I know I should let this go, but I just want to know what someone else think. I had met this guy (who later became my husband) and we had been together about a week...two max, and we were at a party. He was totally wasted and there was this girl there. I could use choice words to describe her but I will leave that out. Anyway when he was in the kitchen with her he kissed her. I didn't find out about it until the next day and a friend told me. I confronted him and he got upset and told me he didn't have a reason he did it other then he was drunk and he was sorry. He was really apologetic and he never did anything like that again. We have now been together a long time, but I always wonder...was that cheating?Please no dumb answers!
2007-04-21 18:27:32 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To me in a way i would consider this cheating you do have to play in the fact that he was drunk and you had only been together 2wks at the max so he wasnt thinking it was serious between the 2 of you but still i would have been upset for the fact he let himself get that way and it did happen if it hasnt happened again and he didnt lie to you about it once u confronted him then i think he wouldnt do it again dont know if this helps but just my oppinion
2007-04-21 18:45:06 · answer #1 · answered by ~*~*~JeSs~*~*~ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think most people have different ideas about what cheating is.some people would argue any intimate act with someone other then you is cheating even kissing.
Then theres' if the shoe was on the other foot would he be so eager to forgive you?
I personaly think it is cheating.but then again I could live with that and forgive someone doing that over something else far more intimate then that,such as touching or having sex with anyone other then myself.
The thing is can you really forgive him for that, drinking or not? I do agree that sometimes people do really stupid things when they are drunk and are unintentional,some even don't recall it.I would say though he should keep a handle on how much he drinks so something like this was not to happen again that is if you plan on keeping him around.This much he can control.right?
2007-04-21 18:36:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People do a lot of crazy things when their drunk and usually regret most of them, I don't think I'd call what he did cheating, just not very loyal, and after all, even two weeks isn't much he probably hadn't got used to being with someone and still had to get some singleness out of his system . It sounds like it must of happened a long time ago and as long as he hasn't done anything smiler since, I think your right, you should just let it go.
2007-04-21 18:43:31 · answer #3 · answered by Pepper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly i think he didnt mean it. Sometimes when guys are drunk, the other brain took over. But when he sobered up, he will vaguely remember what happen the night before and in truth he knows he definitely love you and will never hurt you. I bet he has been trying to make it up to you, and i bet he is truly sorry. Things like that do happen to a lot of people. I wont call it cheating. Cheating is what you call for something being done on purpose and in his case, no it isnt cheating.
2007-04-21 18:35:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you a Democrat? Is your name Clinton? As the former President said, " It ain't a cheat if you don't leave your feet" But an honest answer, seeing each other for only 2 weeks, he's wasted at a party and all it was, was a kiss. Not cheating, just being stupid and thinking with his manhood and not his brain.
2007-04-21 18:36:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let's see, he wasn't your husband at the time? And you had only been seeing each other for a week or so when it happened, so maybe there wasn't really a commitment yet?
And all he does is kiss some other chick while totally drunk?
And you are still worried about it years later? Years after he apologised?
Take your own advice, o.k. -- and let this go.
2007-04-21 18:59:27 · answer #6 · answered by joe b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Had you became an exclusive couple in just a week? Then yes but if he has never done it since you need to forgive and move on......otherwise if you were just dating then NO....either way even if it was he's never done it since so shouldn't be a big deal and it was just kissing......although kissing is cheating if in a relationship but as long as he is faithful now doesn't matter sounds like you were young and just partying......
2007-04-21 19:23:17 · answer #7 · answered by JustWant2B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt consider it cheating because you werent a serious relationship yet, until two people are sure that they have a romantic relationship, they cant really cheat on each other, and if he never did anything like that again, the he really wasnt tring to cheat, because once a guy cheats, you can almost always expect him to cheat again, this coming from a guy who knows his stuff
2007-04-21 18:33:24 · answer #8 · answered by cjpbball 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say, since you were only together for a week, that was too new to consider your relationship to be exclusive. So I would say no he wasnt cheating. In my opinion you were still in the getting-to-know-each-other stage. And obviously were both very young. Why on earth would you not let it go? Dont waste your precious time together on such frivolous thoughts.
2007-04-21 18:41:03 · answer #9 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
TO BE HONEST IF HE WOULD TO DO THAT NOW I WOULD CONSIDER IT CHEATING. BUT WHEN IT HAPPENED YOU WERE BARELY TOGETHER. TWO WEEKS AT BEST ISN'T EXACTLY A TOTALLY COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP.
BUT YOU HAVE LET GO BECAUSE YOU ENDED UP CONTINUING THE RELATIONSHIP AND GETTING MARRIED TO HIM. SO YOUR JUST HUNG UP ON SOMETHING THAT REALLY DOESN'T EXIST. IF IT WERE REALLY A BIG DEAL TO YOU, YOU WOULD OF ENDED THINGS A LONG TIME AGO.
STOP LIVING IN THE PAST. HE HAS OBVIOUSLY MADE UP FOR HIS MISTAKE MORE THAN HE HAS NEEDED TO.
2007-04-21 19:11:04 · answer #10 · answered by 3whiskerbiscuits 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋