A husband is:
Considerate of his wifes feelings.
Trusts his wife.
Allows her freedom because he trusts her.
Holds her above all others.
Allows her equal voice in family decisions regarding EVERYTHING including money.
Does not belittle her in front of others.
Does not demean her in anyway.
Treats her with the respect that all wives deserve.
2007-04-21 14:28:57
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answer #1
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answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7
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First and formost ,in marriage,if it is important to the one it should be important to the other.If your spouse doesn't compromise or is dictatorial,he or she isn't interested if you are happy or not. When husbands accuse their wives or vice versa of being a nag then maybe they should consider treating their spouses like a thouroughbred.There should be non-sexual expressions of love, sitting down next to you and holding your hand,kissing you on the back of your neck,spontaneous hugs and compliments .A relationship where these expressions only occur as a prelude to sex are selfish. Happiness is things we do for each other without expectations in return. Love is patient and kind ,not dictatorial and overbearing and selfish. I don't know why it is that marriage gives some people feelings of power and control and why these same people don't realize that love,kindness and sensitivity must be part of leadership. Some people just don't seem to know how to show their love. My husband could show all the right feelings to everyone else but tried to control his wife and children without giving them the kindness they so needed. God bless you for the changes that obviously need to take place in your marriage.
2007-04-21 14:58:08
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answered by wonder woman 5
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Here is what my wife likes.
1. We try to make 15 minutes available nearly every day to just chat in private. generally right after dinner and we set a timer. I really try to listen duirng this short time, and sometimes I open up as well.
2. I try to be kind.
3. I definitely help with the kids and around the house.
4. I often think of things that will make her happy and try to do those things.
Other side. I know I don't do as much with the kids/house as she does. Sometimes I get too focused on what I am doing and do not hear her or listen well.
I will say in closing that the relationship works well if both ppl do not take each other for granted and treat each other like they want to be treated.
2007-04-21 14:32:49
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answered by toledogolf 4
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Someone who is angry all the time or controlling, will never be able to make someone happy. I've only been married for 9 months, but my parents have been married for 42 years. My parents compromise. That's what its all about, that and communication. Listening to the other and sometimes doing things you don't really want to do to make the other happy is absolutely necessary. My husband does little things for me. Sends me sweet text messages or leaves voice messages. He gives me flowers. And he spends time with me. I can't really ask for anything else. .
2007-04-21 14:30:21
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answered by TMarie 3
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My husband adores me. He tells me I'm beauitful...oh...every hour or so...I catch him staring at me. We call eachother "babe" He rarely calls me Sarah.
He never makes me feel like i'm wasting his time, and although we have arguments, and at times have fought pretty hard, they were mostly due to misunderstanding...(me misunderstanding him) He tries so hard, works so hard...is raising my two kids from another marriage as his own, and never complains. He also makes tender love to me 4-5 nights a week, and always makes sure I"m satisfied first.
Today we spent the day shopping and cleaning the house together...He vacuumed the whole house, and just watching him, made me love him more. Right now as we speak, he's changing a poopy diaper, and that in itself makes me happy.
He's amazing. Thanks for reminding me.
2007-04-21 14:43:20
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answered by sincerelysarah117 3
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I don't know the answer but anger and control are a big issue....hard to be happy if he was controlling you and always angry...To have a good relationship takes lots of love, understanding and most of all communication....Wish I had it with my ex too....
2007-04-21 14:30:02
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answered by JustWant2B 5
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maybe you just didnt have the same outlook on life i think if you are going to get married you really should question if your morals, values etc are similar or are going to be a problem in the future. i dont think there is an answer to what makes a happy marriage it depends on the couple everyone is different
2007-04-21 14:27:20
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answered by Anonymous
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Husbands ask/should ask their wives what makes them happy. Just simple conversation. Help in the kitchen, help picking up, going to the store f/them. Buying them a surprise every now and then......whatever floats their boat.
2007-04-21 14:36:08
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answered by prouddaddy 6
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I spent many years trying to make my wife happy, and it just dragged us both down.
You cannot _make_ someone happy.
I try to be a good husband, I love my family. If my wife asks for support in something, I will try to provide it. But I cannot make her feel something, and I cannot make her change her outlooks if they are causing her problems.
2007-04-21 18:12:01
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answered by kheserthorpe 7
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It has to be a combination of material and non-material things. They have to show affection, respect, thoughtfulness, responsibility, and fun. I won't be happy with someone who gives me money but who is so boring stiff. I won't be happy even if he is the sexiest stud if he doesn't show me respect, attention, or is an ***.
2007-04-21 14:49:24
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answered by taray 1
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