-phone/cable 100
-water bill 50
-sewer bill 50
THESE ARE BILLS THAT THE WOMAN WOULD HAVE IF SHE HAD KIDS OR NOT!!!!!
so no they don't spend it all on the kids,,,, child support is more like a free ride than anything

so lets see
diapers 75per month (if your too good for cloth diapers )
-formula 200 ( way less if you get wic)
clothing/shoes/boots 200-400 every 2 to 3 months ( if the woman's greedy and shops at GAP)

this is about 475 to 600 a month
so now lets be FAIR and split The ACTUAL cost of the kid and divide that by two that's 237.50 up to 300 a month

judges can add well there problem is in there division

Answer 5

This is the biggest request from child support payers across the world; make the payes accountable at least for where their money is going. Especially since there are thousands of documented cases that clearly show thekids are not receiving the support money and are doing without the necessities of life, but the custodial parent is living it up. Unfortunately, no one is making the custodial parents keep current records of where the money goes. So unfortunately the answer to your question is no right now. Maybe someday soon this will change, but I dont see it happening any time soon. There are many groups out here right now trying to mke this happen but to no avail. Sorry

Answer 6

The only way that your child support would not be going towards your child would be if her basic necessities were not being met. Child support is your share of these living expenses. The courts determine how much is needed to feed, clothe, shelter, etc, and then determine the amount you are responsible for. These expenses consist of a portion of all needed to raise a child. If your child is being well cared for, then your child support is going towards her.

Answer 7

Are you freaking kidding me. Look control freak, she has the right to spend the money any way she sees fit. As long as your kids are fed, clothed and properly housed then you have nothing to worry about. Stay out of her business. If the shoe was on the other foot would you want to account for the money she was giving you? I think not! Get a life and enjoy your visitation.

Answer 8

There sure isn't. The women can spend it on whatever they want and as long as the child is being looked after that is all that matters. My husbands ex girlfriends mother, told my mother in law one time, that she used to get his child support because they were broke now isn't that a joke.

Answer 9

No, there isn't anything you can do. It costs alot to raise a child and hopefully she is using the money for food, rent, daycare, lunch, and extracurricular activities. The child support is to assist her in raising the child and she has to budget this. You do not have to provide extra money.

Answer 10

Ok, I don't know the situation, so I can't judge one way or the other. But we kind of need to know what expenses you're refering to. If she has full custody and the baby lives with her, then spending the child support on rent, utilities ect, does not constitute using it for herself bc that's the roof over your childs head, the hot water for his bath ect.
However, if you're worried she's misusing the money, I would just ask her if she can start giving you receipts. If she says no, take her to court about it.
The best to you and yours...
Sarah