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I & my g/f loved eachother very much. Being of different religions I can't marry her due to my family obligations & married with a girl of my religion. Now I & my G/f both are employed. But she is not ready to marry with any one. What to do? Pl help !!

2007-04-21 22:21:17 · 23 answers · asked by rajtempl 1 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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What you want to do? You are now married with another lady so bother about your wife & forget about you previous Girl Friend. Whether she marries or not none of your concern now. Tell her you are now married man with a responsibility & you cannot just ignore it for her sake. I'm advising you for this is will not be correct on your part if you ignore or leave your wife for this GF. What ever has happened now when you decided not to marry then now why care about her marriage, let her decide if she wants to marry or not how it matters you.

2007-04-22 02:38:59 · answer #1 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 1 1

If you are not ready, then you are just not ready. Obviously you both need to work on your debits to become financially stable. You can sit down with her and work on a plan on decreasing the debts on both parts so that when the time is right, both of you will be ready. Speak to a financial planner, even if it is just for yourself to get your debt down. Always remember, what you see now is what you will get when you are married. IF you are not allowed to do things that you enjoy from time to time, it will get even worse once you are married. Think about it! I might also suggest a little break in this relationship so you can have some time, you might end up not missing her at all.

2016-04-01 01:52:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

See oneday or the other her parents will force her to marry someone or in future she will feel thats she would have got married. Because it is very difficult to lead a bachelors life. You make her understand this. And if converting in her religion to get her is not a problem for you then convert yourself and get her. Once you get married then this will not be the negligible part of your life. Later you can spend your days and nights as you wish.
JUST CALM HER DOWN AND MAKE HER UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU REALLY WANT TO SAY. I M SURE SHE WILL UNDERSTAND.

BEST OF LUCK

2007-04-24 00:04:29 · answer #3 · answered by Shakeel Ahmed 2 · 1 1

You both have to be ready to marry-you cannot force another to do it, as your girlfriend may need more time to be 100% sure that she wants to stay with you for the rest of her life. Its a hard decision regardless of religion or race. I married my husband even though my family did not acept him. They did not come to the wedding and I was upset and angry at the time. However, you must wait and give her time-when she is ready and loves you, she will make the right decision.

2007-04-21 22:27:13 · answer #4 · answered by Fifi 2 · 1 2

see it was ur fault.. if u really loved her u shud have tried to convince ur parents and not left her due to family pressures.

she still loves u and has shown her loyalty all throughout even though u havent. U have hurt her very badly.

All u can do now is to explain to her to go on with her life and find happiness in someone else. There is nothing much u can do. U have spoiled her life. if she decides to stay single, then let her be.

2007-04-21 22:53:52 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 1 1

Why do want to marry her if you are already married? By the way, if she's not ready yet respect her decision. Marriage is not something that can be push. Be patient.

2007-04-21 22:28:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1 1

If she wana get married later then u should wait as well.
but if she isn't interested in getting married then u probably find someone else.

anyhow according to me, there would emerge differences in u & her, family if both of u r of different religion.

2007-04-23 22:19:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

Butt out of her life and concentrate on your own. You have chosen to follow your family and marry according to their wishes, so make your wife the best husband you can possibly be. The first step is to put your life before marriage firmly behind you.

2007-04-21 22:29:53 · answer #8 · answered by Liz 7 · 2 0

Don't force her if she is not ready yet. It's good for both of you if you discuss first your plans together before getting there, because as you said your still have obligations with your family. So I think don't get rush, its better to plan things first then when its the right time then propose to her.

Wait, are you muslim? Clarify your question.

2007-04-22 04:42:22 · answer #9 · answered by gandakoh 2 · 0 2

Ok, first off, if you have a WIFE you should not have a GIRLFRIEND! Period. It is not cool to anyone involved. I can see why she isn't ready to marry anyone if your marriage is an example to her. Leave your girlfriend and concentrate on your wife like is right!

2007-04-21 22:24:19 · answer #10 · answered by liebedich85 4 · 1 0

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