Marriage & Divorce - 18 April 2007

My ex & I split up a few mos ago, he's been wanting to get back 2gether the whole time. I kept saying no bcause I didnt want to go back to the same problems from before. We have 3 kids 2gether. Lately I've been feelin like I do want to make things work so I told him this weekend & he said no he luvs me but realizes it's not going to wrk. Well monday nite he came & spent the nite w/ me & the kids, just like back to normal & yesterday he was totally being mean to me and startd saying hurtful things like he's not going to get back w/ me, theres nothing I can do now, it's too late & I was crying & beggin him to give r family another chance, he said no I did it to him for so long & he realized what he needed to. I was so devestated, b4 he hung up he said he'd call me when he got home from his game lastnite & he did, we just talkd like normal & I apologized for earlier, he just said okay and that he would talk to me tomorrow, did he flip this on me cuz I want him now?? or is he really done?

2007-04-18 05:17:38 · 5 answers · asked by justbeingme_ 2

2007-04-18 05:13:15 · 12 answers · asked by nicat h 1

2007-04-18 05:10:59 · 2 answers · asked by Meltz O 1

We have been married a few days short of a year. We were so happy at first. He wanted children, I already had some and did not care if we had more or if I stayed with my four. He wanted a baby and I wanted to make him happy. I am a good mom and we were finacialy okay and it seemed like an okay idea. We have now had three misscairages. One was spontantious, one I got struck by a car crossing the street(I had the right of way he made an illegal turn) and that baby was due 04-24-2007. Finaly in December I had a misscarige when I did not even know I was pregnate. Bled so bad I had to be hospitalized and an ablation was preformed on my uterus to stop the bleeding. I am still bleeding (5 months now) daily and am going to have a historectomy next month.

Husband says I am too moody and I need to get over the baby thing. As bare as calling me the B word. Teling me he loves me at one time and then describe what he perseves as me and I don't see how he can love that person. He

2007-04-18 05:03:34 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have had continuous problems with my Mom. I am 33 yrs old. Now she doesn't like my husband. She has gone long periods of time with out talking to me at all. Monday was my birthday and I didn't even get a card. She was abusive (physically) my whole life and now she is emotionally, verbally abusive. I really want a better relationship with her but I also refuse to let her disrespect my husband. He isn't allowed in her home. He's never done anything to me as far as abuse or anything. He's a good husband and makes me happy. Any advice?

2007-04-18 05:01:10 · 16 answers · asked by pcchocoholic 3

I was with this man but never go to a hotel room but talk only,but I broken off with him after I found out he also with a woman at work, he use our old Google groups address to talk with her at work about sex and have sex at the work place and going to have sex at a hotel, he did not know I still can get in to the groups to see everythings they write if I want to, should I tell his wife about it?

2007-04-18 05:00:41 · 15 answers · asked by sska 1

im 29y.o. and i have never been married...this has been with me for some time now..i just wanna settle down and yet i dont even have a bf and one thing more i fear is that it may take time for me to find the partner because i dont have a closure with my ex and i still love him ...i dont even know if ill ever get married...i still want to marry my ex

2007-04-18 05:00:38 · 8 answers · asked by c g 1

I just ended a relationship with a Central American woman that had a 9yr. gap between her last relationship and ours.She very rarely dated and was busy raising her then 11yr. old son.I was told by her that in her culture a son is allowed to live in their parents house and are afforded the utmost respect.My problem with this is it extended into her romantic involvement with me and her son influencing her on when we could spend time together or what he thought of me as a potential long term love intrest. This man still sleeps in the same room as his mother and I felt that this was an abnormally close relationship.
Was I wrong for feeling this way? I understand the bond between a mother and son and I feel I was more than patient and understanding because of the long time between relationships.But I don't feel a 20yr. old male child should be so involved with his mothers romantic involvements unless there is abuse going on(which there wasn't).Who's right here?

2007-04-18 04:59:30 · 10 answers · asked by Lonely joe 2

I am 34 years old and are unmarried. There are lots of pressure from my home to marry but i am confused. The girl whom i loved once left me since her mentality was totally different from mine. Now that girl wants to marry me but i don want still i even don like to marry other girls. what is all this .Is it that i love this girl or i am not getting the right choice,

2007-04-18 04:57:07 · 23 answers · asked by manish24997 1

Ok for those that have not read my questions before
my hubby packed up and walked out 6 weeks ago said he wanted nothing to do with me so i ran to my moms in another state with our kids. Im Bipolar and hes wanted me to get help for it for 6 yrs. I feel he is not motivated and needs direction

well as i said he wanted nothing to do with me then it changed to be that he wanted me to bring the kids back and try to be friends for them. lately its changed to come back we can try again if we go super slow like see each other a few days a week and see where it goes if we can fall into a heathy love.
I've told him I want him back .
I dont know if he really wants to try or just saying that to get me to move back. every1 says im nuts to go back to him he doesnt treat me like im important to him but I think that just an act he puts on just like he always said that if ihad sex with some1 else it wouldnt matterIt did I tested it with his friend he says reaction is 'cause id freak if was him

2007-04-18 04:56:24 · 8 answers · asked by Snowflake 1

I converted to muslim and had a run away marriage at age of 18. Things were ok initially fo 2 years.After he got a job in a branded perfume Co. He was in market out doors all time, i could understand the pessue he had to handel the merchandising he left at 8 am and came at 9 pm. I went on for some time he had stopped getting close to me fo 8 months and evey time i spoke to him of his work and the matte he just said im tired and turned his back to me and slept. He literally bhaved as if there is no intimate life at all btwn couples. I too stated gonig to wok and the situation remained the same. The story b4 this is lengthy but the main prob stats now. From the place we live to the place i wok took 2 hours to travel after he droped me he went to his work and so in the evening picked me up and we drove straight home. When concieved after we intimate after sharp 8 months till then even being next to me he behaved as im not his wife!

2007-04-18 04:55:17 · 2 answers · asked by anaisa 1

It seems that there are so many married people out there that are having affairs...why bother being married?

2007-04-18 04:52:53 · 17 answers · asked by blue_eyed_soul_woman 3

I asked a question , but I think I didnt give accurate details , I mean that I need to find a Mistress in my country I meant a Dominant to be her slave, so anyone can help me in this , I live now in Jordan ...

2007-04-18 04:51:37 · 13 answers · asked by Black Snow 1

Back when people married their highschool sweathearts they married when they were fresh in the world with not much past or history. The couple started out young together and went through everything together from the start. Now everyone waits so old to marry and end up divorced anyway. Marrying at an older age means getting involved with someone who has a past and you never know for sure what that is. If you marry someone who is in their 30's, how do you know if they have cheated on their taxes or owe the irs lots of money, how do you know what stds they might have picked up in their years of casual relationships, their situations with ex wives and obligations to children from previous marriages? Isn't it better when people marry young and begin their adult lives together rather than collect so much baggage along the way? Almost everyone ends up in a second marriage and not because they married young either, as most of they divorced guys I have met married in their 30's or 40's.

2007-04-18 04:51:25 · 13 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5

I fear I've made a huge mess of a problem I'm having. Recently, I began to suspect my husband was having an affair with another man, and rather than confronting him directly, I sought the advice of friends and family. Now that I've finally confronted him with my suspicions he has not only denied them but is very upset that I discussed this matter with several other people before him, who have now formed their own opinions of him based on what I said. Is there anything I can do to make this situation right?

2007-04-18 04:48:40 · 26 answers · asked by Kim B. 1

2007-04-18 04:45:48 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was going for it this way, to settle things amicably, but my ex has gone the other way. He's made stuff up, to make me look worse. even though he could have just gone for irretrievable differences and he's asking for a settlement, and allowance. I did go off with another guy, but only after ALOT of other stuff, emotional abuse, sometimes physical. he'd touch me even though he knew i didn't like it. i want to just say that the things he said weren't true without going through everything that happened in court. what should i do?

2007-04-18 04:43:00 · 15 answers · asked by sleepyme 1

Seriously ladies, lay off the make up a little bit!

Jeez, the other morning I went running out of my office because we were being attacked by clowns. It just turned out to be a bunch of female co-workers dressing up for a big "baby shower" or some crap like that.

Like the kid won't turn out to be a nazi or rapper anyway.

2007-04-18 04:32:28 · 10 answers · asked by Kermit 2

Married wih a 5 yr old. We live in a small community, live paycheck 2 paycheck. I want to go for nursing and in 4 years return to get a decent paying job @ the local nursing home/hospital. My husband said yes to this idea but now that I got the $ to go he's really negative, he says he's being realistic. I know we will be scrimping while I am at school but in 4 years the amount of $ I can bring home will make a huge impact on our family life, actually being able to afford the necessities! My question is how can I get my husband to be a little more positive, I know it will be tough, but we gotta stay positive. Also he seems like he doesn't want to start saving money to move, or think about getting stuff stored away. He has also said how are we going to find a nice house with a garage, I was thinking decent, yet cheaper apartment!! We don't live in a nice house now! HELP how can I get him to be positive and supportive, I think I can get the $ for the next 3 yrs 2 since we are poor!!

2007-04-18 04:23:32 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am in an utter depression, just so sad as my girlfriend/ex got married 2 months ago. We were together 4 years and she moved back to her country (ecuador) in late 2005, so we were long distance the last year. I heard in Jan that she was engaged and she got married in Feb to some guy she had been "dating" for 4 months. I went there tried to convince her to change her mind and marry me, but at that point she wouldn't, just said she already had too many plans made. I think she just got obsessed with geting married, didnt think I would do it. Since her marriage, she has emailed my mom many times, telling her that she cries for me all the time bcs. she knows I am suffering/sad. She says she is trying to make her marriage work, but that she always cries for me and is sad bcs she thinks about me and it makes her upset. She called me after her wedding crying, and then again called me yesterday. Why is she doing this? I love her, but why? Is she upset for me or upset for her decision?

2007-04-18 04:23:24 · 12 answers · asked by robert7 1

Hello. I am 20 years old, married to the love of my life for two years. We are generally very happy and have small, but not major, fights. We are perfect for one another and compliment each other well. Until about 3 months ago everything was wonderful. I found out that my parents (both biological) are getting a divorce, and there has been a lot of drama. Anyway, since finding out my husband and I have been fighting a lot more about things that aren't even worth the fight. It's like we're both on edge about the whole thing. I don't know what to do. I love him so much and I know that he loves me with all his heart and we don't want our relationship to be repressed and on the fritz just because my parents are getting a divorce. They have been together for 24 years and are separated at the moment. My dad and I do not speak because of issues in our past. How can we survive my parents divorce and continue to love and honor each other? He is the love of my life and my soulmate I wont lose him

2007-04-18 04:21:39 · 15 answers · asked by Ashley V 3

have been with my fiance for 4 1/2 half years. I have never cheated on him! This past month, I have been talking to a guy behind his back that lives up north. The guy and I were not talking about personal issues and knew very little personally about each other. My fiance found out and he went ballistic. I apologized and he says he is over it. He has become outstanding paranoid though. He has always been jealous but now he checks my emails, forum posts, bills, call history, & text messages about 10 times each a day. We have been arguing for the past couple of days & he has threatened to kill himself. He is a man that never cries & never showed remorse. A couple days ago when we were in the car, he kept punching himself in the head & left bruises. He doesn't eat anymore and skips class & work. Everytime we argue, he says that he is going to kill himself. He has already broke his phone out of anger & hurt himself on his forehead. I have no idea if he just wants attention or what? Help!

2007-04-18 04:15:00 · 17 answers · asked by Ondadl 1

saying both doesn't cut it because i dont really believe that marriages today consist of all 3 things.

2007-04-18 04:08:47 · 26 answers · asked by Joy 3

My 17.5 year old son showed up at my house last night... my ex-husband and i have joint-custody but he has physical placement. My son does not want to go back to him. If i send him back, he's just going to run away to somewhere else... what do i have to do to get physical placement of him? what are my options?

at his age do i even have to do anything legal-wise? is he old enough to just say that he wants to live with me?

2007-04-18 04:07:57 · 6 answers · asked by libby 2

2007-04-18 03:59:18 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married to my high school sweetheart for a long time, we have children and a very good marriage. Over the last 5 years I have met a person that really rocked my boat as far as believing I couldn't love anyone more than my spouse. There is nothing sexual between this person and myself, but just being in their presence is paradise to me. We both feel this way about each other but we have never acted on it.

What do you do when you have someone touch your heart the way this person has? It is not a fancy or puppy love, it has been this way for several years. I avoid the person and I have tried several things to remove them from my life. The basis is that I can not get over the fact that someone has touched my heart at a much deeper and fulfilling level than my spouse ever has or could? What is a person to do? Any Advice? I feel like a liar to my spouse but I have not betrayed them, but it doesn't make life any easier...

2007-04-18 03:55:59 · 33 answers · asked by ?Meaning2Life 1

i'm married and have 1 girle

2007-04-18 03:53:35 · 3 answers · asked by Aseel 4

my dad is 42 and has had two long relationship both lasting twelve years both woman have screwed him up my mum took all his money and me away and his ex wife used to beat me and she took 67 thousand from him when he worked for three years on a house that she wonted. why do they think hes a push over?

2007-04-18 03:53:00 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

She is constantly making up stories and lying about the smallest things. What is her problem?

2007-04-18 03:49:05 · 18 answers · asked by Kimmy 4

I found out my husband has been talking on his cell phone to another women. He said it was because so much was going on at home, she gave him her number "Call me if you want to talk." She is engaged. Should I confront her boyfriend? I think he should know, since they are planning to marry. What are your thoughts?

2007-04-18 03:43:28 · 31 answers · asked by snailspace77 1