Has my cheese slid off my cracker?

Question

About 2 months ago I discovered my partner had a 4 month affair. The affair has since ended but because of my deep and undying love, I have chosen to try to reconstruct the trust and rebuild the relationship that I once cherished with all of my soul. Since that time, I have done a great deal of self evaluation on the matter, trying to decide if it was my fault my partner cheated or if there was something more I should have done but didn't...those sorts of things.
What I have decided is that people are fallable, we make mistakes each day and we learn from them, no matter the degree, mistakes are a given. I am finding more and more comfort in the fact that as time passes by, I am less and less hurt by the mistake of my partner of 8 years. I am finding resolve in the fact that even though the affair was a long one, they chose me over their lover. I am less and less angry with the mutual friend that my lover slept with even. I am at peace.

Have I freaking lost my freaking mind

Answer 1

No, you are one of the very few people in the world that has gotten beyond the dishonesty of a partner. Just be sure that you know that she/he won't ever do it again. Too often we get so comfortable in our relationships that we can't see what is coming next. Good luck to you and your loved one. I truly hope that you can keep this indiscretion behind you. Eight years is a long time.

Answer 2

It is one thing to make a mistake, and quite another to make the mistake over and over for four months. it is NEVER the cheaters fault it is ALWAYS their partners.
I am glad you are getting over it, just make sure by accepting that it happened that you are not condoning it to happen again.
It takes a lot of work to cheat, especially for 4 months. I would hope your spouse is putting that kind of work back into making your relationship better.

Answer 3

Nope I think its Normal when you truly love someone as Long as that Pearson Shows that he or she has Gotten Help and changed their ways.