your boyfriend of 2 years talks to an old friend that he has said that he was once attracted to? Not to mention that she is a model, he even once admitted to me when he was intoxicated that he had had a sex dream about her, later admitting that he did not even remember telling me about? Later I told him to stop talking to her, he told me that he called her and said that because of the situation (me) that he wants to cut off all ties. He did do this on his own accord. Are men capable of really cutting off all ties(at least what he told me), Although they only talked once a month....I just do not feel comfprtable with the whole thing.
2007-04-18 17:09:27 · 11 answers · asked by Advice25 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your boyfriend is with you at the moment and not her. If he wanted to leave he could, so you just have to trust him. He sounds like a very caring person, if he is prepared to give up a friend for you. Don't be too demanding or you will lose him
2007-04-18 17:28:21 · answer #1 · answered by Lock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not! He should of understood how you felt after telling you about his dream . You were uncomfortable about her and rightfully have your reasons. Gut feelings don't lie. He didn't have to call that woman and tell her that he had to cut off all ties with her because of you! he could have said that he wanted to do it because he didn't think it was right because he is in a serious relationship and that he thought it could be a little disrespect full toward you. Did he really make that call the way he told you......or said that it was all because you were jealous of her? He could have said this unless he made the call in front of you and you heard it you self? She may never call him again that your aware of, but he could call her without you knowing about it, Like maybe buy those phone minuets. I don't know if he would cut off all ties with her..........but you know him better than anybody. Your not comfortable and thats enough for you to watch him for awhile untill your sure he got rid of her.
2007-04-19 00:50:30 · answer #2 · answered by Lindsey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, ask yourself do you really love him? If you really do then better stop nagging about that girl, making you look insecure, Trust your guy, the past won't hurt you if you are fully confident with what you have in the present.
Then, if you are still bothered and can't help it seeing or knowing that he's still communicating with her talk to him in a very loving manner. Tell him that you are confident with the relationship that you have but it would make you happier if he'll do the favor you'll be asking and that is cutting off all ties with that girl. I believe he'll understand though.
2007-04-19 00:17:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand your concern and jealousy of the situation. I happen to be on the other end of that. I've been married now over 2 years and I still talk with my first love weekly. My husband trust me not to do anything and I wouldn't. I love my husband otherwise I would still be with my ex-bf. Anyhow, my husband trusts me so much that my ex has come over for dinner and even came to our wedding reception. We are very close friends and I'm glad that my husband allows that. It amazes me though, b/c I don't think I would be so cool with it if it were the other way around. I dunno I guess it would depend. My opinion though is that it's never good to demand things from your significant other b/c you wouldn't like that kind of control on you. My advice would be to just tell him your fears and concerns about the situation. You can tell alot based on what he says and how he says it. Good luck to ya!
2007-04-19 00:18:16 · answer #4 · answered by porkchopsgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, he's been with you two years and by the sounds of it, he hasn't cheated on you during all that time. that's a good sign. another good sign is that he admitted to having that dream about her, i think only a good guy would actually admit to something like that. it doesn't sound like you have anything to worry about, but to be sure, just talk to him about it, and make sure he knows how you feel about it. but don't turn into the jealous girlfriend if it's not necessary.
2007-04-19 00:13:58 · answer #5 · answered by L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just trust him...I was kinda in the same situation. A the end of the day I didnt care because I know I have his heart
2007-04-19 00:15:57 · answer #6 · answered by ladyboobie_615 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are wrong for making him give up a friend just because she is a girl. After all girls say that men and women can be just friends. You are controlling and lack faith in your boyfriend. Why can't he be friends with her...oh that is right you are insecure.
2007-04-19 00:13:52 · answer #7 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You shouldn't. He wants that girl. I'd break up with him, because violating you relationship with these things he's doing.
2007-04-19 00:16:26 · answer #8 · answered by TantraGoddess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he is just trying to get you jealous, stop letting it bother you (at least as far as he can tell) and see if all the talk about her stops.
2007-04-19 00:12:51 · answer #9 · answered by mama 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
and you should be uncomfortable, if he knows this bothers you why does he keep doing it? truth of the matter is, they proly still have a relationship.
2007-04-19 00:31:36 · answer #10 · answered by heaven_sent3072002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋