It seems that there are so many married people out there that are having affairs...why bother being married?
2007-04-18 04:52:53 · 17 answers · asked by blue_eyed_soul_woman 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
"Gracie" , You don't know one thing about what you are accusing me of and have no right to call me an idiot. I do not have affairs, and my point is why would a married person not have the strength of character to end a marriage if they are not happy, before getting involved with someone else. Maybe YOUR the one who is involved with adultery? HMMMM????
2007-04-19 05:59:04 · update #1
Good question!! I don't understand it. If they aren't happy with their spouse then why don't they leave FIRST then find someone else!!!
2007-04-18 05:01:08 · answer #1 · answered by fungirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously they are not happy in their marrage and have no communication between them to voice that feeling. In my opinion most people these days are getting married without really looking into the entire aspect in commitment. Yes, they are in love and they want to be together but it is usually too soon. I and my husband decided to wait 5 years before we would get married and today we are married for almost 13 years and have a wonderful relationship. I know some who marry after a few months of dating and don't even make it a full year before splitting. Communication is a large part of a marriage. If you do not talk then there becomes more silence and then the search for that elsewhere.
2007-04-18 05:10:16 · answer #2 · answered by Karen G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These days marriage is a joke. Marriage vows used to mean something to people but these days they dont. Its sad. People might as well not get married at all these days and more and more people are choosing not to. Also people dont understand that marriage takes work so when they are unhappy instead of talking to their spouse about it or going to marriage counseling they think having affairs is going to make them feel better. Nobody said marriage was going to be easy you have your good times and your bad times.
2007-04-18 05:05:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
As someone who is now going through a divorce because of my husband's infidelity, I speak from experience (unfortunately). I think my husband liked the convenience and stability of marriage, but not the commitment. He liked having someone take care of him and all of the day-to-day responsibilities, and enjoyed having someone fun on the side.
I don't think affairs or one-night stands "just happen." Obviously nobody is forcing someone to cheat on their spouse - it is a conscious decision that that person makes himself/herself. And if they truly never meant to hurt their spouse, they wouldn't have put themselves in such a vulnerable position where they would be tempted to cheat.
After going through this horrendous experience myself, I couldn't ever imagine doing this to somebody else. I value myself and the sanctity of marriage too much to jeopardize it for someone who "didn't mean anything to me."
2007-04-18 07:00:42 · answer #4 · answered by jgiggles96 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think really that too many people are hung up on "love" and don't really realize that a marriage involves work. I also believe that it is too easy in this country to get a divorce, if it were more difficult it wouldn't happen either. There are so many factors that make it to easy for people to get divorced.
2007-04-18 05:40:08 · answer #5 · answered by Carl J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally, i think that people just get married for the sake of being married.
they don't step back and LOOK at the person first. they don't take the time to find out much about them at all... how many people do you know who discuss finances, personal goals and their moral standards BEFORE marriage?
not many.
marrying someone you don't know, and being in love with love doesn't make a relationship.
take care.
2007-04-18 05:00:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is better to be married than to be carried away by the fantasy that even when married people still have affairs outside. Concern yourself with yourself. Those who do it are agents of sex demons who need deliverance.
2007-04-18 05:05:30 · answer #7 · answered by gabriel j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fewer and fewer people are getting married these days, and if you look at when marriage was first conceived, people lived a lot shorter life back then, you got married at 14 because if you saw 50 back then you were doing good. and now people are living well into our 80's. I really don't think we were meant to be with one person all our lives!
2007-04-18 05:02:52 · answer #8 · answered by Sir Hard & Thick 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dear Blue Eyed Soul Woman.
Have you ever been married.?? It doesnt appear you have. If you have never been married... then why would you ask this question.? Unless you have been sleeping with a married man. My bet is that you have been sleeping with a married man. If you have been sleeping with a married man then you have no business asking this question as you are as quilty as the married people sleeping around ......right? Dont ask questions you already know the answer to. Gracie.
2007-04-18 12:13:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Love and being faithful is a choice of the heart. I feel that it is definitely possible if you choose to be and determine in your heart to be the spouse you need to be in your marriage.
2007-04-18 05:28:34 · answer #10 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋