I am confused whether to marry or not to marry.?

Question

I am 34 years old and are unmarried. There are lots of pressure from my home to marry but i am confused. The girl whom i loved once left me since her mentality was totally different from mine. Now that girl wants to marry me but i don want still i even don like to marry other girls. what is all this .Is it that i love this girl or i am not getting the right choice,

Answer 1

Marriage is a big step and when two people marry they should marry because

1. They are deeply in love with each
2. Sure it is what the two of them want NOT with others around them want

3.Marry to stay together through thick and thin

4. Be there for each other NO matter what and talk things out NO matter what

5. Trust each other and never NEVER allow others to come between them

6. Be loyal and respectful to each other

7. Never try to one up the other

8. Take Care of each other

9. Allow each other to have space at times

10. Don't put unimportant things before each other, never let petty things get in the way

They say marriage is for keeps and if thats so then the two who are to marry should be 100% sure they BOTH want to do this

Anytime ones unsure then u need to talk with the other person never keep whatever uneasy feeling u have because it will come out later and that can make for an unhappy union.

Sweetie if u have ANY douts ANY douts then u need to talk to this girl and ur parents because your not doing yourself or this girl any good. Just because u love her don't mean u have to marry her, it's ONLY if ur IN LOVE with her and that u truely feel she's the one u want to spend the rest of ur life and grow old with is when u should ask her to marry u- don't marry just to please others or shut them up about it

Your parents or whomever else is putting pressure on u needs to step back and mind they own business and let u handle this, u may want to tell them that and if they get upset

OH WELL

Good Luck Sweetie

Answer 2

I can relate! I'm in my 30s, and during all of my twenties I worried constantly whether i would ever settle down or not. But I realize looking back, emotionally I wasn't ready. My family too worried if I would ever meet someone. I was in the dating scene and I hated it. So I took time out of the dating scene and I was actually happier because I knew what was out there and I didn't want it. You dont' have to marry. If you like what you're doing and like occasional outings, then obviously that's a fit for you. Your mind might change later, and if it does, great, and if it doesn't, that's ok too =) Don't let family, society, friends pressure you into something like that. I've never married, and I'm glad =) because I wasn't ready.

Answer 3

I wish I knew where you were from, but without that information I have to give you the short answer. If you don't feel you're ready to get married don't get pressured into it. You'll be miserable and make your mate miserable along with you. You seem like a nice person and I'm sure you would not want to ruin someone else's life. If you get married simply to make her happy she will probably end up more miserable than you.

Answer 4

well im 15 years old and i hope i answe your question. I think deep down inside you do love this girl but you are just afraid. afraid that she will leave you again. or maybe you're just afraid becase you are not ready for marriage. Marriage is a big commitment. after marriage is probably going to lead up to children. why won't you just try talking to her, telling her your feelings, and if she understands, maybe you will set aside the marriage for another time. a time when you are more comfortable and ready. you don't want to get married while under pressure. you will regret it.

Answer 5

Don't feel pressured into being married...by anyone.

Make sure you absolutely feel it in your heart, and the other person does too.

You are still young, and must remember that marriage isn't always for everyone, and everyone marries for different reasons and WHEN THEY ARE READY. Many marriages fail because it is not what they wanted or expected.

Answer 6

I dont think u love her,she left u bcoz ur n her thinking r different then who knows that she will not leave u again??? Y u have to marry her n fight all ur life???
I think u r not getting d right choice! Find someone else who can undrestand u. I think u r a kind of introvert???
B positive, u will find someone if u look 4.

Answer 7

Don't be rushed to marry anyone. If you truly in your heart don't want to marry her don't because marriage is meant to be forever. Don't sign up for the long haul unless this is something you are totally and completely ready for. It seems like people always think they know whats best for someone else but only you know what feels totally and completely right. Always trust yourself.

Answer 8

FORGET THE PRESSURE!! you don't want to marry for that. You will know when the times right.You are the best judge of you. When the women you love ,you can't live without, thinking of her always,miss her always., dreaming of her.Take 1 step at a time .Relationships are hard it takes alot of work good & bad. You want more good,You'll know in your heart when your ready could be 1yr. or 5 more yrs.You have to have peace within yourself to have peace with another,and become one.. Good Luck...don't think so hard...let it just happen...

Answer 9

marriage is important in life .But dont marry that girl who left u once , one day u will find ur match . I believe in love and i m sure that one day u will find a person with whom u can live ur whole life and would love her unconditionaly and will get same unconditional love from her

Answer 10

Do you, yourself, want to get married? There's nothing wrong with choosing to stay single, you know. Don't marry just because of the "pressure".