Whoo..I'm so hurt right now..but anyhow I met this guy at my gym he was a personal trainer, and basically he asked me out when I intially met him, but I didn't take him up on his offer, so a few months past, and I asked him to join me at starbucks, he told me he was busy, then we put it off and he told me he was too broke, so thogught to myself, okay I'm not messing with tim because he['s flaky, so i see him at the gym about three weeks ago and he asks me out again...and he calls me a few days later and tells me his uncle and close friend died, and that when he sees me at the gym, he'll let me know when we can hang out again..so a few days laster I see him, and he text messages me, asking me "How come i didn't speak to him? And I'm thinking Huh...but you were training? So today,.I just ask him flat out if there is anyone at the current moment that he likes more than a friend" and he tells me that there is and she's his top myspace friend..so i ask him if he likes me more than a frie
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and he tells me that "He can't say that he do" and goes on to say he isn't attracted to me in that way, but does say that he does find me to be very good looking and cool, but he just doesn;t see me in that way...so I'm feeling like crap. what should I do?
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I know he's 25, still lives at home with hos parents, and is a sunday school teacher..but he is definetly is a good catch don't you think?
2007-04-21 18:22:53 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No. A good catch has cut the apron strings and is independent. Not to mention honest...
2007-04-21 20:00:07 · answer #1 · answered by DJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good catch? He is an adult, lives at home with his parents, doesn't have a real job and isn't interested in you? This sounds like George from Seinfeld, while fictional was a loser!!!
So he isn't interested in you, therefore, you want to belong to a club who wouldn't have you as a member which makes this guy a good catch? No, he is not a good catch.
As a guy, I would never introduce a woman to a guy who 1)Lives at home with his parents, 2)Doesn't have a real job, 3)Can't afford Starbucks, 4)Leads people on because he uses them as a possible back-up plan if his Top Myspace girl isn't available.
Send this luggage back to the airport, it doesn't have your name on it. Move on!
2007-04-22 01:32:16 · answer #2 · answered by jumpingrightin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a good catch in my book. He sounds way too wishy-washy. Also, you need to be proud of yourself and take care of yourself by setting some minimium requirements for anyone you date. I would not go out with anyone over 21 (unless he is a full time college student with a good GPA) who did not have the following minimium things going for them: 1) A full time real job - not a part-time minimium wage job 2) A reliable form of transportation, unless you live in a large city where most of the population depends on public transportation, like NYC 3) His own place - not living with his parents. That's a real big one to me. He has to be able to take care of himself and not be dependant on his mom for the routine things in life - meals, laundry, etc. I think if you are old enough to date a guy seriously, you shouldn't even consider dating someone you might get serious about who has less than this. Make sure they can bring to the table what you deserve - and what your future kids will deserve. You will have a lot less heartache and bad relationships in the future if you will do this. Other things can be worked out - these are basic responsibilities that every man should be able to take care of. Don't waste your time on anything less.
2007-04-22 01:45:26 · answer #3 · answered by Deedee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lucky you. You found out this guy can really send mixed messages before you became involved with him. Be polite when you see him, and do not get drawn into being his number two or back-up. And no, good catches don't lead people on, aren't wishy-washy about what they want, and aren't too broke for Starbucks, no matter how attractive they may be.
2007-04-22 01:31:27 · answer #4 · answered by smallbizperson 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, hon, but it sound as if he has a stupid way of trying to pick up clients to train to me...these guys have to recrute their own business, and it sounds as if that is what he is trying to do. You have gotten caught up in the middle of a clumsy attempt for this guy to take your money for training..make no bones about it. And he hasn't got enough money to buy coffee????why in the world would you be interested in him anyway? This guy is a loser, not a catch.
2007-04-22 01:30:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A good catch? Hardly. He sounds like a game player. But then again, maybe he just wanted to be friends with you to begin with and you took it for more than what it really was.
2007-04-22 01:28:28 · answer #6 · answered by Maricel S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ummmm...NO! Take my word for it, you don't need the hassle. Write off Mr. Wrong and go find Mr. Right! This guy has issues and believe him when he says that he isn't attracted to you in that way. Good luck in finding someone else.
2007-04-22 01:31:32 · answer #7 · answered by Mich Mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not bother with this guy.....he is wishy washy.....shoot he may even be married or engaged....his uncle and best friend died at the same time.....what an excuse....it sounds like he could not get away from someone
2007-04-22 02:01:50 · answer #8 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, he done told you he isn't attracted to you "in that way". In other words, he's just not into you. What more do you need in order to be convinced? If he really liked you, he wouldn't play this stupid game of hide and seek. Move on and forget about him.
2007-04-22 01:33:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is absolutely not a good catch. He is undecisive, and sort of sounds like a womanizer. He's just messing with you. Drop him.
2007-04-22 01:32:40 · answer #10 · answered by Allie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋