I recently got fired from my job(the first time ever in our marriage). I always worked FT and supported the family while hubby stayed home. Now HE got a job and is acting smart and calling me names ie:fat, loser..etc. His friends are telling him nasty lies about me and he listens to it. He is staying out all night with "friends" and leaving me sit at home. I watch our son now. He tells me I can't get a job now I have to spend time with our son and stay home with him. Meanwhile he parties and I am trapped in the house. I have always worked and I hate this. How do I cope with this and what would you do. Get a new job and find daycare or stay home and feel trapped? I love my son but I am not cut out to stay home all day especially when he is gone day and all night out. HELP!
2007-04-21 16:05:54 · 16 answers · asked by Samantha 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I mean now I have no job so I don't have many options but to take this
2007-04-21 16:06:21 · update #1
what an ******** you are married to. You can still love your son and go out and work. Find someone to watch him while you go to work....dayare is a wonderful idea because your child learns good social skills...so dont feel bad because a child who goes to day care usually learns a lot quicker than one who stays at home. It seems like your husband doesnt really want to be married anymore, so if I were you, I would consider myself a single parent and do what you have to do. Its obvious your husband doesnt want to be a husband to you, so you have to think about yourself and your child...your husband couldnt care less....that is obvious.
I think I would go one step further than just getting a job....I would be leaving the d'head AND getting a job. You will have an income, you will have your son well taken care of, and you will also be getting child support from your husband. See how cocky he is then when you finally assert yourself and say enough is enough. He doesnt deserve you.
2007-04-21 16:21:14 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find another job and take your son and go. There are daycenters where you can leave your son..even in some workplaces. It sounds like your hubby is mad because he is not able to stay home any more and has to be the breadwinner. He is being very immature. You want to work and that is fine, but if you get a job and stay with him he will probably just quit his and let you support him. Do you really want to stay with a loser? Sounds like you must be the ambious type so I don't think you will have any problems with a job and a child. And just think if you do this and leave this man then you will only have yourself and your son to support...the hubby on the other hand will have to support himself and provide child support. Bet he will have regrets for the way he has done you. Sorry but the man you are married to is a loser.
2007-04-21 16:39:02 · answer #2 · answered by susie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Raising a child is both of your alls responsibility. If you want to work than get a job. If your husband is being a jerk about it..don't take his crap, you worked and paid the bills the same as he is now, so don't ever let him make you feel unimportant. There is absolutley no reason for your husband to be staying out all night with friends, he has a responsibility to you and your son to be home at night. Friends that lies to your husband is really not a friend at all. So here's what you need to do...Get a job...Hire a nanny or put your child in daycare...where your son gets to spend time with kids his own age. And most important of all...Tell your husband to Grow up already!
2007-04-21 16:17:56 · answer #3 · answered by southernyankeeangel 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that you have no options, then why ask the question? You know what to do. Find a daycare for your son and get back in the work force, because soon at the rate your husband is going, you won't have a husband either. Have it ever dawned on you, that your husband is accusing you of all these things while you are at home now, is because those are the things he was doing, while you was out working and he was at home? His friends are lying to keep him out there and he is fool enough to believe it. If he is disrespecting you, why stay with him?
2007-04-21 16:43:09 · answer #4 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do have options! get a job and a sitter and show his A$$ who can make the money!!! if that dont help, leave him! he shouldnt be leaving you at home while hes out having fun anyways! and calling you names, girl, you better put him in his place asap! you arent trapped, get in the car and go, dont come home for the night, stay with a friend, and when asks you where you were, tell him "out"!
2007-04-21 16:16:39 · answer #5 · answered by brn.eyed.grl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well for 1 thing he could stay to home with you and your son instead of going out all nite with friends i would find a job and a lawyer if you have to watch your son then i would on your own he is verbally abusing you by calling you fat loser etc and its only going to continue
2007-04-21 16:19:15 · answer #6 · answered by linda h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know what ? he has got you right where he wants you , get a job ,its good for the baby to be in day care even if you get a part time job, if you feel trapped , it will make you feel so much better that you are doing something positive in your life and i think your child would have fun to , go for it .
2007-04-21 16:19:08 · answer #7 · answered by dawn p 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a job, and then save up to rent a place for you and your son to move into. That should fix the problem. I see no need to hang on to a "loser" like your husband! Who likes to get treated like sh!t??? Not me, thank you. Move on honey!
2007-04-21 16:16:01 · answer #8 · answered by Jenintn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of jobs out there, it is just what you are willing to do , to help your family out. Why are you with this type of guy? Do you have any family to help you out? You need to sit down and figure out what is the best thing for you and your son. Maybe being with this guy is not the right answer.
2007-04-21 16:10:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get a job, have the kid go to day-care & party with the hubby in the p.m.
2007-04-21 16:17:01 · answer #10 · answered by WILLIAM W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋