Is It Normal For A 53 yr. old woman To be Still And Sleeping In The Same Room As Her 20 yr. old Son?

Question

I just ended a relationship with a Central American woman that had a 9yr. gap between her last relationship and ours.She very rarely dated and was busy raising her then 11yr. old son.I was told by her that in her culture a son is allowed to live in their parents house and are afforded the utmost respect.My problem with this is it extended into her romantic involvement with me and her son influencing her on when we could spend time together or what he thought of me as a potential long term love intrest. This man still sleeps in the same room as his mother and I felt that this was an abnormally close relationship.
Was I wrong for feeling this way? I understand the bond between a mother and son and I feel I was more than patient and understanding because of the long time between relationships.But I don't feel a 20yr. old male child should be so involved with his mothers romantic involvements unless there is abuse going on(which there wasn't).Who's right here?

Answer 1

In some cultures, this practice would be viewed as strange.
However, when cultural differences are involved, perceptions of "right" and "wrong" may also be different, as was apparently the case with you and the Central American woman and her family.
So, as far as your culture and beliefs are concerned, you are "right", (if that's any consolation). She obviously believed that her culture sanctioned her sleeping arrangements and relationship with her son.

Answer 2

perhaps this woman has become attached to her son emotionally because she spent so much time without a husband or love interest?

i am unaware of central american culture, and don't know if there is only one bedroom in the woman's home or what the situation is.

it's not uncommon that children try to influence their parents' decisions, but i DO think it's odd when a parent allows it to continue. parents need outside relationships and their children need to know that while they love them, they might fneed someone else in their lives for adult companionship.

people are weird, let's face it.

Answer 3

Sorry but thats sounds screwed up, A guy shouldn't be sleeping in the same room as his mother when he is 13 nevermind 20. He is a grown man.. this subject makes me slighty uncomfortable as i'm sure it does you, And as far as him involving himself in your relationship, It's one thing to look out for your mother and be there for her, But he is taking it a little too far. I say you should leave this, It's all slighty morbid and creepy

Answer 4

run for the hills, who in their right mind would want to share a room with their parents at the age of 20, something is very wrong there, even if they are not having sex, something is not right. move on and let them get on with their lives together!

Answer 5

get a life, i thought u said u ended it, move on, what is it your concern what she does if u aren't sleeping in the same room as her anymore? your's or even my opinion doesn't matter, she is going to do what she wants anyways, and the only reason y u would be asking this is if u haven't moved on, so like I said get a life and move on

Answer 6

I CANT IMAGINE ONE OF MY SONS STILL SLEEPING IN MY ROOM (THEY ARE AL IN THER E 20S) THATS JUST WEIRD AND WHEN AAND WHO IHAVE A REALATION SHIP ISNT ANY OF THEIR BUSSNESS UN LESS THEY SEE HIM TAKING ADVANAGE OF ME OR ABUSING ME THEN THEY NEED TO KEEP THEIR NOSE OUT OF IT

Answer 7

That's nuts-I don't care what your culture is!

Answer 8

thats weird.Men should have privacy...not be rooming with mommy.

Answer 9

you are. talk to her, about seeing a therapist

Answer 10

YOU...........